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To think I’m losing this pregnancy :-(

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Pearldrops04 · 15/12/2021 07:28

Found out I was pregnant Monday morning after a long battle with infertility and being told it was unlikely we’d conceive even with IVF. As you can imagine, I couldn’t believe my eyes (had to go out and get a digital to see the word pregnant with my own eyes, which it did!)

I was 11DPO when I found out, due AF tomorrow. Today I’m 13 DPO, did a test this morning and lines are still strong, but since Monday evening I’ve been having brown discharge intermittently when I wipe.

Last night there was a pinky discharge when I wiped, this morning after I did my test there was brown.

I know there’s nothing I can do but wait and see what happens Sad I’m just gutted. I’ve wanted this for so long and when I got that strong line on Monday and positive digital I swear I was SO unbelievably happy but since the brown discharge started I’ve been a nervous mess.

I’m just convinced I’m going to come on tomorrow and it’ll have been a chemical 😔

I’ve attached some photos of my tests, should the lines be darker by now? Top Clear Blue is Monday’s test, bottom clear blue is yesterday’s test, didn’t have one for this morning. The others are easy @ homes from the last couple of days and then the one on its own not on paper is from this morning.

To think I’m losing this pregnancy :-(
To think I’m losing this pregnancy :-(
To think I’m losing this pregnancy :-(
OP posts:
Mummytotwonow · 15/12/2021 14:05

I had spotting very early on with both my pregnancies. Please try not to worry too much (easier said than done). Keep positive and hang in there X Flowers

PaternityLeave · 15/12/2021 15:41

I wish you all the best, it's such a difficult waiting game. I had light brown spotting from 15 DPO for 2 weeks, including 1 day where I had a couple of small red clots. I'm now in the third trimester.

I agree with PPs who suggest taking tests every second day rather than everyday if you want to track changes. I also found it helpful to take a picture at the time the test was meant to be read and comparing pictures to see the progression because the colour changes when it dries.

I did actually get blood HCG tests, however the reassurance was short lived because the red clots happened afterwards. That experience was why I decided to not have an early ultrasound privately and just waited for the NHS one at 12 weeks.

I have everything crossed for you and really hope you're able to distract yourself while you wait.

IncessantNameChanger · 15/12/2021 15:45

You have nice lines for so early on. Plus pink back to brown is a good sign. Try not to worry too much and distract yourself.

Think positive that you clearly can get pregnant. Congratulations

Chocolatewheatos · 15/12/2021 15:50

People often have what's called implantation bleeding at this stage. The lines are progressing well. It looks good. Keep calm, I have everything crossed for your little miracle baby.

LittleGwyneth · 15/12/2021 16:02

As others have said, there's no way of knowing, but it is the most awful time and I am beyond sorry you're going through it. There's every reason to believe that it's going to be fine, a bit of bleeding certainly doesn't mean it's time to give up hope.

I would stop testing for a few days, then take a first response early response with first morning urine at the end of the week. The line should be nice and strong. Try not to test obsessively (though I am a massive hypocrite for saying that and did not follow my own advice in the least).

So much love luck and baby dust Flowers

Buddhabowl · 15/12/2021 16:06

I'm 9 weeks pregnant. I had spotting just before my period was due and it started again about 4 days after my period was due. It lasted 10 days of a tiny bit each day, sometimes pink sometimes brown, never heavy.
Had a scan at 7 weeks and baby is fine. It could be an impending miscarriage but I just want to reassure you that it might not be. Good luck xxx

OhdearOhdearOhdearIndeed · 15/12/2021 16:22

With my first son I literally gushed with blood 3x during the first 12 weeks as I had an SCH. With my second I still had some bleeding, but not as bad.

Brown blood could be implantation. You may even get a little bit of red as in my case. It is literally 50/50 chance, which is awful, but I just don't want you to think the worst.

I don't think pregnancy test lines will tell you about miscarrying, but blood HCG levels might. Even with my first they didn't increase as much as expected in the very first few weeks and it was ok in the end.

Fingers crossed for you OP.

Original poster
Pearldrops04 · 15/12/2021 17:39

Thank you all for your lovely comments Flowers had some brown spotting again this morning, but nothing since, yet.

