Would you date a binman?

[TrishM80]

Inspired by another thread about being a binman as a career.

You meet a guy on a night out or OLD. Seems nice enough and nice looking, all good. Tells you he's a binman.

YABU - immediate turn off
YANBU - give him a chance

That was not the question. Bin men can also be geeks with glasses and a masters in philosophy. Especially if they are immigrants.

Intellectual connection is important to me too but because I’m not silly enough to assume that the job the man is doing has anything to do with his intellectual capabilities, I have dated men doing all kinds of jobs. Honestly the only people I have never connected with were hedge fund managers.

No I wouldn't look at a binman as a potential life partner because I would want to be with someone who had a similar lifestyle.

Rightly or wrongly binmen arent well paid - I wouldn't be happy in a partnership with someone where we were worrying about money, struggling to afford to pay the mortgage etc.

@KingaBee

That was not the question. Bin men can also be geeks with glasses and a masters in philosophy. Especially if they are immigrants.

Intellectual connection is important to me too but because I’m not silly enough to assume that the job the man is doing has anything to do with his intellectual capabilities, I have dated men doing all kinds of jobs. Honestly the only people I have never connected with were hedge fund managers.

This thread has a massive number of masters grads who are also binmen, but I do not see this IRL. It's a reach. Very dishonest thread.

This thread has a massive number of masters grads who are also binmen, but I do not see this IRL. It's a reach. Very dishonest thread.

Also a lot of master grads who absolutely would (however don't) date a binman

Bin men do ok. Tend to work long hours normally a 3 day one week and 4 days the next where I am. I think people are a bit weird about peole who do manual work tbh.

@KingaBee

That was not the question. Bin men can also be geeks with glasses and a masters in philosophy. Especially if they are immigrants.

Intellectual connection is important to me too but because I’m not silly enough to assume that the job the man is doing has anything to do with his intellectual capabilities, I have dated men doing all kinds of jobs. Honestly the only people I have never connected with were hedge fund managers.

But my point being is that you can have a charming, intelligent man and take your example he has a Masters in Philosophy and is an immigrant. He is aiming low if works a job that requires no set of skills. A person like that could easily find a path in a more skilled job eg marketing, project management etc etc.

I value kindness and intelligence plus I guess an equal in terms of their income or employment. The MN’s that harp on about how if he was fit they’d have a go are equally as shallow as me who would be looking for someone with a skilled job or career.

Bin man: Yep.

Tory: Get f_cked!

@KingaBee

That was not the question. Bin men can also be geeks with glasses and a masters in philosophy. Especially if they are immigrants.

Intellectual connection is important to me too but because I’m not silly enough to assume that the job the man is doing has anything to do with his intellectual capabilities, I have dated men doing all kinds of jobs. Honestly the only people I have never connected with were hedge fund managers.

I'm a non-EU immigrant and we can't stay in Britain unless we have a professional jobs that sponsors visas. Plenty of us manage. Yes, even those of us with degrees with history, politics and philosophy. Gone are the days when educated people from Commonwealth countries had to drive taxis, if they're recent immigrants they're here on a spousal visa (in which case off limits). Or refugees which is a very small number.

Someone who has a degree and can enter unsponsored is either British or from the EU. Most likely white. If they can work at any employer across the whole country and STILL can't find a more relevant job I'd bit a bit .

No I wouldn't.

@SnarkyMilarky

Ok, I’m going to be blasted for this opinion but ….

I would not date a bin man , regardless of how “hot/fit” he is. Tbh I wouldn’t consider anyone that is in a job that requires no set of skills eg factory worker, supermarket employee, courier etc etc. Even if you could argue that they could still be very intelligent it means they are aiming stupendously low if they work a job like that.

I don’t expect a prospective partner to be a neurosurgeon or an overtly ambitious and highly successful professional but they need to be gainfully employed in a profession or a career of some sort.

I have a university degree and work in a qualified field so that may have some bearing

My DH works in a supermarket. He is, without a doubt, the best person I have ever met and I’m bloody lucky to have him.

