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To think I’m losing this pregnancy :-(

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Pearldrops04 · 15/12/2021 07:28

Found out I was pregnant Monday morning after a long battle with infertility and being told it was unlikely we’d conceive even with IVF. As you can imagine, I couldn’t believe my eyes (had to go out and get a digital to see the word pregnant with my own eyes, which it did!)

I was 11DPO when I found out, due AF tomorrow. Today I’m 13 DPO, did a test this morning and lines are still strong, but since Monday evening I’ve been having brown discharge intermittently when I wipe.

Last night there was a pinky discharge when I wiped, this morning after I did my test there was brown.

I know there’s nothing I can do but wait and see what happens Sad I’m just gutted. I’ve wanted this for so long and when I got that strong line on Monday and positive digital I swear I was SO unbelievably happy but since the brown discharge started I’ve been a nervous mess.

I’m just convinced I’m going to come on tomorrow and it’ll have been a chemical 😔

I’ve attached some photos of my tests, should the lines be darker by now? Top Clear Blue is Monday’s test, bottom clear blue is yesterday’s test, didn’t have one for this morning. The others are easy @ homes from the last couple of days and then the one on its own not on paper is from this morning.

To think I’m losing this pregnancy :-(
To think I’m losing this pregnancy :-(
To think I’m losing this pregnancy :-(
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5keletor · 15/12/2021 08:47

I know it's impossible not to worry, but don't assume the worst just yet. I've had bleeding in both my pregnancies, first was similar to you - brown blood early on that I was told was implantation bleeding.
Second, I had red spotting in the third trimester, for which they never found a definite explanation, but wasn't anything serious. They're now a perfectly fine toddler and baby, so it isn't always bad news.
I know it's early on, but could you call your midwife for advice?

Mermaidkisses · 15/12/2021 08:47

My daughter-in-law had exactly the same problem 15 months ago, after being told they could not have children, she fell pregnant. A few days later she started to have a discharge, bleeding, cramps and terrible morning sickness that lasted all day for 3 months. She still went on to have a beautiful baby girl who is nearly 6 months old now. Try not to worry (easier said than done) relax, rest as much as you can. Kat (my daughter-in-law) says she sends you all her love and positive thoughts - you will be celebrating a beautiful baby arriving before you know it.

black2black · 15/12/2021 08:50

We struggled for 2 years with infertility and miscarriages. When I got pregnant with DS2 I didn’t dare believe it could be true then when my period was due I started with brown spotting. I was convinced it was another miscarriage but after 2 days it stopped and I carried on to have a baby boy. I had brown spotting with my miscarriages but with DS the spotting was the same time my period would have came. Sounds like it could be the same for you.

LittleMG · 15/12/2021 08:53

Erm don’t give up just yet. Could be ok yet.

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Pearldrops04 · 15/12/2021 09:12

TBH, I haven’t told the drs or instructed a midwife etc yet because when I started getting the brown discharge on Monday I kinda thought what’s the point and left it. If I’m still pregnant next week then I will.

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Overthebow · 15/12/2021 09:13

It could go either way. You have strong positives for this stage, and bleeding/spotting doesn’t always mean bad news. I spotted for the whole of the first trimester and was terrified all the time but for me it was just normal abc everything was fine. There’s no way to know this early on so you’re going to have to wait and see what happens.

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Pearldrops04 · 15/12/2021 09:16

And sorry, thank you all so much for the kind words/ reassurance Flowers it really means a lot. It’s difficult because obviously no one knows apart from DH and he just keeps saying forget about it and concentrate on something else but it’s not as easy as that, especially when you work, alone, from home.

I appreciate all the supports though so thank you!

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Leslienope · 15/12/2021 09:17

I don't think the tests are anything to worry about - they can fluctuate, mine did with my daughter. I do very much hope it works out for you x

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Pearldrops04 · 15/12/2021 09:17

Also, sorry the easy@home from today is after an hour when it had dried. It wasn’t as dark as that in the initial 5 min testing time.

