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To be pissed off my husband lost his wedding jacket?

459 replies

Terribleluck · 04/12/2021 03:09

He went on his Christmas do and not only did he decide it was on to walk home 2 miles in not the best weather (I still can't believe his friends would let him do that) but he lost our wedding jacket, that does make very, very pissed off/sad.

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MrsLarry · 04/12/2021 07:17

You're really overreacting to this OP. It's done. Nothing you can do about it. All you're doing is upsetting yourself (and probably everyone else around you). Let it go.

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Terribleluck · 04/12/2021 07:18

And he also lost his Christmas bonus :/

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speakout · 04/12/2021 07:18

Menherepleasedontbetriggered

Stop stereotyping- many women don't give a rat's arse either.
We are not all like Miss Havisham keeping dusty old dresses to fawn over.
I can't remember what happened to my wedding dress- probably gave it to a charity shop- i was just a dress, unlikley to be worn again and was taking up space in he wardrobe.

gamerchick · 04/12/2021 07:22

@Terribleluck

He went on his Christmas do and not only did he decide it was on to walk home 2 miles in not the best weather (I still can't believe his friends would let him do that) but he lost our wedding jacket, that does make very, very pissed off/sad.
You say ours, do you share wearing the jacket and why you're most upset?

I'd be annoyed about the car keys but he can take the hit on replacing them. He might be more careful in future.

rwalker · 04/12/2021 07:23

Your his wife not his mum leave him alone sounds like he's in for a tirade of shit off you today poor guy .

VividGemini · 04/12/2021 07:24

@MrsPleasant

I suspect OP is ticking off a list of dripfeeds for her next novel. The jacket will have been made by Mother Theresa from the hide of the last unicorn next and have a cheque for £10million in the other pocket.
🔔🔔🔔 we have a winner!!
MrsLarry · 04/12/2021 07:26

After reading some of your comments OP I think there's more to this than the jacket. Are you a bit jealous that he has fun?

I'm not buying the drip feeding that all these extra bits just happened to be in said jacket pocket. If that were the case you'd have mentioned them at the beginning.

CeeceeBloomingdale · 04/12/2021 07:26

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maddy68 · 04/12/2021 07:27

He was pissed and left his jacket, youre angry about that?

I left my coat in bar yesterday. I was sober too. If my husband had been remotely angry about that I would feckin leave him

In fact instead he called the bar , It's not there. We are going coat shopping this morning.

Get a grip. It's an irritation but meh

MalbecandToast · 04/12/2021 07:27

The other stuff aside, it's just a jacket Confused

Ragwort · 04/12/2021 07:27

I think you've got more to worry about that a lost jacket ... and why won't your 16 year old look after your other children for an evening? Hmm. Just because 'they don't like baby sitting' isn't really a very good reason, I am sure we all have to do things we 'don't like much' as part of family life.

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Terribleluck · 04/12/2021 07:28

He just woke up... He's even more annoyed as he first realised that the keys were on the jacket, and then a few minutes later after checking his pockets realised the bonus was in the jacket too.

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StoodOnAPlug · 04/12/2021 07:29

Surely it's a recipe for disaster to hand out the Christmas bonuses at the Christmas do.

sassbott · 04/12/2021 07:29

OP not being funny but you sound awfully controlling. He’s gone out, got drunk, lost a jacket. (Yes I have read he wears it on dates with you - a still don’t care).

He’s a grown ass man. Let him deal with lost keys/ jacket/ hangover/ booster jab and leave him alone. Christ, you remind me of my ex who had a paddy over my losing track of time when I was having drinks. Listening to him whine about my being late was the straw that ended it. Life really is too short. Leave him alone.

ShirleyPhallus · 04/12/2021 07:29

@MrsPleasant

I suspect OP is ticking off a list of dripfeeds for her next novel. The jacket will have been made by Mother Theresa from the hide of the last unicorn next and have a cheque for £10million in the other pocket.
Bravo 👏🏼
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Bobbins36 · 04/12/2021 07:31

@Terribleluck

He thinks he only went to two places, but he can't remember when he took it off or if he dropped it, etc... His workmates always like to get him drunk, because he becomes the clown.
It’s just a jacket. And he likes to get himself drunk, he’s not being forced by his mates.
Menherepleasedontbetriggered · 04/12/2021 07:31

@speakout

Whatever, the point is (even if they don’t keep them) many women enjoy the whole picking a dress and how it looks etc. - No men feel that way about their jacket.

MrsLarry · 04/12/2021 07:31

Would you expect him to treat you like this if something happened to your dress? What if you caught it on something when drunk? What if you spilt something on it when drunk? What if someone bumped into you with a cigarette?

Wait.....now you'll tell us you don't get drunk...

Practicebeingpatient · 04/12/2021 07:31

Lol at this. It's a second hand jacket and 2 miles is nothing. A 40 minute walk at worst. I'm 60 and would walk two miles home if the alternative was a long wait for an expensive cab (assuming I was wearing comfortable man type shoes rather than heels).

My DH also married in clothes he could rewear. A very nice off the peg Christian Dior suit. He wore it for a few years but eventually it got tired looking. It was last seen on his 80 year old uncle. He wore it with the trousers held up by a piece of rope when he was cutting turf. Clothes that get worn don't last forever.

MrsLarry · 04/12/2021 07:32

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RosieLemonadeAndSugar · 04/12/2021 07:33

I'm sorry but he's lost his jacket with his keys in. As for 'loosing' his bonus as it was in the jacket he's spent it and is now thanking his lucky stars he can pretend he's lost it so you won't go mental at him!

LolaSmiles · 04/12/2021 07:33

Of course he did, and he gambled the house away on a flip of a coin too, sold your youngest child into slavery and committed to paying for a Caribbean cruise for all his friends too
Grin

OP
It's HIS jacket. Not your jacket.
If you wear jackets then you have to accept they might get lost, damaged or stolen.
Being annoyed at his colleagues for his choice to drink too much is infantalising

The other stuff is annoying, but why was he carrying his Christmas bonus? DH's bonuses get paid into his bank account, same for most friends

He needs to call he bars he was in this morning.

Thatsplentyjack · 04/12/2021 07:34
  1. It's not his friends responsibility to get him home. He is a grown man.
  2. His friends didn't "get him drunk", again, he is a grown man.
  3. It's his wedding jacket not yours, and if he didn't want anything to happen to it he shouldn't have worn it on a work night out Confused.
  4. A grown man walking 2 miles no matter what the weather is not a big deal.
Gearedtoyou · 04/12/2021 07:35

I'm impressed that he's wearing it, it makes a lot of sense. It would be annoying to lose any jacket, but not more than that. There's not point having things that aren't used.

A two mile walk home at the end of the evening doesn't seem unreasonable to me and perfectly reasonable for a grown man to make that decision without any input from friends. I shall walk 1.5 m home from the station tonight after a night out in London.

Also is friends aren't responsible for how much he drinks

It does seem like a lot of unecessary drama .