To think their name choice is ‘off’
Isitweirdorisitjustme · 29/11/2021 14:54
I feel pretty miffed about something and can’t work out whether I’m being unreasonable or not - please give it to me straight!
SIL (my brother’s wife) was pregnant at the same time as me. I was six weeks ahead with our third baby (already have two boys and knew I was expecting a girl this time around) She was pregnant with their second (they chose to find out sex at birth)
Let’s say we chose Molly. Six weeks later they announced the arrival of their daughter and her name was Polly. Apparently they realised it was similar to Molly but thought this was ‘cute.’
For context, I don’t live in the same country as my brother. COVID aside, we normally see each other a few times a year and we are a small family - he is my only sibling. His eldest child is also a boy so the two recent babies are the only girls (and it’s likely to stay that way, don’t think either of us will have any more)
Is it just me or is it fucking weird that in our small family, we now have two girls, just six weeks apart with incredibly similar names? I feel like they are already set up for a lifetime of comparison and this just makes it even worse.
My mum is already getting confused and mixing their names up. She also keeps buying two sets of any gifts she gets for them so I keep seeing photos of Polly dressed identically to Molly?
Obviously I can never say anything to my brother but AIBU to be quietly quite pissed off about this? Polly has no significance for them beyond thinking it’s a nice name - I just can’t imagine me announcing Molly and them not thinking ‘oh shit that sounds like Polly, best think of something else’
Am I being unreasonable?AIBU
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happinessischocolate · 01/12/2021 18:52
Kids love having similar names to their friends and relatives. A friends daughter changed her name from Emily to Millie to fit in with the cousins who were called Mary, Molly and Marnie.
My sister has a daughter who has exactly the same name as my sister in laws daughter. So my kids have 2 cousins called Olivia. So what. Also Polly and Molly are in different countries and will very rarely see each other.
It could be an issue if they both went to the same school and had the same surname but they're in different countries
mathanxiety · 01/12/2021 19:09
Nora and Cora are only similar on the surface.
The obvious nn for Cora is Coco.
Ra-Ra isn't what springs immediately to mind for either Nora or Cora.
gersteddybears · 01/12/2021 23:27
Yeah it's a bit annoying but it is a different name. I prob Sky wld think it's a bit strange but well nothing h can do about it.
My dh wanted to name our dd Ellie but my sister has Ella. I said no we can't use that it's too close m. He didn't think there was anything wrong as it didn't sound the same but it was too alike. My mum wld have forever been getting them mixed up!
helpIhateclothesshopping · 02/12/2021 11:50
I think it's more weird when people do that to their own kids like calling them Robbie and Bobbie or everyone having a name that shortens to Chris
JimCarreysMask · 02/12/2021 12:18
I love one of the names and not the other. Strangely, as I suppose they are similar!
ODFOgrinch · 02/12/2021 12:49
I think they are both gorgeous names but you need to embrace this moving forward.
Is it too late to change your older children's names? Are you planning on having more?
Flora, Dora, Laura, Tora,
Cory, Rory etc for boys.
Basically if something is a bit too much go big and then it's a massive statement rather than a bit unusual.
mam0918 · 02/12/2021 15:27
Same, I don't mind Cora but Nora is not personally my taste, while they 'rhyme' they are WILDLY different vibes.
Nora(h) has a very dated and grown up but also 'indie' and 'hipster' feel
Cora has a very modern and child-like but also nature/hippy and alt vibe
Apart from spelling, I don't find the names alike at all as they say completely different things about the types of people that choose them.
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