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MinkyWinky · 15/12/2021 09:18

Virtually holding your hand and hoping for the best for you Flowers

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Pearldrops04 · 15/12/2021 09:19

Also, no symptoms yet either apart from I’m burping all the time but that could just be a coincidence. I think If I was feeling sick, really sore boobs etc Id feel better, but suppose it could be a bit early the day before my period is due for those type of symptoms.

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Strangevipers · 15/12/2021 09:20

Hopefully the blood is implementation bleeding

Everything crossed for you

Christmas1988 · 15/12/2021 09:20

I had periods all through both my pregnancies, Brown discharge, bleeding, cramps the lots but ended up with two children. Don’t loose hope, bleeding in pregnancy is more common than you think. Positive thoughts!

PinkWednesdays · 15/12/2021 09:29

I’m so sorry you’re dealing with the stress of this. I had some brown discharge early on in my pregnancy, and didn’t show any symptoms of pregnancy until 7 weeks, and was then hit with sickness that lasted my entire pregnancy, so what you’ve said so far doesn’t mean it’s good or bad news. Unfortunately you just have to wait it out. Will keep my fingers crossed for you.

Asiama · 15/12/2021 09:29

Don't lose hope OP. I bled brown and pink (and once lots of red) on and off during between weeks 4-10, and they were fine. Keeping fingers crossed for you!

TheMooch · 15/12/2021 09:33
Flowers I'm another who bled all the way through pregnancies, brown, pink, bright red, sanitary towels full, clots. Anxiety overload but my child is now 13yrs old. I'm hoping your pregnancy is like mine xxxxx
asfuckedascanbe1224 · 15/12/2021 09:34

I had brown discharge at the beginning of both my pregnancies, don't worry! Brown is old blood being expelled. Stay strong and try to remain calm, it'll pass Thanks

cadburyegg · 15/12/2021 09:42

They look like strong positives to me OP.

I haven't struggled with infertility but I did have a miscarriage, got pregnant again and had bleeding on/off in the first trimester so I think I do understand a little how you feel. It's a waiting game and incredibly hard.

With my 3rd pregnancy when I had the bleeding, a couple of early scans showed that I had a hematoma, which is basically like a blood clot in the uterus. Then the 12 week scan showed that it had resolved. The result of that pregnancy is a 3 year old running rings round me as I type.

Thinking of you

coatilove · 15/12/2021 09:48

OP so sorry you're going through this.

As other posters said you need to wait it out but you're right it is the possibility of a miscarriage.

I think it's best to be realistic about that, as I've been in similar situation and trying to pretend it's not a possibility did me more harm when it turned out it was.

I hope for you it isn't but either way, sending hugs Flowers

Daisylookslost · 15/12/2021 09:54

I too had this with my successful pregnancy (after +test) for over 3 weeks, so I completely get how it can take the shine off! My doctor simply told me it could go either way. So it was just a case of waiting. I tried to take it as easy as possible while working. Used progesterone cream daily.
Managed to fall down stairs twice too Blush
Sending good wishes x

TheWitchersWife · 15/12/2021 09:57

I had quite a bit of brown and pink regularly throughout both my pregnancies.
I had a very small hole that was leaking blood, it was all fine and I had several scans to make sure.
I had implantation bleeding too.
I think some people just bleed a bit and because it's so scary the worst is always assumed. Good luck x

Somethingsnappy · 15/12/2021 10:02

Burping a lot is a common early pregnancy symptom OP. Nausea tends to come later. Keeping fingers crossed for you.

shouldistop · 15/12/2021 10:05

It could be implantation bleeding.
We tried for 15 months to conceive ds2 and the day I was due my period, I had enough bleeding that I thought it was starting (brown / light pink) but thought that was it starting. It went on for 3 days then stopped but never got any heavier so I took a test and I was pregnant. He's 1 now.

shouldistop · 15/12/2021 10:07

I burped a lot at the start with both of my boys. The sickness / nausea didn't start until 6 weeks

Janey3090 · 15/12/2021 10:08

Those positive tests look really strong, so perhaps it could be an implantation bleed.

Keeping everything crossed for you OP, sorry you are going through this worry it must be so difficult. Sending a virtual hand hold xx