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To think it's bad friend has taken 10 month old to the football tonight?

169 replies

wineislife21 · 07/12/2021 21:53

With no ear defenders, surrounded by a crowd of people, in this December weather?
She always says he still wakes her up at night.. but has no bedtime routine and then does stuff like this!?

In my book that is very wrong, won't be gone till gone 10pm!!

OP posts:
OhWhyNot · 07/12/2021 22:32

Of course it’s ridiculous

A 10 month old will not enjoy the football
It’s crowded and very cold

I have no issues children being up late on occasions (I took ds out for dinner and shopping late) but not a football match

WhenISnappedAndFarted · 07/12/2021 22:36

That depends on which football match she went to, I've been to some really quiet ones especially in the lower leagues. I'm assuming she's not gone to an away Champions League match so it will be a League One and below or Scottish League so ear defenders may not be needed.

miltonj · 07/12/2021 22:44

In other European countries they take their babies out at all hours and they fit in with their life. It's our culture that is obsessed with kids bedtimes.

KurtWildesChristmasNamechange · 07/12/2021 22:54

OP you said in your first post that baby doesn't have a bedtime routine, then in your second said taking baby out at night would mess with it's bedtime routine. You can't have it both ways, so which is it?

Also it's absolutely none of your business and pretty bad form to post online so people can help you slag off your friend on her parenting choices.

I took my babies out at all times of day and night and never stuck to a rigid routine. Shockingly all fine.

bluetowers · 07/12/2021 22:59

My DC went loads of places like this. We weren't tied to a western routine that society expects. I never bought ear defenders but managed it

TSSDNCOP · 07/12/2021 23:01

@DerbyshireMama yes, I can read.

bluetowers · 07/12/2021 23:18

@miltonj

In other European countries they take their babies out at all hours and they fit in with their life. It's our culture that is obsessed with kids bedtimes.
It's not just a European thing. I've travelled extensively and the obsession with Gina Ford type routines & training babies is a very UK/USA thing.
Duckrace · 07/12/2021 23:19

I think the weather Is the key problem.

OverByYer · 07/12/2021 23:20

Who put you in charge?

christmaspombears · 07/12/2021 23:21

My dad took me at 18 month and I took all of mine as babies - wrapped up and snuggled, don't see what the problem is. It's not that loud

PugInTheHouse · 07/12/2021 23:21

I don't really understand about the ear defenders, at a loud concert fair enough but not at a football match. DS1 has been coming to the football since he was 3 weeks old. Admittedly I never took him to an evening match till he was about 6 or 7 though. We were always able to have one of us at home so never needed to. I don't think it's the end of the world.

OhWhyNot · 07/12/2021 23:22

I took ds out all times

I think many are obsessed with routine and bedtimes here (even worse in the states) it’s a very mc professional parenting thing

But at football match in this weather with a 10 month old. No it’s not suitable

bluetowers · 07/12/2021 23:25

OP what do you think people do in much colder countries? Never go out? No. Honestly it's none of your business & your DCs life wouldn't be ruined by a few late nights attached to a parent

blackcurrantjam · 07/12/2021 23:26

Ear defenders Hmm
Yabu

StepAwayFromGoogling · 07/12/2021 23:29

Of course YANBU, OP. Baby will be cold, uncomfortable and kept awake by the noise. Hardly essential that your friend goes to the bloody football is it?!

Hapoydayz · 07/12/2021 23:30

Yabu does the baby need to be up for something in the morning?! As long as they are warm it's fine. Why ear defenders? Outside the UK this would be considered normal. If your friend had a hospitality box would that make it OK?

StepAwayFromGoogling · 07/12/2021 23:33

It's not really the staying out late - to address the sneering comments about routine - but it's bloody freezing out there. Don't know if many of you have been to football matches lately but they're not built for buggies. So the 10 month old will be freezing, squirming on someone's lap, and probably tired. Not sure why Mum HAD to go to an evening match in the middle of winter.

Badyboo · 07/12/2021 23:46

Or in a baby carrier, asleep and extremely warm and cosy?

Cryalot2 · 07/12/2021 23:48

I wouldn't have taken a child there. But I wouldn't judge another who did.
Ear defenders are not compulsory. Possibly the child was well wrapped up with hat and hood and possibly a blanket.

As long as the child was warm, content and well looked after there is no problem. It was hardly the only child there.

Just accept you and your friend have different ideas on children..

StepAwayFromGoogling · 07/12/2021 23:49

I mean possibly, yes, but it's a bit of a risk. Surely just go to a day match or wait till it's a bit warmer.

RemorselessNorsemen · 07/12/2021 23:58

My local club has the accolade of loudest fans in England one year. DS has been going to the ground since around ten months or so. Admittedly his first few seasons he slept more than he saw. He didn't wear ear defenders at any point and night winter matches he'd always be wrapped up warm.

He's 28 now. Still has a season ticket and his hearing is just fine.

Almostmenopausal · 08/12/2021 00:00

In with you OP. I said "WHAAAT?" out loud when I read that! No ear defenders? That's disgusting. Children are not accessories!

WorraLiberty · 08/12/2021 00:00

@wineislife21

I will agree it's not my business, but I'm pretty sure I'm allowed to ask the lovely ladies on mumsnet what they think? (I'll filter out the AIBU lurkers who love a snappy one liner LOL)

I think it's important for young children to wear ear defenders at sporting events, and also that it wouldn't effect their bedtime routine, for the own child's sake?

I think it's important for young children to wear ear defenders at sporting events, and also that it wouldn't effect their bedtime routine, for the own child's sake?

You said he doesn't have a bedtime routine though Confused

Tonnes of other countries/cultures manage perfectly well without bedtime routines and I'm sure this baby will too...

AllesAusLiebe · 08/12/2021 00:06

I'm with the op on this one. It's a classic case of just because you 'can' do something, doesn't mean you should.

I don't really like seeing very young kids at games. I always think it must really suck for both the kid and the people around them.

madisonbridges · 08/12/2021 00:06

Ear defenders? At a football match? Is this a thing now?
What sort of matches do you go yo that you need ear defenders? 🤔