'They've got their own lives' and other stock phrases

[saywhatagain]

I'm an adult social worker and I hear words to the tune of 'X never visits/helps because they have their own lives' many times a month.

Another popular one is 'I've worked all my life and now I have to pay, but if I'd sat on my arse my whole life / was an immigrant (etc) I'd get it all for free'.

Or another popular one, 'the GP gave me your number as my mother/father/aunt (etc) needs to go into a care home right NOW' - and 9/10 times it's a either health need not a social one or the person is nowhere near care home ready.

Tell me yours for your job, make me feel better about the Groundhog Day that my job is at the moment?

@Ididanamechange

I work in a foreign exchange bureau these are some of my favourites that I hear at least one a day

'Doesn't it look like monopoly money!'- nope, only monopoly looks like monopoly money
'How do you count all that?' If I can count to 10 I can count in millions
'Dont you get bored counting all day?'- do you usually ask people if their jobs or boring or is it just mine?
'Its a much better rate online'- that's the stock exchange rate, you can only get close to that if you're trading in the 10s of thousands.
'So you're making money from me then'- yes thats generally how business work

This made me laugh. Wishing you all the best in counting and being patient.

@RedRobyn2021

I'm a cash buyer (upon an accepted offer, produces a mortgage offer in principle)

Points to under stairs cupboard and says to child "that's your room, like Harry Potter"

There are plenty of estate agents around who would advertise a cupboard under the stairs as an extra bedroom.

Yep, the ones who say this (and also say it to police, doctors, nurses etc,) usually pay very little - if any - tax. They are also the ones who carp on about the Royal Family 'living at the taxpayers expense.' The ones who moan about ANYthing being at the taxpayers expense rarely pay any tax! If any at all!
It's particularly funny when they say it to a Special Constable. "What wages?"

Teacher here

Parent of misbehaving child ‘he’s never like this at home’ 🤥

@RobotValkyrie

Hmm... I'm sure everyone has anecdotes about their work and how they keep hearing the same bloody things all the time.

Mine would be a bit boring, but pretty harmless: software engineer... So mostly you'd hear us moaning about customers changing their requirements at the last minute, or sales selling software that doesn’t exist, etc.
However my boss would be livid if we were moaning about this in a public place. Would be very damaging to the image of the company.

Similarly, if I heard someone else moaning about their job in a public place, it may taint the image I have of their profession. And I think it would be particularly damaging if the profession involves dealing with vulnerable individuals (e.g. social care, medical care, teaching, law, etc.)
I have no doubt people are human and sometimes need to vent. But there's a time and place. Doing so on a public forum, to an audience which may involve a few colleagues, but also (for the most part?) service users, is not necessarily wise.

Similarly, I probably wouldn't enjoy hearing the locker room banter of police officers (or other professions heavily involve in dealing with traumatic incidents)

That was an honest post. I appreciated it.

The main point I thought about was truth. Why shouldn’t people tell the the truth about their professions? Why should codes of conduct be more important (okay, I know why—vulnerable etc, which is a good thing to service).

It does depend on the service, of course, but I’m imagining a world where everyone speaks honestly.

Utter chaos, I’d expect.

@Cumbaba Care to elaborate on the shock? sorry I thought it was obvious. I’m shocked at anyone describing an elderly person as “pathetic” and needing to

reflect on their pathetic behaviour and make an effort to behave like adults.

For making excuses for their child’s lack of care. And I think OPs thread has invited this sort of comment which is sad as well as shocking.

@gukvguk

No job related but as a vegan I get-

Where do you get your protein from?
I could never give up cheese!
Can you eat fish?
What do you eat then?

I once went on a date with a vegetarian who kept turning down suggestions of where to go for lunch, so I asked "so where would you like to eat then?".

"McDonald's"
"There isn't one here"
"KFC?"
"Ditto"
"Subway?"
etc

At some point in this exchange I asked what they ate at McDonald's if they were vegetarian.

"Fries"
Literally nothing else.

McDonald’s sends vegetarian food.

If I ask for the car registration
"I knew you were going to ask that"
Well.. yes?

"You charge to diagnose it? Can't you just plug it in? It only takes 5 minutes"

@ThrobbingToothacheOfTheMind

Maybe get a new job?

