'They've got their own lives' and other stock phrases

[saywhatagain]

I'm an adult social worker and I hear words to the tune of 'X never visits/helps because they have their own lives' many times a month.

Another popular one is 'I've worked all my life and now I have to pay, but if I'd sat on my arse my whole life / was an immigrant (etc) I'd get it all for free'.

Or another popular one, 'the GP gave me your number as my mother/father/aunt (etc) needs to go into a care home right NOW' - and 9/10 times it's a either health need not a social one or the person is nowhere near care home ready.

Tell me yours for your job, make me feel better about the Groundhog Day that my job is at the moment?

Every time I was doing a piercing and that came one someone would say;

"It's 50 million and 1 now"

🤣🤣🤣

Banking-

Do you have any free samples?

[quote lesenfantsdelesperance]**@flymetotheloon* When you are a professional with an ethical code you might understand, but clearly you aren't.*
"When" suggests it's something I'm aiming to attain, which is not the case. You don't understand the difference between generic and general. Hopefully you've looked it up now.[/quote]
It's client information.

It can't be shared without informed consent.

Whether it's anonymised or not.

It's that simple.

flytothemoon there is a point when you should stop digging. Unfortunately, you do not have enough self-awareness to realise that point was reached many pages ago. You are just embarrassing yourself now and it is cringey to watch.

Similar to yours ! I am a benefits adviser but often feel like a social worker !
Today I have had "I'd like a Blue badge because my son has his own life to lead and is busy and it will save him time if he can park closer to the shops ".
Like you I also get an awful lot of "I've worked all my life, I shouldn't have bothered, there's no point saving because now I can't get any benefits ".

@Sparklingbrook I'm usually the one stealing the free pens. You can never have enough pens!

@blueshoes

flytothemoon there is a point when you should stop digging. Unfortunately, you do not have enough self-awareness to realise that point was reached many pages ago. You are just embarrassing yourself now and it is cringey to watch.

Stop watching then.

OP should not be sharing information gleaned during her confidential work with clients without their informed consent - regardless as to whether it's anonymised.

You all might be really unhappy with that fact.

But it's a fact all the same.

You don't need informed consent to share anonymised information that doesn't identify the client in any way.

I’m just super embarrassed for my husband now as pretty much every comment made by shop workers by “middle aged men” is what my husband says 😂 and he thinks he’s so original too which adds to it! Same with window cleaners, someone mopping or cuttings grass (even neighbours, so not working) he’d say ‘ya missed a bit’!
Doesn’t scan, must be free then.
Can’t I help you with anything else? Winning lotto numbers! And he thinks he’s hilarious. I die a little inside 😆

@flymetotheloon "OP should take her issues to supervision. Just because none of you understand how these professions work doesn't mean that this is ok."

Erm I think you'll find that many of us on here are in "these" very serious professions and as you're the only one seeing an issue with the op, I think you need to have a good think about why you are very much in the minority in your opinion.

[quote saywhatagain]@Sparklingbrook I'm usually the one stealing the free pens. You can never have enough pens![/quote]
I'm old enough to remember when they were on chains.

But also when banking had a more personal touch.

I work in life/income insurance.

I'm never ill, my family is never ill, it's unlikely to happen to me.

Swiftly followed by a call a few months later 'can I take the insurance now I'm sick and need it'. 🙄

@Aussiegirl123456

I’m just super embarrassed for my husband now as pretty much every comment made by shop workers by “middle aged men” is what my husband says 😂 and he thinks he’s so original too which adds to it! Same with window cleaners, someone mopping or cuttings grass (even neighbours, so not working) he’d say ‘ya missed a bit’! Doesn’t scan, must be free then. Can’t I help you with anything else? Winning lotto numbers! And he thinks he’s hilarious. I die a little inside 😆

Oh yes, like my Dad. Sees someone cleaning their car 'you can do mine next'.

“Sorry I didn’t , I/my mum/my dad/Gran/sister/dog was rushed to hospital”.

Doing agency work for years and then lettings, I’ve heard this countless times. I’m absolutely numb to it. Not numb actually, because it now sets off the bullshit alarm.

Oh. And now I hear “I can’t because of data protection”. Also triggers the bullshit alarm.

Father-in-law to SW - no no-one in the family will help me, I am all on my own. They only visit very briefly.

Family - please let us tidy up your bedroom you are going to have a fall.
Father-in-law - Don't you dare go in my bedroom! Don't touch any of my things, you are trying to steal from me!!!

I saw the judgement in professionals faces even when we said we had tried to tackle things and he would not let us.

I have RFTF and am not interested in the bickering - but @Aussiegirl123456 my favourite was the "I was putting the curtains up and slipped off the ladder and landed on a potato".
Of course you did.

You don't seem to have an issue with the handful of solicitors who have quoted their clients.

You also don't seem to understand that it isn't in fact "client information", but generic comments that could've been aired by anyone in any context.

@Babyroobs that's funny because I often feel like a benefits adviser! I have the Attendance Allowance claim number memorised.

Also the amount of people who say they have no money but have a Motability car that their family member keeps in order to take them to an appointment once a month is baffling. Get rid of the car and get a monthly taxi? Can't possibly as family member needs the car...

Working for the NHS "But we've always done it like this"

[quote lesenfantsdelesperance]**@flymetotheloon* When you are a professional with an ethical code you might understand, but clearly you aren't.*
"When" suggests it's something I'm aiming to attain, which is not the case. You don't understand the difference between generic and general. Hopefully you've looked it up now.[/quote]
how many names are you posting under?

OP you have my greatest respect. One of my close friends is a SW with families and it is such tough job. X

My office job involves various legal compliance - why don't you stop doing x, y and z, it would make your job so much quicker. Usually suggested by men.
Me - mmm yes it would make it quicker, and open the company up to risks as it would also be illegal.

Haha my fave story Mum ever said was how a young woman was getting cobwebs off the ceiling, naked. Slipped on the freshly polished dining table straight onto the fruit bowl where three satsumas got stuck deep in her vagina

She must have had at least one patient a week on the ward with a toilet brush stuck in rectum, which someone had landed on because the floor was slippery! The condom always managed to slip onto it first though!

She said the more elaborate the backstory the more they’d find!!

Hehe

@saywhatagain hey OP ignore the above - you're most certainly not breaching any bloody code or confidentiality 🙄

Paramedic here - I like what I call care home bingo.
I'm new here
This is only my first shift
I normally work on the other floor
The manager has been called
The manager has all the residents files locked in their office
This resident is new
There's no lift
She was fine when we checked 15 minutes ago

@Anonmousse

I'm a jeweller (so very much not life and death....but sometimes you'd think it was!)

"Can you finish (complicated piece of) jewellery by < insert very tight and unreasonable timescale> because they are getting married/giving birth/about to emigrate (usually to Australia)/going on holiday..?"

...or "this is super urgent. I must have by Thursday at the latest"
Deliver on Wednesday. Customer returns it for some minor alterations 2 weeks later, having not even delivered it to end customer, thus not actually urgent at all.

Oh yes and the " Here's some broken silver jewellery. Can you melt it down and make it into x?

It's never silver and I'm not risking contaminating my studio and my lungs by melting down goodness knows what "white metal"!