I understand how you feel though. I wouldn’t date the male equivalent of you, for instance. Mostly because every time I’ve met someone who holds similar views, they’ve turned out to be a massive snotty nosed arsehole who genuinely believes that what they do for eight hours a day defines them as a person and that they are somehow more worthy and valuable to society because they’ve been to university.

OP, why Binmen? Why not middle management? It’s almost as though what you’re really asking is whether people would date someone poor and working class, but you haven’t quite got the nerve to come out and say it in case you get accused of snobbery.

Yes! I did. He is now an engineer and we are engaged. What a weird thing to question!

understand how you feel though. I wouldn’t date the male equivalent of you, for instance. Mostly because every time I’ve met someone who holds similar views, they’ve turned out to be a massive snotty nosed arsehole who genuinely believes that what they do for eight hours a day defines them as a person and that they are somehow more worthy and valuable to society because they’ve been to university.

I don't think it's about what they do for 8 hours but surely more what they earn and how that impacts on lifestyle. If someone earns a high income and enjoys 5 star holidays to the Maldives , expensive restaurants and ski trips to St Moritz and lives in a large house, they are likely to want someone who they can enjoy these things with. Surely that doesn't make them a bad person or necessarily dull or snotty nosed?

Personally I'd be thrilled to meet a bin man as I'd assume they have early nights and personally I struggle to stay up past 10.
I think we'd be quite compatible 😆

Anyone else think of Roz in Frasier?

@wheresmyshoe

Yes, in fact I follow a binman on Twitter. He's in ridiculously good physical shape, always immaculately dressed and.... he's a highly respected amateur botanist with a zest for life that is utterly inspirational. The man is pure joy.

Me too, amazing guy and seems to really love his job.

@PWYP76

Bin man: Yep.

Tory: Get f_cked!

This 100%

@CaliforniaDrumming I'm also a post grad. Love some muscles though 🤷🏻‍♀️

Of course I would date a bin man if I was attracted to him - However, I wouldn’t date you!! Asking the question demonstrates how shallow you are

No. Because we would be unlikely to have the same lifestyle. And I like my lifestyle, and want someone who can share it with me.

@liveforsummer

understand how you feel though. I wouldn’t date the male equivalent of you, for instance. Mostly because every time I’ve met someone who holds similar views, they’ve turned out to be a massive snotty nosed arsehole who genuinely believes that what they do for eight hours a day defines them as a person and that they are somehow more worthy and valuable to society because they’ve been to university.

I don't think it's about what they do for 8 hours but surely more what they earn and how that impacts on lifestyle. If someone earns a high income and enjoys 5 star holidays to the Maldives , expensive restaurants and ski trips to St Moritz and lives in a large house, they are likely to want someone who they can enjoy these things with. Surely that doesn't make them a bad person or necessarily dull or snotty nosed?

Personally I'd be thrilled to meet a bin man as I'd assume they have early nights and personally I struggle to stay up past 10.
I think we'd be quite compatible 😆

I agree with what you’re saying about earnings and impact on lifestyle. It wouldn’t bother me, but I can see it might be important to some. But she didn’t mention money. She talked about a lack of skills. She said ‘even if you could argue that they could still be very intelligent...’ She mentioned how ‘stupendously low’ they were aiming and talked about gainful employment. And it was those comments that made me think she was a snotty nosed arsehole. I stand by that.

Aren't well paid... the average is around 20k, can be a lot more.

9 hours, 3/4 days a week but you finish when the jobs done, that could be just 6 hours (for someone I know, it often is!).

I wish I was getting 20K for a 4 day week of 6 hour days!

£20k is decent for many people.

My binmen are all gorgeous so yes.

One helped me get a huge box out of the boot on Friday and his forearms were so muscular and strong. I giggled like a teen when I thanked him.

I dated, married and divorced one! Nothing to do with his job, he just happened to be a cunt

Funnily enough,

My old man's a Dustman
He wears a Dustman's a hat
He wears Gorblimey trousers
and we live in a council flat

And I Love Him

@pbvincent

Funnily enough,

My old man's a Dustman
He wears a Dustman's a hat
He wears Gorblimey trousers
and we live in a council flat

And I Love Him

Then perhaps you can settle a question I've had for years. What are gorblimey trousers? When I was little I thought it was poor grimy. which makes more sense i think.