Can you recommend any jobs where all of us can go and that we won't have to deal with people?

There can't be that many vacant sheep farming tenancies in the Hebrides.

@Coquohvan

“How much” “Will this be expensive” worst “Just put them to sleep”

Unfortunately you didn’t buy pet insurance for your dog/cat/pet.
Never from an owner who has insurance when their pet requires treatment or op.

I have asked for a vague price before but.. That must be so hard. Mine is insured and last time (cat with triaditis) I said whatever is required, money no object BUT it had to be in his best interests 3 grand later... one recovered cat. I told him I could buy a new horse for that so he best not do it again

What do you expect from this Government?
They always lie.

I’ve seen that a lot today and it’s rubbed me up the wrong way. I expect a great deal more than lies, spin and shitty behaviour.

[quote julieca]@DdraigGoch its realistic if an animal has high medical costs.[/quote]
It's the casual way a life is talked about that gets me.

@DdraigGoch in that case I agree with you. I have been heartbroken every time one of my animals has died.

@Tummelthecat

I didn’t realise it was kick a social worker day. You have my sympathy OP. Have a hug and I hope tomorrow is better. X

Welcome to every single day.

@DdraigGoch sheep are little shits or I would take that
I've done 6 years in hospitality, 2 in retail, 1 as a carer, 10 for the ambulance service and 15 in a call centre. I swear I'm the most anti social person ever now

@Twelveshoes

McDonald’s sends vegetarian food.

But this person only ate fries. Nothing else. Ever (it would seem).

@Coquohvan

“How much” “Will this be expensive” worst “Just put them to sleep”

Unfortunately you didn’t buy pet insurance for your dog/cat/pet.
Never from an owner who has insurance when their pet requires treatment or op.

That must be really upsetting.

@CatJumperTwat

Stop talking to the troll and it might go away!

The thread reminds me of an old job where one man, every single time he came into the office, would say, "Cheer up, it might never happen." I wanted to batter him with the hole punch.

And another one referring to a poster as a troll.

@SemiAquaticWoman

I agree with you...these kind of comments aren't helpful if you're a relative of one of the 'they ha e their own life' brigade.

I spent the first half of the pandemic caring for my 'end of life' dad whilst working fulltime from home and single parenting my 15yo I her first year of GCSEs.

I took an unpaid sabbatical for the first 8 mo ths of the year, during which time dad passed away. I subsequently gave up my job to support my mum.

She refuses to engage with virtually any help or positive suggestions e.g. antidepressants, counselling, letting me take her out to places where she could establish new friendships.

She will generally tell her friends and visiting professionals that I 'pop in a couple of times a week' when in fact I'm there 5 days and one night a week, for a minimum of 3 hours at a time, call every evening and at least twice a day if I don't visit.

I no longer have my own life, although I'm sure mum gives people that impression. The thought of being judged by a social worker in that way (not that we've seen one in the entire duration) is crushing.

"I'm an adult social worker and I hear words to the tune of 'X never visits/helps because they have their own lives' many times a month.

Stock phrases? It's true. How people live their lives is none of your business. Typical attitude of your profession though. It's not a family's job to become a carer, that's all of yours, sorry. And you get paid for it.

I understand your job must be difficult OP and can imagine you do hear these things often. That’s partly due to people not being able to get the care their loved ones need and family not being able to care for them. Pretty sure the people don’t want to be calling saying this all the time either

I worked at a hotdog cart. Every time I ate a hotdog - I wasn't able to leave the cart for meals - about six people would say "You're eating your profits!"

@flymetotheloon

Wow.

What an unprofessional post from a SW bitching about the things that clients say.

Especially given recent news events.

Ever heard of confidentiality?

I agree.

Totally out of order.

You'd think with recent events, social workers might shut the fuck up about what people say repeatedly to them.

My dad did need urgent care, and thanks to a local Hospice charity who helped us navigate the system, he got the specialist fast tracked nursing home care he needed and was made much more comfortable than he otherwise would have been before he died of heart failure.

I'm glad I didn't (knowingly) come up against someone like the OP "Oh, another one wanting "urgent" care."