To think I’m losing this pregnancy :-(

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Found out I was pregnant Monday morning after a long battle with infertility and being told it was unlikely we’d conceive even with IVF. As you can imagine, I couldn’t believe my eyes (had to go out and get a digital to see the word pregnant with my own eyes, which it did!)

I was 11DPO when I found out, due AF tomorrow. Today I’m 13 DPO, did a test this morning and lines are still strong, but since Monday evening I’ve been having brown discharge intermittently when I wipe.

Last night there was a pinky discharge when I wiped, this morning after I did my test there was brown.

I know there’s nothing I can do but wait and see what happens I’m just gutted. I’ve wanted this for so long and when I got that strong line on Monday and positive digital I swear I was SO unbelievably happy but since the brown discharge started I’ve been a nervous mess.

I’m just convinced I’m going to come on tomorrow and it’ll have been a chemical 😔

I’ve attached some photos of my tests, should the lines be darker by now? Top Clear Blue is Monday’s test, bottom clear blue is yesterday’s test, didn’t have one for this morning. The others are easy @ homes from the last couple of days and then the one on its own not on paper is from this morning.

Unfortunately no one can tell you either way but I wanted to say that I had brown discharge and even fresh red bleeding during both of my pregnancies from very early on and continuing throughout and I have two children sleeping soundly in their beds. It’s not ‘normal’ to bleed during pregnancy but it not uncommon either. It’s scary as hell though. Good luck.

I was going on holiday and it was a toss up between bring a test or a cup. I had enough bleeding so I brought the cup. He's now almost 2.
He was a natural pregnancy but I had bleeding with all my IVF pregnancies too. I did lose some but actually the two that I had most bleeding from are my successes. The fact you have a positive test and bleeding is a great sign it's implantation bleeding and someone is doing a good job of snuggling in. Fingers crossed.

AF due today. I know pregnancy is just one long, milestone and often people can’t really relax until the baby is born, or at the very least 12 weeks. But I just feel like this is the first milestone that I need to overcome, AF not showing (well it obviously is, but I will obviously feel some relief if she doesn’t show her face today)

Praying to all the gods.

No extra advice but got absolutely everything crossed for you! xxx

Thinking of you. I started bleeding red blood very early on, but pregnancy went on and I have an 8 year old now. Was a very worrying time. Take care.

Thinking of you

My mother had bleeding for weeks on end in the first trimester with my eldest. Doctors told her to take it easy and he’s now pushing 40 (and a total bellend but I’m sure that’s not related, don’t worry!)

Wishing you all the best

Hope everything is OK OP

My wife bled heavily with our first child (although she had had a miscarriage previously). GP said we'd lost the baby and had a scan to confirm; and there DD was, heart still beating.... she's nearly 30 now!

Don't give up hope

Best of luck, I had spotting at 6 weeks after IVF and it was terrifying, but after a few days it stopped and the pregnancy continued successfully. I don't think there is anything you can do except wait and see.

Brown spotting in all 3 of mine. Usually when a period was due. All 3 are here and adults. X

Keeping everything crossed for you OP, I truly hope you go on to have a healthy pregnancy.
Brown blood is old blood, so hopefully nothing to worry about there. I also had a mix of brown and red blood when I was pregnant on and off for a few weeks, worried myself sick but the outcome was my 1 year old who is currently climbing my leg.
Best of luck, sending positive thoughts

Hi Op, I was another one with bleeding during pregnancy which lasted nearly 6 weeks. I was told not to worry unless I had clots then I should return to hospital. In the end delivered a health 9lb 13oz baby boy. I hope it all works out for you x

Hi all,

Just an update, AF didn’t show her ugly face yesterday thank god. I did another test this morning and it was dark and strong, I’ve attached a picture of what it was like at 5 mins. It’s got darker since but they say don’t read it after 5 mins.

So, my Q is, I’ve never done this before, should I be booking in for a blood test, letting anyone medically know I’m pregnant or just leave it for another couple of weeks?

Congratulations OP, I hope all goes smoothly for you. Your GP surgery should be able to advise you on the next steps x

Congratulations!

I self referred to the maternity services at my local hospital when I was about 5 weeks pregnant. They then arranged my booking in appointment for about 8 weeks and dating scan at around 12 weeks.

I understand self referrals are the way it works in most trusts. You don't need to go via GP.
If you know which hospital you'd want to give birth in, have a look on their website

Congrats op. Looks like the brown could be implantation bleeding! Totally up to you when you call the Gp. Some areas it's a self referral to the midwife team. Nothing happens until around 8-10 weeks when you have a booking in and get an appointment for your 12 weeks scan.

In your sites I'd keep it to myself for a few weeks just to digest the news and then call them about 6-7 weeks. For some people they need to wait until they feel symptoms as it's hard to trust a test when you don't feel any different.

I should add that you can go via your GP but you don't necessarily need to

Congratulations

So assuming you have no medical issues which affect your pregnancy, it’s unlikely you’ll get a blood test. That’s why we did an early scan, because I didn’t have any symptoms and I couldn’t believe I was pregnant.

You can speak to your GP, or simply refer yourself to the maternity unit you want to be looked after by.

Just a warning, pre 12 weeks, there’s no medical involvement at all, apart from your booking appointment, so it does feel like doctors / midwives aren’t interested, but it changes as your pregnancy progresses.

Congratulations again!

It’s also up to you who you tell and when. At the start, I only told those who I would also tell if anything went wrong.

Congratulations OP! Some trusts let you self refer, others (mine) you have to go through your GP. Mine wasn’t interested until you’re 7 weeks, but it’s worth calling and seeing what they say. They’ll he ball rolling, or tell you how to self refer.

Thank you. Given the fact I’m still so worried something is going to go wrong (and it very well could, I only missed my period yesterday!) I’m going to wiat another couple of weeks before calling. I think that’s sensible.

Congratulations on your pregnancy.

I had bleeding or spotting on all three of my pregnancies. For the first I gushed blood all over the floor in A and E after going in with bleeding at 13 weeks. That 'baby' is now a grumpy at times, sweet at others sleeping 16 year old upstairs.

I bled less but still spotted on the other 2 pregnancies and they are 14 and 12 year olds at school.

I remember saying to myself

If I get to 12 weeks I can stop worrying
If I get to 24 weeks I can stop worrying
When they are born I can drop worrying

When they get through the risk of cot death I can stop worrying.

I am still worrying about them.

I was classed as a high risk pregnancy but even then apart from changing over my medication I had no other tests or scans until my booking in appointment at 12 weeks.

As for letting people know, I phoned my consultant at 5 weeks and told the GP when I took the paperwork from the consultant at around 6 - 7 weeks, then had my booking in at 12 weeks with my scan at the hospital.

Fab update OP. I'd say what you've experienced is implantation bleeding.

It's almost a decade since I had my last so things will have changed, others can better advise on what the steps are in terms of medical monitoring for pregnancy these days.

Good luck & keep us updated