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AIBU?

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Original poster

Am I being precious?

128 replies

WheatlandTerrier · 02/12/2021 22:18

Speaking to a guy online. Due to meet this weekend. All OK no smut etc. However tonight on text he asked if I think I'd like him. I said you need to like yourself first and he replied I love myself every night with lots of laughing faces. Aibu to give it a miss ?

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PixieLaLa · 03/12/2021 03:13

Yer your response was weird/rude I think he responded the best way he could!

AutomaticMoon · 03/12/2021 03:25

@Lussekatt Am queer myself, I read it as ‘that RuPaul person’ - someone they are familiar with but not necessarily a fan of. Are people allowed to have preferences anymore? 😂

Comingup · 03/12/2021 06:00

Crass quip from him but honestly your reply to his question is nonsensical.
I'd not know how to respond but I think as a person I do " like myself" so in the same token ,everyone else must therefore like me?! I don't get how you wanted him to respond. I'd give it a miss for your sake and his.

TenoringBehind · 03/12/2021 06:40

Not precious but odd (sorry!).

Your reply would have me running for the hills, if I was in his shoes. I think he was just trying to lighten the mood and would have struggled to give any response to that.

You don’t sound like you are suited to each other.

changeyourname11111 · 03/12/2021 06:48

@Peppercorn9

Eh? The OP's reply wasn't the problem - what was she supposed to say in response to "do you think you'll like me?" What kind of grown man asks that?! His initial question was weird/needy and bad enough, but his reply to the OP was just fucking grim. Bin him off, OP - YANBU at all!
^ this!
scarpa · 03/12/2021 07:18

I'd find your comment weirder than his, to be honest. At least his was obviously meant to be a joke - yours comes across as weirdly po-faced and preachy.

ClaudiaJ1 · 03/12/2021 08:42

You sound quite full on to be honest. That 'life coach'-type comment was so cringey I cringed for you just reading it. Maybe he cringed too and tried to make a joke to ease the intense atmosphere you created? You're not being precious per se but you sound quite....full on and pretentious. If I were you I would be cringing at what I said to him too much to face up to seeing him again.

Original poster
WheatlandTerrier · 03/12/2021 09:02

Well suppose since I a complete cunt I better cancel

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MattDamon · 03/12/2021 09:05

I'm with you, OP. Don't waste your time.

LankylegsFromOz · 03/12/2021 09:13

You do sound like abit of hard work to be honest. First that comment about liking yourself and next the flouncing comment about being a cunt?! Phew..hard work indeed!

Bluntness100 · 03/12/2021 09:14

@WheatlandTerrier

Well suppose since I a complete cunt I better cancel
Blimey.
NeedsCharging · 03/12/2021 09:14

Well suppose since I a complete cunt I better cancel

Now you just sound childish.

OLD is to me a very odd situation and most have been let down/had bad experiences/wasted their time so I don't think his question was of "do you think you'll like me" was wrong.
Your response was a little off the wall and he made an adult joke to lighten the tone.

If you do t want to meet him don't but don't make your decision hid responsibility.
Personally I would go as I find it difficult to judge what someone is really like unless I meet them in person.

PurpleDaisies · 03/12/2021 09:16

@WheatlandTerrier

Well suppose since I a complete cunt I better cancel
Who is saying that?!!! Bit of an overreaction.
Triffid1 · 03/12/2021 09:16

Personally, I'd have binned him off after the first comment. FFS, he needs validation and you haven't even met yet? Ick. Your comment was then weird. His response was also weird. I don't see this going anywhere.

Tal45 · 03/12/2021 09:17

How did you know he didn't like himself? And how would that question help you figure out if he was a pervy guy or not? I think his reply probably shows where his mind lies though to be honest. It sounds like you want deep and meaningful conversation, he wants a laff and sex. Personally I think I'd give OLD a big miss as I'm not sure you're going to find what you're looking for there.

Subbaxeo · 03/12/2021 09:19

I think he’s going to dodge a bullet🤣

ThePoisonousMushroom · 03/12/2021 09:20

I reckon he’s saying to his mate ‘I’m supposed to be meeting a woman tonight but when I asked her if she thought she’d like me when we met, she replied with ‘you’ve got to like yourself first’. Isn’t that a bit weird? AIBU to cancel?’

His reply was a bit rank though. I think it would be best for both of you if you cancel it.

ClaudiaJ1 · 03/12/2021 09:23

@Subbaxeo

I think he’s going to dodge a bullet🤣
Yes, definitely. Christ!
DaisyandSimeon · 03/12/2021 09:23

I'm afraid you sound intense and humourless and he sounds over familiar with someone he's never met. Definitely not a match

Tee20x · 03/12/2021 09:26

What fun you must be to be around...

Glassofshloer · 03/12/2021 09:26

Sounds like he was trying to break the ice after a needlessly intense and odd comment.

Can’t stand the inspirational-quote-amateur-life-coach type people…

SmellyOldOwls · 03/12/2021 09:26

'"That RuPaul Person" is 100% an offensive term. '

The fuck?? Also OPs latest update Confused this thread is bizarre.

Thatsplentyjack · 03/12/2021 09:28

I think he was probably trying to make light of your weird comment about liking yourself.

Thatsplentyjack · 03/12/2021 09:29

But I also agree that his initial question was weird.

Chely · 03/12/2021 09:32

Mine can be worse than that and I married him.