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Original poster

To be pissed off my husband lost his wedding jacket?

459 replies

Terribleluck · 04/12/2021 03:09

He went on his Christmas do and not only did he decide it was on to walk home 2 miles in not the best weather (I still can't believe his friends would let him do that) but he lost our wedding jacket, that does make very, very pissed off/sad.

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Original poster
Terribleluck · 04/12/2021 07:35

Everybody is treaty this like I've just gone crazy on him. Which I haven't, I got annoyed and told him that he better tries to find the jacket given the keys and bonus. I'll have to drive him around later for it amyways, but in the meantime I have a dinner party to organise.

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Coolwaterscoolcool · 04/12/2021 07:35

It might be worth ringing the pubs he was in- my partner lost his brand new coat on a night out but one of the pubs he was in had it.

Gearedtoyou · 04/12/2021 07:38

How did you know he'd lost the bonus before he did?

TableSetting · 04/12/2021 07:38

We got married in a registry office wearing ‘normal’ but dressy (for us) clothes. Me in a knee length flowery dress and him in smart jeans and jacket. No big white frock or dress suit. My DH now wears his jacket for any slightly ‘smart’ occasions and it always makes me smile so I understand your annoyance.

sassbott · 04/12/2021 07:39

i got annoyed

Yes. And that’s really irritating to be on the receiving end of after a night out. You’re not his mum. He’s a grown man. What right do you have to be ‘annoyed?’. His jacket, his car keys, his loss and it’s for him to sort out.

43leftfeet · 04/12/2021 07:39

@Shalalalainthemorning

Its a wedding jacket....

I donated my wedding dress after our wedding. Its not as if id need it again nor will my daughter want to wear something out of fashion (in her time).

And my husbands outfit was just a wedding suit/tux...no idea where it is.

OP sounds like she has a princess complex

And you sound like you have a being a bitch complex.

Why? Seriously? So unnecessary.

2018SoFarSoGreat · 04/12/2021 07:39

A 2 mile walk is not far, drunk or sober.

As to 'our wedding jacket' - I'm sorry but I'm really struggling too see how that can make you so upset. Let it go! Stop sulking and let it go. You'll feel a lot better when you have.

RampantIvy · 04/12/2021 07:40

Get him to ring the venues where he went to ask if it has been handed in. Surely companies don't hand out cash bonuses these days, especially not at Christmas nights out?

Practicebeingpatient · 04/12/2021 07:41

@maddy68

He was pissed and left his jacket, youre angry about that?

I left my coat in bar yesterday. I was sober too. If my husband had been remotely angry about that I would feckin leave him

In fact instead he called the bar , It's not there. We are going coat shopping this morning.

Get a grip. It's an irritation but meh

I did this years ago. It was a very nice jacket so I put in a claim on our contents and personal possessions insurance. About a week later I got a phone call from the pub and a customer had realised they had taken the wrong jacket home and returned it. It even still had my loose change in the pocket. It was happy ending all round. I had my jacket back and I returned the cheque to the insurance company.

DH wasn't cross at all. Not then, not the time I lost a £2000 pair of earrings, not the time last month I scraped my car on a wall and damaged 2 doors. Accidents happen.

43leftfeet · 04/12/2021 07:41

@Terribleluck

Everybody is treaty this like I've just gone crazy on him. Which I haven't, I got annoyed and told him that he better tries to find the jacket given the keys and bonus. I'll have to drive him around later for it amyways, but in the meantime I have a dinner party to organise.
OP, it's AIBU. It's full of arseholes who just love to kick others when they're down. I love Mumsnet but I could really do without these small minded pricks who make a sport of being arseholes to others.

Pay them no mind.

tallduckandhandsome · 04/12/2021 07:42

Why has he gone out with his Christmas Bonus, how much was it?

YANBU to be upset that he walked home in the cold at 5am without a jacket. I’m surprised posters are saying they wouldn’t give a shit, I think my DH would be very worried about me walking home like that, and vice versa.

Original poster
Terribleluck · 04/12/2021 07:43

I didn't know about the Christmas bonus before him, he told me... And yes he always gets in it cash. Usually after their appraisal, but not this time. Now it means we needs to either get into more debt or have to have a frugal season.

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2021namechanger · 04/12/2021 07:45

He lost his licence, but he has car keys? Hmm

He got a cash Christmas bonus in 2022 Hmm

geojellyfish · 04/12/2021 07:45

Very odd thread. Why did he have his car keys with him?

Iamanicepersonreally · 04/12/2021 07:47

Bloody hell, it's a jacket. Get over it and so being so dramatic

tallduckandhandsome · 04/12/2021 07:47

Sorry to comment on your style of writing, this isn’t a criticism at all, but do you know why are your verbs and adverbs are coming out a bit funny? Are they autocorrects?

Hopefully = hopey
Treating = treaty

pictish · 04/12/2021 07:48

@sassbott

i got annoyed

Yes. And that’s really irritating to be on the receiving end of after a night out. You’re not his mum. He’s a grown man. What right do you have to be ‘annoyed?’. His jacket, his car keys, his loss and it’s for him to sort out.

See I agree with this. The first thing that struck me is that you post as if you were his mum.

“His friends like getting him drunk.”

No, HE likes getting drunk and being a clown. And you know what? He gets to because he’s an adult.

He needs to track the jacket down, stupid sod.

Original poster
Terribleluck · 04/12/2021 07:49

He drove to the pub and left his car outside (that's why he had his keys). And yes he does get a Christmas bonus in cash. He lost his licence in the past, but that was years ago.

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Terribleluck · 04/12/2021 07:51

Yeah @tall I know my autocorrect corrects in funny ways. But can't be bothered about it today (I also have fat fingers... I much preferred blackberries for that same reason).

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SerendipitySunshine · 04/12/2021 07:53

Does he know how much the bonus was?

Gearedtoyou · 04/12/2021 07:54

@Terribleluck

He just woke up... He's even more annoyed as he first realised that the keys were on the jacket, and then a few minutes later after checking his pockets realised the bonus was in the jacket too.
Posted after you told us he'd lost the bonus?
Original poster
Terribleluck · 04/12/2021 07:55

No he said he didn't count it, but it could be anything between £350-500.

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Mummyoflittledragon · 04/12/2021 07:57

Oh dear. This is a big life lesson for him. You must be fuming. How irresponsible.

FindingMeno · 04/12/2021 08:02

What a bloody idiot.
You'll never see the bonus again even if you get the keys and jacket back Sad

MichelleScarn · 04/12/2021 08:03

What was the bonus to physically lose it? Cash? A cheque? Why wouldn't it just be a BACS payment?

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