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TrishM80 · 2021-12-02T09:17:15+00:00

Inspired by another thread about being a binman as a career. You meet a guy on a night out or OLD. Seems nice enough and nice looking, all good. Tells you he's a binman. YABU - immediate turn off YANBU - give him a chance

LobsterNapkin · 03/12/2021 23:39

I think I would, theoretically, but then I never had so maybe that is easy to say. Though I did date a guy who worked in a travelling carnival once, some people might consider that a similar social level.

In reality though most people end up dating people of a similar social, income and educational level, and women are less likely to date someone who is supposedly lower in the hierarchy than men are. I don't know that's usually about snobbishness so much as who we relate to most easily.

PizzaCrust · 03/12/2021 23:44

@Fidgetty

I think many are being disingenuous with their replies

I think so too. There's a stigma attached, rightly or wrongly (wrongly IMO but it still exists) and all this faux "what's not to like?" is a bit 🙄

I don’t think they are.

Someone is earning an honest wage, that’s a pretty good place to start. Much better than half of the wastes of space you read about on here who have grandiose ideas of themselves while they sit at home for years “waiting for their business idea to take off” or refusing to apply for jobs because they’re “beneath” them. I’d much rather date a bin man who goes out to work, earns money and comes home rather than me paying for him to sit at home thinking he’s the fucking shit because he wants to launch a business no one has launched before (for good reason).

Also, purely assumption but bin men tend to start early, so I assume they finish their shifts quite early too? Would be super handy for school pick ups if their dad was done work by 2pm, as an example. Similarly, they seem to get bank holidays off and council work has decent holidays, pay, etc.

The only off putting element would be the smell/clothes, which I presume most bin men get around by having a post work shower and chucking their clothes in the wash when they get in. That really wouldn’t be that difficult.

I grew up on a farm so I’m forever used to properly dirty clothes from the farm and it really isn’t a big deal. Washing machines and showers exist, and I can’t imagine a bin man smells any worse than a farmer after putting out slurry and/or feeding silage to cattle. Similarly, builders etc would have just as dirty clothes.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with it as a job. I’m glad that most posters on this thread can see out of their own arseholes to realise that.

angelfacecuti75 · 03/12/2021 23:57

If he is sexy and fit....id have a go at it...

PizzaCrust · 03/12/2021 23:58

Also, to add.

From my single days when I was in my early twenties, I had some of the best chats/connections with men in jobs like these, or retail and the like.

The worst conversations I had were with ‘professionals’. Several doctors were creepy bastards. A lawyer was another creepy bastard. Another man in a professional, very well paid job was also a creepy bastard. On paper they earned a lot of money, had great career potential and whatnot, but they were sleazy and snobby in equal measure.

There was a time with one of them where I had to run out of his house in the early hours because (however naive I may have been), he asked me back for a few drinks and casual chat and within 10 minutes had lured me upstairs under the pretence of showing me something and then tried to get on top of me when I sat on the very end of his bed. And kept insisting/pressuring when I clearly said I wasn’t interested.

That’s exactly why a man’s occupation would rarely put me off. I’ve had enough experiences to know that just because a man is well paid doesn’t mean shit for what he’s like out of the office.

(Disclaimer: of course there will be sleazy bin men and lovely doctors but I will always focus on a man’s behaviour and nature long before what he does for a living. As long as he is working or has a valid reason for not working, it really doesn’t matter to me. I’d much rather have less disposable joint income and a man treat me well than be very well off and have a man treat me like shit).

TonytheDog · 03/12/2021 23:58

So every single person creates waste but most people don't seem to value the people that magically take that waste away, from often very stinky bins, every week/2weeks.
Why?
I couldn't care less if someone was a refuse collector or a heart surgeon if they were kind.

Fidgetty · 04/12/2021 00:13

Ya nonsense. Most people when asked "what does your partner do" would cringe at having to answer "bin man", even if he was the most amazing man in the world to them. You people are lying.

GodIsAVegan · 04/12/2021 00:40

Ya nonsense. Most people when asked "what does your partner do" would cringe at having to answer "bin man", even if he was the most amazing man in the world to them. You people are lying.

I think that shows your character and what matters to you. I would never be embarrassed of someone doing a job like this, they’re earning money, it’s an important service and it’s not hurting anyone.
The sorts of things I value in people are kindness, compassion for others, loyalty etc. Those traits can be found across most jobs, being a bin man doesn’t automatically rule out any traits that are important to me, it would depend on the individual.
Someone mentioned they couldn’t date someone that worked in an abattoir, I’d agree with that because to me they would lack the sort of compassion for animals that I’d need someone close to me to have.

CandidClarisse · 04/12/2021 01:06

Some of them are super hot! Also think about it, they are not afraid of hard work or getting stuck in, they get up early, are motivated, physically fit, decent tan from being outdoors, tend to finish early so have more time to spend with you etc. What's not to like!

Derkle · 04/12/2021 02:34

I'd have to ask a couple of questions. Does he treat me well? Does he like animals? Is he funny and smart? Does he "rev my engine"? Then yes. But that particular questionnaire is for all potential love interests, not just those who happen to be bin men.

