Twat at the softplay car park

[CheeseFiend36]

Leaving soft play this morning and walking towards our car. A family had parked next to us and were getting ready to go in. Their car was parked really close to my right side which is where toddler DS's car seat is. I opened his door really gently but couldn't open it wide enough to get him in without making some contact with their car, so I rested it on their left side passenger door and I made sure I did it softly, even then it was still tight. Man from the family comes up behind me while I was strapping DS in and says "please can you take your door off my car". I turned around and politely asked "sorry?", He repeated it. I said "I've done it gently", he then started walking off and said sarcastically "oh that makes it ok then", I said loudly back "well if you gave me some space I wouldn't have had to", which he ignored

Was I being unreasonable to have leaned my car door against his so that I had some space to put my child in? I wasn't tutting or being arsey or anything, but I'm not sure what he expected me to do

In that situation I would simply have either moved my car out a bit, or asked the other driver politely to move. I just wouldn't want to risk causing damage to the other car.

Cant believe people are defending this man- he sounds so aggressive and entitled. I can’t imagine speaking to anyone like that, and can’t believe how moronically precious people can be about their cars. You weren’t causing damage, you were taking care and you didn’t deserve to be heckled .

@Blah1881

Cant believe people are defending this man- he sounds so aggressive and entitled. I can’t imagine speaking to anyone like that, and can’t believe how moronically precious people can be about their cars. You weren’t causing damage, you were taking care and you didn’t deserve to be heckled .

He doesn't sound at all aggressive

I think the sarcastic bite back to to OP is unnecessary and aggressive. If I were in that’s mans position, and had seen a woman struggling on her own with a toddler because I had parked too close, I would have apologised and offered to move, whilst being friendly and putting her at ease. I don’t live in a world where sarcastic bite backs are ok and car doors come first.

Those saying you wouldn't risk damaging the car, I would try my best not to and would have asked him politely to move but essentially I would rather risk damaging someone's car than put my children at risk. Some of the suggestions to solve the problem are frankly ridiculous and dangerous. And I agree if I were the man I have asked if you needed me to move the car, people have asked me this before and I do the same for them.

To be fair if someone leaned their door against my car I'd also ask them not too. Just as if someone was still at car and parked super close I'd ask them if they wouldn't mind reversing out for a moment so I could get my child in.
I don't see why you didn't ask? Yes they should have been more aware of the space around them, but you were both unreasonable. They were no more twatty than you.

Why not ask if he could move his car slightly, not just assume he’d do it or possibly damage his car with your door, even resting softly can damage it.

Was he within the marked bay OP? Or was he over the lines?

YANBU he should have left you enough room and pp saying you should have moved your car with two small kids are mad.

How would he know how much room to leave? I've parked dead in the middle of my spot when another car is almost on the line, had no problems getting in and out myself, yet had death stares when I've got back to my car at the same time as the other car occupants. Maybe it would be no problem to him to put children in through the other side door or another option and he didn't think it was a big deal.

If you were parked in the middle of your space and he was parked close to you with a gap on the other side, then he's the twat and I would have done the same - learn to park.

If the issue was him having a mahoosive car but he'd otherwise parked properly, I would try to do it from the other side, but if it was difficult I wouldn't go out of my way. Having a big car that doesn't fit into into regular parking spaces is a choice (and I say that as someone with a slightly bigger than average car).

Why wouldn’t you just move your car to give you more space? I wouldn’t like someone having their car door touching my car either! You’re one of those really annoying people

@nothingcanhurtmewithmyeyesshut

Make sure you bang it on the way back. Hard.

Seriously damage someone car on purpose because you don't think they've parked right
What an example to set to children no wonder societies fucked

You’re one of those really annoying people

No - the really annoying people are the twats who can’t park properly.

Oh come on the man was a dick, a little bit of tolerance would go a long way

@FlibberdyGibbett

Why wouldn’t you just move your car to give you more space? I wouldn’t like someone having their car door touching my car either! You’re one of those really annoying people

You’re one of those inconsiderate people who park to close to the car next to you.

Fucksake, people need to park properly. I say that as someone who's pretty shit at it, frankly, but I can see when I've parked like a dick and I get back in and do it right. That's what the driver should have done instead of carping at OP, who was clearly struggling to get her two kids into a car with less space than she should have had because of his lack of consideration.
I daresay moving the car enough to give herself more room (with 2 young children? No chance) would have caused inconvenience to other drivers anyway.

@rwalker Oh yes, I forgot this was mumsnet where every joke needs a trigger warning...

🤦‍♀️🤷🏼‍♀️What is it with MNers who answer AIBU with labelling the OP entitled,
Clearly she’s not otherwise she’d have Not posted here to ask if she was BU.
Does it make you feel good and big to just spout out labels designed to provoke the Op
👏👏👏👏🙄*

Posters who’ve learnt a new concept ten years after everyone else and here’s the only place they’re brave enough to use it. See also ‘give over’ and ‘get a grip’ and ‘HTH’. It’s the equivalent of a day out for them.

So op is expected to perform all sorts of contortions to get her kids safely in a car just to appease a man who's parked too close. Said twat man, instead of berating her, could have offered to help, given he caused the issue.

Or the op could have said “I don’t think you have realised but your a bit close, could you move your car” and it could have all been easily sorted.

@Sirzy

Or the op could have said “I don’t think you have realised but your a bit close, could you move your car” and it could have all been easily sorted.

Why should she use overly conciliatory language to someone being sarky to her?

If anything she should say ‘Move your car then’.

If she had asked BEFORE opening her car onto his his then nobody would have been snarky would they.

As with so many situations a bit of communication could have avoided issues

Yabvvvu. You dont rest your car door or someone's car. You either ask them to move or move your car.

I suppose so, but equally why dodn’t he just park in the middle of the bay?