I am unreasonable but i just cant help it, and i dont know why?

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about my in laws.
i cant help it,
i scowl at what ever happens to them. I have no patience and very little tolerance.

im an evil wich quite honestly,
my question to you is,

Do you have an unreasonable intolereance to some one and can you explain why?

Classic thread. So good to find out I'm not just a psycho.

I start thinking of things they (she in particular, though I am meaner to him) will do to annoy me the minute I know they are coming over/we are going there.

When we first told them I was pg we weren't married, and their faces ACTUALLY fell (whilst saying totally unconvincingly 'oh, that's nice news'). When I was 12 weeks she said I was 'letting myself go' then got upset, cried and locked herself in my room because I had been so insensitive as to think she might have been being mean.

When DD was born they came to the hospital uninvited, then when with DD 12 days old we made the 4hr round trip to theirs for his 60th, she said 'well, at least you've slimmed down a bit - last time I saw you you didn't look like you'd even had the baby!' (obvious retort here, given that she's about size 24, was 'well you don't look like you ever had yours and they're 31 and 29' - I restrained myself.)

She is CONSTANTLY saying stuff to DD like 'your mummy won't let you have that'; 'ok I'll change your nappy because your HORRIBLE parents won't', and also confuses her if she's eating something and obviously enjoying it (she's 20 months) by saying something like 'oh, you don't like that much, do you?'

She is really negative about everything, picks fault in everything I say, always tries to contradict me (I am - I would say clearly - much cleverer than she is and yet she thinks she's the bees knees, constantly referring to herself as an 'intellectual snob' as if it's a badge of honour). DH can do NO WRONG, naturally (he is her first born and she had two boys).

They are great and look after DD much more and better than my parents , but always, ALWAYS try and tell me things about MY daughter!! 'Her feet have shrunk' - no they fucking haven't.

I can't even bear to go to their house. I am a horrible, horrible DIL (but I think I hide it quite well).

I think whoever said it's the knowledge that you're stuck with them that makes it so much more difficult to be the lovely, calm, tolerant people we usually are was bang on. I have fretted many a time about how I just can't tolerate things about her that I would at least suffer in others. She is (kind of) well-meaning and I think she does love me in her weird way, but she's just SO FUCKING ANNOYING.

Phew, long post.

oh me too! me too! my sil and mil have always despised me for no good reason. at first i tried to rise above it, but when mil attempted to force dp into leaving me whilst i was 12 weeks pg something just flipped in me, and now i can't stand either of them, even for a few minutes. In fact just this weekend i ended up screaming at sil to eff off down the phone because she had rung dp up to bitch about me, which i think is just below the belt. it's got to the point now where i jsut can't ever see a reconciliation. i am trying to pray about it though.

My sister, I tolerate her and am very polite and up until recently I thought she was in the right. But I recently flipped and told her that it isn't very nice of her to find something to critisise every time we meet, just after she had critisised my hair, she couldn't critisise my weight as Ive lost 2 stone since the last time we met. The hair wasn't plain normal and boring. I had just had 2 tones of blonde and swathes of purple, red and orange put in. But as i am a SAHM, and i don't have to obey work dress rules I have my hair the way I want it. Whats betting the next time I see her she will have crazier coulours in her hair.

I must admit I may be luckier than most on these 'mil from hell' threads as DP finds his family really hard work too and often says the things that I think, but can't say, because they are his parents and I try not to moan about anyone's parents.
For example last week he looked at DS2 covered in cornflakes and said 'I just don't understand my mum, how can they not want to see these two little chaps for months on end?'.
He has even told me that he thinks my mum and dad think more of him than his own do .
So its not so much despised dil as me and dp feeling like complete outcasts

i AM EMBARRASINGLY INTOLERANT OF MY IN-LAWS (BUT TEND NOT TO SHARE JUST SEETH INWARDLY) sorry did not mean to shout

They are perfectly lovely people and have been through a lot and have helped us so much and been lovely to me. I am the worst daughter-in-law in this thread to ever think ill of them but I cannot help myself. I do have some insight into why - I think it is because they are so together, and sorted and helpful. My dh is an only child and is doted on (not unhealthily but ykwim). My father is dead my mum mad as cheese and penniless, so I have been very self-sufficient since my late teens.

I have found my pil's generosity and my dh's willingness to go to them with every problem difficult to adjust to - so it is all about me.
However I think going on hols with them next year will be a bit hard for me and dh - keep chanting to myself - free babysitters freebabysitters!!

o'h thank god it's not just me! my FIL just pisses me off completely. they are staying from NZ for 3 weeks starting saturday and already i am dreading it. again it's really petty things -

he never answers me - i have to ask him the same thing 4 or 5 times to get a response.

he watches sport, any sport all day every day - we don't have the tv on sport unless it's at the weekend and dh is watching it, so already i am the bad guy for making dh tell fil that.

he is on medication for high bp that he's not supposed to drink with, so......guess what... he drinks maybe 6 bottles of beer a day, starting at about 3pm. and then brandy in the evenings.

he tells us that ds is growing up way too fast when he's jsut developing normally for a 17 month old.

o'h i could go on and on and on, o'h and he baits dh into a huge argument with him at any opportunity, and as they're staying with us when these arguments kick off they have nowhere else to go so it's a huge issue, in front of ds.

o'h and then he will just turn around 20 minutes later and act like nothing has happened.

makes my blood boil.

god i feel better for that!

ScamparumpapumpMum moves into a strong first place. If she does say to her MIL "when are you due again? OH YEAH, that's right, 1976!" she'll get a MN Victoria Cross.