Panacotta · 04/12/2021 06:00

Sexy bin men you say? 🤔

Sheerdetermination · 04/12/2021 06:07

This is an unpleasant, snobby question. I wouldn’t date someone who had these kind of discussions.

FrenchFancie · 04/12/2021 06:19

I may be biased here but no…. Because the creepiest date I ever had was with a bin man in my twenties and he turned into a bit of a stalker!! Not going there again ever…. (I realise that I am tarring all bin men with the same brush and that’s not fair but….. creepy James the bin man has put me off for life!)

SnarkyMilarky · 04/12/2021 07:09

Ok, I’m going to be blasted for this opinion but ….

I would not date a bin man , regardless of how “hot/fit” he is. Tbh I wouldn’t consider anyone that is in a job that requires no set of skills eg factory worker, supermarket employee, courier etc etc. Even if you could argue that they could still be very intelligent it means they are aiming stupendously low if they work a job like that.

I don’t expect a prospective partner to be a neurosurgeon or an overtly ambitious and highly successful professional but they need to be gainfully employed in a profession or a career of some sort.

I have a university degree and work in a qualified field so that may have some bearing

NinaDefoe · 04/12/2021 07:30

@SnarkyMilarky

Ok, I’m going to be blasted for this opinion but ….

I would not date a bin man , regardless of how “hot/fit” he is. Tbh I wouldn’t consider anyone that is in a job that requires no set of skills eg factory worker, supermarket employee, courier etc etc. Even if you could argue that they could still be very intelligent it means they are aiming stupendously low if they work a job like that.

I don’t expect a prospective partner to be a neurosurgeon or an overtly ambitious and highly successful professional but they need to be gainfully employed in a profession or a career of some sort.

I have a university degree and work in a qualified field so that may have some bearing

I have a university degree and work in a qualified field so that may have some bearing

Some of the most ‘stupendously’ stupid, emotionally stunted, emotionally unintelligent people put on this Earth rise to the top of their profession.

I’m sure many of them have degrees and the like coming out of their backside.

You only have to look at our esteemed PM to see a prime example of that.

coronafiona · 04/12/2021 07:47

I can't believe someone posted this. It comes across as though you think you're better than 'a binman', snobby and disrespectful. I think you should have a good look at your views.

EllaPaella · 04/12/2021 07:50

@Kendoddsdadsdogsdadsdead

Binman yes. Tory no.

Haha yes, 100% this

5128gap · 04/12/2021 07:52

@LobsterNapkin

I think I would, theoretically, but then I never had so maybe that is easy to say. Though I did date a guy who worked in a travelling carnival once, some people might consider that a similar social level.

In reality though most people end up dating people of a similar social, income and educational level, and women are less likely to date someone who is supposedly lower in the hierarchy than men are. I don't know that's usually about snobbishness so much as who we relate to most easily.

Who we relate to most most is a smokescreen to cover a desire for a man who makes a lot of money, and who consequently they see as the best provider. High earning men are not a homogenous mass with the same interests, values and beliefs and avguarantee yiu will get on with them. Its just that the people arguing this are also at pains to stress how educated and successful they themselves are, and the idea of desiring a man's income doesn't sit well with that.

backtolifebacktoreality · 04/12/2021 07:59

@Kendoddsdadsdogsdadsdead

Binman yes. Tory no.

This

feelsobadfeltsogood · 04/12/2021 08:10

Just like to add our bin men - 2 out the 4 are really nice looking
They work hard and are always polite

What an awful thing to discriminate against

5128gap · 04/12/2021 08:21

@Panacotta

Sexy bin men you say? 🤔

Those are WC fetish images. Fantasy fodder for people who typically wouldn't consider RL men with those jobs as partners.

burnoutbabe · 04/12/2021 08:26

No as I really don't think we'd have much in common when I have worked in professional jobs all my life and have done extra course etc. I just can't see how we'd have many shared goals /values?

weller34 · 04/12/2021 09:07

👏🏻

CaliforniaDrumming · 04/12/2021 09:17

@Panacotta

Sexy bin men you say? 🤔

I don't find these men attractive. Is that allowed on this prescriptive thread? 🙂 I don't like overmuscled types. I like a nice geek with glasses and a postgrad degree. Because I am a geek with glasses and a postgrad degree.

themagicnumberthree · 04/12/2021 09:41

My husband works as a waste water process operator i.e. sewage. So yes. Showers and washes his clothes at work, never smells of poo. Starts work at 7 so on the days I work he can pick our son up from school. Works well for all of us

liveforsummer · 04/12/2021 09:51

@SnarkyMilarky

Ok, I’m going to be blasted for this opinion but ….

I would not date a bin man , regardless of how “hot/fit” he is. Tbh I wouldn’t consider anyone that is in a job that requires no set of skills eg factory worker, supermarket employee, courier etc etc. Even if you could argue that they could still be very intelligent it means they are aiming stupendously low if they work a job like that.

I don’t expect a prospective partner to be a neurosurgeon or an overtly ambitious and highly successful professional but they need to be gainfully employed in a profession or a career of some sort.

I have a university degree and work in a qualified field so that may have some bearing

I think you are one of the few people on this thread who is being honest - either that or the title has attracted comments from people outside of the usual mn demographic, which I guess is possible.