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Am I being precious?

128 replies

WheatlandTerrier · 02/12/2021 22:18

Speaking to a guy online. Due to meet this weekend. All OK no smut etc. However tonight on text he asked if I think I'd like him. I said you need to like yourself first and he replied I love myself every night with lots of laughing faces. Aibu to give it a miss ?

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Strugglingtodomybest · 02/12/2021 22:24

Why are you thinking of giving it a miss? Because he made a joke? If so, then yes, probably best you do as you obviously don't have similar senses of humour.

AnneLovesGilbert · 02/12/2021 22:25

I said you need to like yourself first

Why on Earth did you say that? Are you a life coach or something?

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WheatlandTerrier · 02/12/2021 22:26

I'm not a life coach. I'm just fed up of men getting pervy

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Udouhun · 02/12/2021 22:27

That joke gives me the ick but I also find what you said about loving yourself first weird.

RozHuntleysStump · 02/12/2021 22:27

He should be the one giving it a miss…

Returnoftheowl · 02/12/2021 22:28

@Udouhun

That joke gives me the ick but I also find what you said about loving yourself first weird.
I agree with this... Your comment was the weird one
WheelieBinPrincess · 02/12/2021 22:29

It was him that was off first, asking if you like him. You hadn’t met yet. It was a bit of an odd response from you but he’s have given me the icky asking that in the first place.

DrManhattan · 02/12/2021 22:29

That's the sort of joke you would have when you have known each other a while. Doesn't land that well when you are starting out .
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PurpleDaisies · 02/12/2021 22:30

However tonight on text he asked if I think I'd like him. I said you need to like yourself first

That’s the weirdest reply to that question. Why say that?!

His reply could be a joke gone wrong but if you don’t want to see him, you don’t have to.

Heartdogs · 02/12/2021 22:30

I don't like what you said. I don't like his joke either.

WorraLiberty · 02/12/2021 22:30

@WheatlandTerrier

I'm not a life coach. I'm just fed up of men getting pervy
Whoah! Back up a minute.

You didn't mention that he got pervy?

What did he say?

Luckingfovely · 02/12/2021 22:31

Think you both sound odd. Possibly perfect for each other Grin

Howshouldibehave · 02/12/2021 22:31

You sound ideally matched.

Mantlemoose · 02/12/2021 22:32

Yeah your risque comment got the answer it deserved but yes give it a miss if that's all it takes for you to want to.

MurielSpriggs · 02/12/2021 22:33

I don't think this is going to work!

Sharletonz · 02/12/2021 22:34

Tbh you started the weirdness.

Ponoka7 · 02/12/2021 22:35

I agree that your comment was very strange. I think that he did his best to overlook it, but judged it wrong.

millerpie · 02/12/2021 22:39

He sounds great, maybe he thought your reply was as weird as hell (which it was). I’d of broken that awkwardness with a bad joke like he did.

MrsSkylerWhite · 02/12/2021 22:41

Honestly, you both sound a bit odd.

Sn0tnose · 02/12/2021 22:44

I don’t think that this is going to be a match made in heaven for either of you.

user1473878824 · 02/12/2021 22:45

@WheatlandTerrier

I'm not a life coach. I'm just fed up of men getting pervy
But he wasn’t, you said something super weird and then he made a joke that was. If a bloke sent me a message basically telling me he hoped I had self esteem I’d instantly get the ick.
Dimondsareforever · 02/12/2021 22:45

Get over yourself. He’s trying to have a conversation with you. Men are human too. And you reply ‘you need to like yourself first’.. 🤣🤣 he needs to give you a miss.

IloveStrawberrylaces · 02/12/2021 22:47

I think you're right, he wouldn't be for me either

ILikeYourButt · 02/12/2021 22:47

The message you sent him was really weird and cringey. He probably didn’t know how to respond!

AnneLovesGilbert · 02/12/2021 22:48

Why would you think he didn’t like himself?