Washing up gate, who was unreasonable?

[Homerenonovice]

I won’t give the full back story as I want opinions based on the facts rather than from the angels we were each coming from.

I had just done all the washing up/ loaded the dishwasher. Walked up stairs and DH was rushing out the room to go to a work meeting and had another few bits of washing up.

I said oh I’ve just done the washing up and have people coming over, can you just leave it in the bedroom for now so it’s out of sight.

DH said no, my hands are full I’m putting the washing up in the sink where washing up goes.

I took the washing up back out the sink back upstairs and put it on his bedside table.

Was I being unreasonable?

@Marynotsocontrary

As regards putting the dirty dishes back - I may have done this if I were angry enough. More probably I'd have quickly put them somewhere else. I would most certainly have left them for him to wash up...no way would I wash them in those circumstances.

If you removed dirty Tupperware boxes from the sink and put them back not on my desk but on my bedside table (just why?) they'd find themselves on your bedside table very swiftly. I may have had a little sympathy had they gone back on the desk. But the bedside table! Really?

@Offmyfence

If someone was cooking for me & there were dirty dishes in the sink, I'd question their knowledge of basic hygiene regarding food prep

Don't come to my home, you would not be welcome, luckily I have no friends like you (of course they wouldn't be friends if they were).

Wouldn't want to - you've probably given them all salmonella!

@Svalberg 😂 like that's how you get salmonella, do educate yourself or stop food prep!

I think the OP was making a point @Offmyfence.

[quote Offmyfence]@Svalberg 😂 like that's how you get salmonella, do educate yourself or stop food prep! [/quote]
I've been on courses for food hygiene, cleaning up before you start and not putting raw meat on top of cooked food are basics.

@Offmyfence

If someone was cooking for me & there were dirty dishes in the sink, I'd question their knowledge of basic hygiene regarding food prep

Don't come to my home, you would not be welcome, luckily I have no friends like you (of course they wouldn't be friends if they were).

It's hilarious to think you can't safely prep food if you had a dirty dish in the sink. Can you imagine how it would work in your average coffee bar/cafe/restaurant/canteen? Cook just about to prep some veg and a dirty plate and mug brought into the kitchen, quick hide the veg or do you just dispose of them because they might have been exposed to a dirty dish?

Your friends are obviously of a more sensible disposition. Good laugh though.

@Svalberg but it was porridge?

I've never needed to do a good hygiene course, common sense has got me this far and lots of hosting.

I've 10 for Christmas dinner, I'm sure they'll all survive. Their will be a lot of dirty dishes throughout the day.

I've been on courses for food hygiene, cleaning up before you start and not putting raw meat on top of cooked food are basics.

Why would you put food you are preparing on top of someones dish soaking in the sink? Was there any meat in his washing up? Yuk to leaving meat festering in the bedroom.

[quote Offmyfence]@Svalberg 😂 like that's how you get salmonella, do educate yourself or stop food prep! [/quote]
Maybe it is a new variant of dried on porridge in a sealed tupperware box? New variants can be dangerous.

I've been on courses for food hygiene, cleaning up before you start and not putting raw meat on top of cooked food are basics.

Did they not tell you to use a chopping board on the counter rather than the dirty dishes in the sink to prep your food on

[quote Offmyfence]@Svalberg but it was porridge?

I've never needed to do a good hygiene course, common sense has got me this far and lots of hosting.

I've 10 for Christmas dinner, I'm sure they'll all survive. Their will be a lot of dirty dishes throughout the day. [/quote]
I was fine until I met current DP. He has a cast iron stomach - I don't. Almost every time he cooked, I had an upset stomach afterwards. I went on a hygiene course with him so that he knew what he should be doing as nobody had taught him, and he hadn't picked it up along the way. He's fine now. And now, I have work to do so I'll leave this.

@claymodels

I've been on courses for food hygiene, cleaning up before you start and not putting raw meat on top of cooked food are basics.

Did they not tell you to use a chopping board on the counter rather than the dirty dishes in the sink to prep your food on

You need to wash things before you prep them!!!!! I must be living in a parallel universe where everyone else eats ready prepped frozen veg!

I don't know what your dishwasher is like but can you not just open it mid cycle and add extra dishes? Mine stops when you open the door I'm always adding extra stuff that I find after I've started up the dishwasher.

@ancientgran commercial kitchens have separate sinks for hand washing, food prep and dishwashing.

Do you think the chef washes the dishes?!

Maybe it is a new variant of dried on porridge in a sealed tupperware box? New variants can be dangerous.

Of course, I hadn't thought of that.

This thread is hilarious . I'll put it up there with the MN classics
Its bloody bonkers .. yes YABU 🤣😂

do you think the chef washes the dishes??!

I live with a chef and I can tell you that the answer is very much a no. Especially at home

@Svalberg I must be awful, and tbf so must all of the kitchens I worked in from being 15 - 28, no one washes things before prepping, broccoli etc get chopped on the board, and thrown into pan of boiling water.

Chicken should never be washed.
Most meat isn't washed (as advised by food standards agency)

Potatoes peeled and thrown into water.

@HeronLanyon

Just don’t understand why a few dishes can’t be in a sink when friends come round ? Obvs is nice to have a tidy up but the kitchen sink is probably the very last thing I’d expect to see pristine and empty if someone was cooking for me or for any reason. Wouldn’t notice a sink !

OP wanted a clear kitchen so she could cook. Not because she was embarrassed about a few pots.

OP wanted a clear kitchen so she could cook. Not because she was embarrassed about a few pots.

And you can't cook with three items on the sink......

@QforCucumber Good for you

[quote unname]@ancientgran commercial kitchens have separate sinks for hand washing, food prep and dishwashing.

Do you think the chef washes the dishes?![/quote]
No I don't, the chef's I used to supervise would be more likely to throw them at you. You are forgetting that having a sealed tupperware box in the sink is going to cause salmonella so don't you think having a separate sink with unsealed dirty dishes is going to contaminate anything and everything.

OP wanted a clear kitchen so she could cook. Not because she was embarrassed about a few pots. OP literally said in her first post that she wanted them out of sight.

sval a belated reply. I do agree. If I have veg to wash then any few dirty dishes wouldn’t be in the sink they would be on the side. Or I’d wash veg in my small middle sink etc. Now understand your concern. Apols !

I have one single sink and limited counter space. I cannot easily manage cooking with dirty dishes in the sink or next to it.

Washing hands, rinsing vegetables, pealing potatoes, draining tins and straining pasta all has to happen in this one sink. Having dirty dishes brought in just after I had prepared the kitchen to start cooking would irritate me also.