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To think I’m losing this pregnancy :-(

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Pearldrops04 · 15/12/2021 07:28

Found out I was pregnant Monday morning after a long battle with infertility and being told it was unlikely we’d conceive even with IVF. As you can imagine, I couldn’t believe my eyes (had to go out and get a digital to see the word pregnant with my own eyes, which it did!)

I was 11DPO when I found out, due AF tomorrow. Today I’m 13 DPO, did a test this morning and lines are still strong, but since Monday evening I’ve been having brown discharge intermittently when I wipe.

Last night there was a pinky discharge when I wiped, this morning after I did my test there was brown.

I know there’s nothing I can do but wait and see what happens Sad I’m just gutted. I’ve wanted this for so long and when I got that strong line on Monday and positive digital I swear I was SO unbelievably happy but since the brown discharge started I’ve been a nervous mess.

I’m just convinced I’m going to come on tomorrow and it’ll have been a chemical 😔

I’ve attached some photos of my tests, should the lines be darker by now? Top Clear Blue is Monday’s test, bottom clear blue is yesterday’s test, didn’t have one for this morning. The others are easy @ homes from the last couple of days and then the one on its own not on paper is from this morning.

To think I’m losing this pregnancy :-(
To think I’m losing this pregnancy :-(
To think I’m losing this pregnancy :-(
OP posts:
SnapCackleFlop · 15/12/2021 10:12

I had something similar, I forget exactly when but early stages and everything turned out perfectly fine (ds now 11 😊). I know it isn’t always fine and it’s torture to have to wait and see but know that it doesn’t necessarily mean the worst. 💐💐💐

honeybee1986 · 15/12/2021 10:13

Sounds like implantation bleeding as you are around the same time period would be due .
I had this with my daughter and stopped after a few days . Fingers crossed it all works out for you . Sending positive thoughts xxx

TheNoodlesIncident · 15/12/2021 10:18

@Pearldrops04

Also, no symptoms yet either apart from I’m burping all the time but that could just be a coincidence. I think If I was feeling sick, really sore boobs etc Id feel better, but suppose it could be a bit early the day before my period is due for those type of symptoms.
You might be burping a lot because you're nervously swallowing (air) a lot... I never had symptoms like nausea at all but when I had a MC I definitely felt I just wasn't pregnant any more. I couldn't define what was different but knew I didn't feel as I had. Scans confirmed that there wasn't a heartbeat/it was no longer viable, but as one midwife pointed out (I knew her personally) that at least I knew I could get pregnant, which I did find comforting and I got pregnant again within a couple of months after.

Fingers crossed for you Flowers Do try to keep busy and hold off on testing for a bit, it doesn't help your state of mind Brew Cake

Mydogsnotfat · 15/12/2021 10:18

I too bled early on but have two very grown up children

AwaAnBileYerHeid · 15/12/2021 10:21

As everyone else says, brown blood is normal, it means it's old blood. Even a bit of implantation bleeding is normal. I know nothing anyone says will stop you worrying though. All the best op, let us know how you get on.

Fimilo · 15/12/2021 10:43

Have everything crossed for you, I had bleeding very very early on in my pregnancy. Was pink and I was convinced it was a misscarige. I actually bled right through to 20 weeks, have a 5 month old baby now. Giving baby dust

SunsetSmartmeter · 15/12/2021 10:53

Hello OP. Reading your post took me back to a time when I was in your shoes. I wish there was something I could say to make it better but I know from experience that there isn't really. You have my sympathy, and my empathy.

For what it's worth, I had exactly the same sort of discharge/bleeding at the same stage you're at with a fertility treatment baby who was desperately wanted. I was 37 at the time. That baby is now 9, I'm 46 and knackered from bringing her and her brother up Wink

Sadly no-one can say this definitely will work out the way you hope but as you can see several of us have been where you are now and had a positive outcome. I'm wishing you all the luck in the world. Take care x

peachgreen · 15/12/2021 11:03

I spotted with both my pregnancies - one ended in miscarriage, one is now almost four. It's agonising, I know, but it's impossible to tell and you really do just have to try and distract yourself as best you can while you wait. xx

PhoenixBlaze · 15/12/2021 11:23

I also had a lot of brown bleeding during my first pregnancy. It started around the same time as you (thought it was my period, we weren't TTC) and went on until around 10 weeks! It was a big worry for me at the time, it always seemed to be worse when I was more active, but it calmed down and all was fine (DD1 is 8 now!)
Wishing you the best of luck Flowers

KittensWearingWoollyMittens · 15/12/2021 11:32

I had bleeding early on with both of mine, brown blood. They are both fine, one is 23 and the other 14 Flowers

itwasntaparty · 15/12/2021 11:34

I've got twins (after two MMCs) so I was somewhat nervous. The lines were never dark and I didn't get any symptoms until around 6 weeks.