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mcmooberry · 15/12/2021 19:00

It's a hideous waiting game even without bleeding! Those lines look very robust to me so fingers crossed.
I am another one who had a bit of bleeding in both pregnancies - first time I thought it was my period and reset my Clearblue Fertility monitor to day 1 of next cycle! 2nd time I went from being on top of the world to bottom of the world fearing the worst but all was well - so no reason to be pessimistic!
Wishing you the very best of luck for your miracle pregnancy. xx

Notonthenewrug · 15/12/2021 19:46

I'm so sorry to hear the worry you are going through.. unfortunately it's just a waiting game. I've had 3 pregnancies, on my second I had brown discharge and at my 12 week scan I found out I had miscarried (hadn't had this on my other 2 pregnancies). Also, taking pregnancy tests daily isn't always a reliable indicator, as I had a missed miscarr9, so although I had lost the baby and had the discharge, my body still thought it was pregnant and I still had strong positive pregnancy tests. I know people can bleed during pregnancy and have a healthy baby. Maybe book an early scan in a few weeks if you want some reassurance prior to the dating scan. Good luck.

FaLaLaLaLaaaar · 15/12/2021 19:48

I had a MC which started with bleeding around 8 weeks.

The month after I fell pregnant again. At around the 5 week mark I had bleeding which started brown then changed to red. I was sure it was happening again and cried many tears. The EPU scanned me at 6 weeks and seeing the little sac and pole on the screen was a big help, although they couldn’t tell me if it would all be ok, it was and she’s now a beautiful big girl.

Bleeding around 5 weeks is very common, I know how scary it can be, but all you can do is hang in there and hope. Sending the very best of luck to you Flowers

MrsWhites · 15/12/2021 19:52

When I was pregnant with my son I had brown or pink discharge at 4 weeks, 8 weeks and 12 weeks in line with when my periods would have been.

Hope everything goes well for you x

2bazookas · 15/12/2021 20:24

I actually spotted red blood during my first pregnancy. (After it had been confirmed.). I was terrified. Then it stopped, and that baby is a very healthy 50 yr old.

Siameasy · 15/12/2021 20:30

I had pink then brown around 6w and then full on heavy period with bits of liver bleeding at 14w. I was convinced the latter was a MC, the hospital said it was inevitable but the culprit is snoring in her bunk bed now.

Newmumatlast · 15/12/2021 20:39

@Pearldrops04

I’m actually on my way to London for a meeting! I was going to cancel, but actually I’m better if I’m kept busy, I WFH so the temptation to just sit worrying and constantly do tests is there!
Try not to keep testing as with a missed miscarriage you can show positive due to the hormones remaining. So it can be positive or negative either way in terms of miscarriage and worrying so much testing wont help. Just rest as much as you can, get alot of sleep, eat well and you can only see what happens. It is horrible but this doesn't mean a bad outcome xx
FreeBritnee · 15/12/2021 20:41

I don’t think anyone is going to be able to tell you at this stage but I think you have every reason to be hopeful 🤞

hopsalong · 15/12/2021 20:45

Adding to all the others saying that you have every reason to be hopeful. My first (unplanned) pregnancy was like this. I got a positive test, felt ambivalent, started having spotting, assumed I wasn't pregnant and went out to a party and drank a lot. Next morning the spotting had stopped. Then it started up again. Went on like that until about 8 weeks. When I had a chemical pregnancy it was completely different: quite bad cramps, even at only four weeks, then red and very heavy bleeding.
In another pregnancy I had no spotting but I did have a crampless bright red bleed at about six weeks. This was a subchorionic hematoma, and had vanished by 12 weeks.
Hoping for the best for you.

SerendipitySunshine · 15/12/2021 20:54

I had similar bleeding with this pregnancy, now 20 weeks. Fingers crossed for you.

WhenISnappedAndFarted · 15/12/2021 21:01

My Mum had similar, she had 9 miscarriages, fell pregnant and something similar happened. I'm still here 33 years later Smile

Good luck OP Flowers

Sarahlou252 · 15/12/2021 21:12

It's such an anxious waiting game I really feel for you.
I had a big bleed on the day af was due, and lots of brown spotting on & off until week 16, I was convinced I was going to miscarry but I didn't and everything went fine after that. Good luck x

Crayfishforyou · 15/12/2021 21:12

When I was pregnant with the one baby I managed to have I had brown spotting for a couple of weeks. And I felt as though I had horrendous PMT.

Notsomerryandbright · 15/12/2021 21:21

Keeping everything crossed for you op

Cherrytart23 · 15/12/2021 22:37

I had what was like a 3 day period when pregnant with dd thought it was my period untill I missed next month's only when I had my scan and got given the dates I realised it wasn't a 3day period but implantation as I was further along than thought so could be implantation.

DixieSun · 15/12/2021 23:08

I had brown blood which was implantation bleeding. Good luck.

WTFUterus · 15/12/2021 23:21

I had 3 days of brown bleeding at 4w+3 so right around when AF was due, turned out to be implantation and baby is now 11 months old.
Fingers crossed for you