AIBU to think everyone hates their MIL?

[Mercs]

As a mum of boys I am honestly petrified people hate their mother in law and I am destined to become an old lady that never sees their kids or grandkids

My MIL was utterly lovely. We didn't get to spend last Christmas with her; she died earlier this year.

I prefer my MIL to my DH!

I find mine quite difficult but it’s not that we don’t get on- I’ve had a ball with her on hen dos!

I think she had very fixed pre conceived ideas of what her sons getting wives and having grandchildren would be like and she acts wounded and sulky whenever she is disappointed- but it’s highly frustrating as often she won’t actually say what she wanted to happen.
It seems she thought she’d be the matriarch having the boys and DILs every Sunday Easter & Christmas etc.
Be flexible and open-minded and you will be fine!

YABU. Of course everybody doesn't hate their MIL. You just only hear about the ones who do. Because people don'ttend to bother posting threads titled 'My MIL is quite nice' - they would be a bit pointless and boring.

Love mine. We had a tricky start but we've been best friends for years now. She's as mad as a bicycle but she's fab.

I love mine but yes I have 4 boys an DC because I have no girls am assuming if they get married I'm out of the picture (think about it - the woman plans the wedding with her mum, she's the one who actually gives birth ... it's all about keeping the wife happy and not being with a mammy's boy- these are extremes of course but not far off the truth!!)

I like mine, she's a bit irritating ag times and can drive both DH and I up the wall, but we get on.

However my own mum isn't great to my brothers wife, but nice to my DH. DH and I joke that we're glad he got thd MIL he has and not the one my SIL has!

I didn’t get on with my own Mil, but get along well with ds’s girlfriend, who will hopefully be my dil in the future! I make a genuine effort with her, and treat them both like adults. I’m sure I’ll have to bite my tongue if / when they have children, but I’ll always be available for babysitting!

I love mine, she’s great fun and I do lots with her, cinema, theatre, eating out etc. I’m a mil and see my dil weekly too and (I like to think!) we get on well.

I really like and admire my MIL. She absolutely adores my toddler DS and I feel totally safe and confident leaving him with her and sometimes grateful to her for taking him off my hands

yabu.

I really liked mine, but she died before I even married DH. I miss her. She would have been a brilliant grandma.

@Mercs I dislike my MIL because she's a selfish prick. As long as you're a nice person and realise that if your son/sons get married his partner will become the person he confides in you'll be fine 😊

I get in fine with mine. I’m not going to lie she can be overbearing and annoying at times and she’s really wound me up a bit lately (but not as much as FIL has). But they’re good people who love DH and DD and, their fucking infuriating foibles aside, they’re kind and have been good to us.

So whilst I may have my moans, I’d never interfere in their relationship with DH and will always do my best to facilitate a good relationship between them and DD, mainly because they’re the only grandparents she has and I want them to have a good relationship for her sake.

@TrishM80

The problem is no one starts threads about how great their mothers in law are.

Yes they do! All the bloody time. As if it’s a moral virtue rather than luck.

To be honest, I used to dislike mine. A lot.

But we both grew up, matured, and finally had a deep conversation with each other and settled our differences.

Now we get on great.

I love my MiL. Shes way more helpful, interested and a much nicer person than my actual mum.

I love my mother in law! I always encourage her to see the kids as often as she likes.
I get on much better with her than with my own mother.

My ex MIL was lovely, just a shame her son was a cunt

I like my mother in law. She’s very wise, kind and an excellent baker. I wish we saw more of her.

yabu
my mil is absolutely lovely and I love her dearly.
I even go on holiday with her, which I wouldn't with my own mother.

I prefer mine to my mother.

Well OP I understand your concerns, I've a ds , although a quick bunch of PPs seem to be a bit PA in their declarations of MIL-love methinks.

I do play a little game with myself called "It's a MIL Thread" based on the AIBU Thread Title.

Rule of the Game is In-Laws are not mentioned in the Title and I win if I correctly guess that the OP is really complaining about their MIL before I open the thread.

I often win.

I love mine! I get on with her so well.

I have 2 boys. 3rd on the way. I cling to the idea that if I raise my boys to be emotionally stable they will pick a nice wife who will like me 😆🤦🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️ Have to have dreams, right?

My MIL is v emotionally cold and stunted but I enjoy her company and despite things she’s done to me I invite her round weekly and encourage her to see the children so hope I garner some good DIL karma

I love my MIL. Wishes so kind abs easy going. Generous spirit. I’ve been staying in her house for the last three months and we’ve not had a cross word. I bet she’s ready for me to move out though!