Wishing you all the best.

Rrrob · 15/12/2021 11:39

Hey @Pearldrops04 sending you love. I am in the same position. Got a positive test yesterday and started cramping this morning….feels remarkably similar to a mc I had in July. Pink/ light brown bleeding is likely to be ok so I really hope it is. Wishing you a healthy pregnancy.

irishfarmer · 15/12/2021 12:16

It's so stressful in early pregnancy. I know it is not possible but try not to think about it. And if you are going in loops and loops go to the GP and ask for HCG tests to be done 48 hours apart to see if it is rising. x

HeyDugeesCakeBadge · 15/12/2021 12:42

I had exactly the same discharge in my second pregnancy and I was convinced I was miscarrying (it happened for weeks and then went red) - I went to the EPU and I had a haematoma and needed rest but I have a beautiful 5 year old now so there is hope.

BeenHereForAges · 15/12/2021 12:49

This can happen in normal pregnancies op. Fingers and toes crossed for you here.

Elsiebear90 · 15/12/2021 12:51

Your lines could have been darker the day before because you were less hydrated, and a small amount of bleeding could just be implantation, so I really wouldn’t worry (although I understand why you are) yet.

ChocolateQuiltedShitpig · 15/12/2021 12:55

I just came to say that it sounds like implantation bleeding but obviously can't say for sure. how many weeks would you be? could you book an early scan for peace of mind

Notwithittoday · 15/12/2021 13:01

Calm down. I’ve had multiple chemical pregnancies and later miscarriages, two live births. For a start those lines are not those of a chemical pregnancy. All My chemicals were fainter than those. Secondly I had brown, pink and red blood with both my healthy pregnancies that went on until 12 weeks off and on. Don’t forget you’ve got a rich blood lining there and a baby is bedding itself in. It is often totally normal to get bleeding. Try to think positively.

peoniesandpastels · 15/12/2021 13:04

I bled early in both my pregnancies, and I have two healthy children. My first I spotted for a week, then had a massive bleed where I was passing tangerine sized slots and had to rush to A&E. They scanned me and she was fine, and the bleeding slowed down and stopped altogether after another week. My second I just had spotting for about 10 days.

I worried the whole time, both times, that I was miscarrying. Bleeding in pregnancy is more common than a lot of people realise and it doesn't always mean the worst, though of course it can. The waiting is so hard, but I think you're right to try and keep your mind on other things.

DeepaBeesKit · 15/12/2021 13:07

Honestly the best thing you can do is STOP testing, stay calm, and wait a couple more weeks.

I understand op, I really do (3 miscarriages here) but try try try to resist the temptation to test early.
Early pregnancy tests cause nothing but heartache.

Wait til a week or two after a missed period.

Greenrubber · 15/12/2021 13:23

Fingers crossed for you! It's so common to have bleeding in pregnancy and like you say there's nothing you can do about

Take each day as it comes and try and rest!

TheKeatingFive · 15/12/2021 13:25

Those lines look good and I've had a chemical, so have a point of comparison.

Brown blood can be caused by surges in oestrogen (I think) and/or irritation of the cervix.

Try to relax. I know it's hard, but it's hard to know what's going on in very early pregnancy.

londonrach · 15/12/2021 13:57

Brown blood is old blood so don't give up. Holding your hand as tests give you hope. Keeping fingers crossed x

USaYwHatNow · 15/12/2021 13:58

If the bleeding is painless I wouldn't be concerned. I'm a midwife and recently miscarried my first pregnancy (first try too!) I had really bad cramping pretty much as soon as I found out I was pregnant, with no bleeding. Then I had brown spotting I assumed was implantation, but in my medical brain I knew it was too late to be implantation. That bleeding then got better, and it was only my Hcg levels that let on to the fact I was miscarrying, with a full blown miscarriage starting the day after, but I was in pain a lot of the time.

Ple3be reassured that a lot of women will have some kind of painless bleeding. I would be concerned if you have strong cramps, and fresh red blood.

Also, if you can, stop taking pregnancy tests (I didn't take my own advice I know how hard it can be!) but I actually tested positive right up until about 4 or 5 days after my miscarriage so please don't waste anymore money!

Fingers crossed for you

Katela18 · 15/12/2021 14:00

I had this in my pregnancy at around the same stage as you. I am now 20 weeks pregnant.

I know it is so so worrying but there are many other reasons for bleeding / spotting in pregnancy.

I'll be keeping everything crossed for you.