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To be pissed off my husband lost his wedding jacket?

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Terribleluck · 04/12/2021 03:09

He went on his Christmas do and not only did he decide it was on to walk home 2 miles in not the best weather (I still can't believe his friends would let him do that) but he lost our wedding jacket, that does make very, very pissed off/sad.

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Terribleluck · 04/12/2021 06:11

I left them home. The oldest is almost 16, but he doesn't like babysitting, so we don't make him do it, but he was ok knowing he was left in charge while I got his dad (he was awake anyways).

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allthegoodusernameshavegone · 04/12/2021 06:12

@Terribleluck

The other times I have found them hilarious, but this is the first time he goes out again after he lost his license and having to call the police (two separate events). He said quiet evening, don't worry just pick me up between 11-12... Very different to him not answering the phone and walking the roads by himself at 3am. I know he won't remember anything anyways.
I’m confused, so it was arranged for you to pick him up, between 11-12 which presumably meant you had to keep your DCs up to take them with you. So if you didn’t turn up he had little choice but to get his own way home.
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Terribleluck · 04/12/2021 06:13

He told me he'd let me know when to collect him (around 11-12) we didn't set a time as he thought it could be even earlier than that.

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lovemelongtime · 04/12/2021 06:16

A jacket doesn't have memories. You have memories of a day when DH you wore x jacket. You still have your memories, let it go.

SalsaLove · 04/12/2021 06:23

What a story. And a drip feed.

ShirleyPhallus · 04/12/2021 06:34

Yet another thread where I can’t believe people act like this IRL

seven201 · 04/12/2021 06:40

I think you're over reacting here. He didn't do it on purpose. I bought some wedding earrings with the plan on wearing them on special occasions. I still can't find them 7 years after our wedding, so they only got worn once. These things happen though.

2021namechanger · 04/12/2021 06:43

Hold on. He’s lost his licence and you’ve had to call the police before? This isn’t about a jacket is it?

(On the jacket - it’s probably in one of the bars he’s been in- just call them tomorrow).

MerryMarigold · 04/12/2021 06:45

Your 16yo was up at 3am? Did you just drive round the streets for several hours? How did you find him?

FortunesFave · 04/12/2021 06:45

You referred to his jacket as "our jacket" which is bloody weird. It's HIS and it's possibly gone....nothing to do with you!

Of course you might think "aw...what a shame" but you wouldn't ignore or be mean to him! That's weird!

Austen33 · 04/12/2021 06:50

Of course friends would let a man walk 2 miles home, no doubt singing and swaying, but he made it.
You are in danger of driving the life out of your marriage and then it wont matter that a jacket was lost.

StoodOnAPlug · 04/12/2021 06:50

This seems to be a bit darker than a lost jacket.

Mummyoflittledragon · 04/12/2021 06:52

Your feelings are your feelings. Better to get upset on an anonymous thread than to get cross with your dh. I do agree you infantilise him though vis a vis his workmates. He obviously enjoys being the clown and getting drunk. It isn’t controlling to be annoyed you agreed a pick up time then him not call. If he wanted to stay out later, the onus was on him to text you and tell you he’d get a taxi home and to go to bed.

Whingasaurus · 04/12/2021 06:56

I'd be concerned that he walked home when it was - 2 without a jacket. That's dangerous.

LivingDeadGirlUK · 04/12/2021 06:57

If hes left it in the pub he can hopefully pick it up today.

MultiStorey · 04/12/2021 06:59

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speakout · 04/12/2021 07:00

lost our wedding jacket

Do you also wear the jacket?

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Terribleluck · 04/12/2021 07:04

It turns out his car keys are in said jacket :/

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Menherepleasedontbetriggered · 04/12/2021 07:05

Man here - it’s just a standard jacket who cares? Men don’t care about that like a Dress.

StrictlyAFemaleFemale · 04/12/2021 07:12

Some people atrach feelings to objects because they associate them with events. I feel quite sad when dd grows out of some of her clothes so I know where youre coming from. Marie Kondo writes about this so it might help you to read the life changing magic of tidying. You hold the memories - not the jacket.

Ps love that he wesrs it on date night.

CeeceeBloomingdale · 04/12/2021 07:13

@Terribleluck

It turns out his car keys are in said jacket :/
So he rings up the places he has been to see if it had been handed in. Stop hand wringing and leave him to sort it out, he's an adult.
icedcoffees · 04/12/2021 07:13

What a bizarre thread.

The jacket will turn up, just get him to ring round the places he was at last night. Or, they'll pop a post on social media saying an item of clothing has been found, can the owner please come and describe it to get it back.

Fallagain · 04/12/2021 07:15

You were going to wake the children to pick him up? I can see why he didn’t bother you. Its just a jacket. You can choose to be angry over this small thing or choose to have a good day.

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Terribleluck · 04/12/2021 07:16

Thanks @strictly you understand why I'm attached to said jacket. Which hopey will turn up.

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