Twat at the softplay car park

[CheeseFiend36]

Leaving soft play this morning and walking towards our car. A family had parked next to us and were getting ready to go in. Their car was parked really close to my right side which is where toddler DS's car seat is. I opened his door really gently but couldn't open it wide enough to get him in without making some contact with their car, so I rested it on their left side passenger door and I made sure I did it softly, even then it was still tight. Man from the family comes up behind me while I was strapping DS in and says "please can you take your door off my car". I turned around and politely asked "sorry?", He repeated it. I said "I've done it gently", he then started walking off and said sarcastically "oh that makes it ok then", I said loudly back "well if you gave me some space I wouldn't have had to", which he ignored

Was I being unreasonable to have leaned my car door against his so that I had some space to put my child in? I wasn't tutting or being arsey or anything, but I'm not sure what he expected me to do

I wouldn't lean my door on someone else's but I have been know to ask people to move when they've parked poorly.

YANBU, OP. I have done it before. Sometimes there just isn't any room to do it any other way. Let's hope this asshat lerarned from this and give other people more room to open their doors, particularly at a children's play area with a carseat clearly visible.

Honestly, what did he think was going to happen?

Move car forward a few inches. Then put child in.

Christ almighty what is the problem here? I can't fathom it.

You don't just touch someone else's property. Move car, put child in

You both sound like hard work to be honest

Tigerwhocameforsupper

I keep a piece of pool noodle with a slit in it for cases like this.

Slot it onto the edge of the car door so the foam protects the car it’s resting on while I wrestle toddler into car seat.

Wow! I’m impressed. What other tips do you have? I love things like that

As for being 'precious' about your car - well, it's likely to be the second most valuable thing you own - so not unreasonable to want to look after it

Absolutely - so don’t park it in such a way that you leave the driver next to your car 2 inches to get into theirs (generic your)

OP does not sound entitled. If you park like that you deserve it.

I don't think you were necessarily wrong, however in the same scenario I have shoved the kids in unbelted and moved out of the space.

YANBU. If you're that bothered about your car, then park with more consideration for other CP users. Or park at the far end of the car park, so no one will park near you.
If you park too close to someone, then its your own fault if your car gets damaged.
When he could see you struggling to get your child in the car, he should have corrected his parking, but he decided to act like a dick instead, his own fault.

@AnnaSW1

You both sound like hard work to be honest

How very original 🙄

@NoKnit

Move car forward a few inches. Then put child in.

Christ almighty what is the problem here? I can't fathom it.

You don't just touch someone else's property. Move car, put child in

Uh, you'd leave a toddler unsupervised to move your car? I don't even have any kids and I wouldn't do that. Not in a million years would I do that. Do you even know how much trouble an unsupervised toddler can get into in just the minute or two that you take to move your car?

@brrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr

they should make spaces wider in any case, why so crazy narrow when cars get wider all the time ?

Then fewer cars can park so you might not get a space at all. Just because they make massive cars doesn't mean people have to buy them.

@daisydoh

YABU, you sound entitled.

🤦‍♀️🤷🏼‍♀️What is it with MNers who answer AIBU with labelling the OP entitled, Clearly she’s not otherwise she’d have Not posted here to ask if she was BU. Does it make you feel good and big to just spout out labels designed to provoke the Op 👏👏👏👏🙄

Why not ask him to move his car across so you could open the door more fully? Forcing the door onto his car , even gently, while he was still there was unreasonable,

I would have asked him nicely first if he could move or help but if he refused I would have done what you did. Not much other choice. I obviously would have done it as carefully as possible but sometimes need both hands to get children in. I absolutely would not leave my toddler and baby unsupervised out of car or in car. I don't have a big car so no chance of being able to strap two children into rear facing car seats by leaning from front. It's really difficult, I try to park to avoid it where I can but occasionally you have to park in a normal space and not on the end. I once had to go back into soft play and ask a member of staff to help me get my baby back in the car as couldn't open the door wide enough to get seat in. It was incredible stressful!

Ahem I am assuming toddler in a pram and also that it takes seconds, not minutes so pull a car forward. If toddler not in pram then move the car with them in it? Jesus car would be going slower than the average merry go round or carousel ffs

didn't you have your car keys in your hand? b

@Hrpuffnstuff1

*Of course, you can, just fold your seatback. I could actually place the baby and small toddler in the seat with one hand. Just lift them up.
Toddlers don't really need a hand, teach them to climb in it's much easier.

Rear-facing seats, we only used them when the kids were babies.*

Well more fool you then! Rear facing is much much safer for children and is advised long beyond babies!

You can flatten your seat with a rear facing car seat because it's in the way of the seats going back! You are talking bollocks!

@LetterBug

didn't you have your car keys in your hand? b

@Sirzy

Surely you could have just asked him to move the car?

I would have done this.

Get a people carrier or campervan. The sliding doors are a dream in car parks. Not sure why cars can't have sliding doors, it would solve all these problems

Ahem I am assuming toddler in a pram and also that it takes seconds

But what if there’s no pram? What about the other child?! I would have asked the guy to move as he was there but failing that it’s vastly preferable to just open a door gently onto another car and take part in the safety lottery with your children.

Yabu.

Was he in the bay? If so you are being entitled. I would be furious if I was the man.

@tallduckandhandsome

YANBU, he was an entitled dickhead, well done for answering back.

They rely on women not responding.

Oh give over. It's nothing to do with male or female. Op deliberately rested her door on another car. Not every male is a knob and not every female is a poor flower

[quote Dobbysgotthesocks]@Hrpuffnstuff1

*Of course, you can, just fold your seatback. I could actually place the baby and small toddler in the seat with one hand. Just lift them up.
Toddlers don't really need a hand, teach them to climb in it's much easier.

Rear-facing seats, we only used them when the kids were babies.*

Well more fool you then! Rear facing is much much safer for children and is advised long beyond babies!

You can flatten your seat with a rear facing car seat because it's in the way of the seats going back! You are talking bollocks! [/quote]
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So you can't do it no one can do it
Other posters have also suggested the same method.

The alternative is to damage other people's property.
Ok then.
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