My aunt doesn't want me to bring my dog to Christmas day

[onethickpony]

My Aunt has told me that she doesn't want me to bring my dog on Christmas day. There are going to be 22 of us so I can understand maybe she is worried about it being overwhelming, but my dog is very clean and well behaved and has been at most large family gatherings without issue.

Should I just respect her wishes or AIBU to push back and least ask why? Sad to think of my dog alone on xmas day (yes i am a crazy pet parent).

She could bring a travel crate and set it up in quiet corner returning hourly for a potter around the garden. But only if host agrees to this ofcourse.

No, no. The aunt has said she does not want a dog at her house at Christmas. It's not an opening to find ways that it would be fine for the aunt to have the dog around. She doesn't want it. She doesn't want it crated in her dining room or wandering around her garden.

She does not want the dog.

She probably never wants the dog but tolerates it at other times when she's not already run off her feet catering for a large party.

It's her house so her choice.

Leave in the boot of the car and walk your dog after lunch. Remember a pet safe hot water bottle in case it’s cold

Bringing a dog into someone else’s home is a huge favor to ask. Even asking once can be seen as rude. She has already said no. Accept her policy and make your Christmas plans accordingly.

I'm an animal company person rather than a human company person so would stay home with my dog (if I were able to have one). 22 sounds extreme, how big is their house?! If it's an average residential house and not a mansion with separate reception rooms then I can see the point. Thank god I don't have 22 relatives is all.

I wouldn't dare admit to my Sister that my love of staying at her house Christmas Eve is the dogs. Solely the dogs and having them in the bed with me as they are so snuggly and happy. I love her and her kids but the dogs make me smile, genuinely. A child opening presents, not so much (even if I love the kid, I play along). Animals bring me real joy.

I love dogs, but YABU.

You should never take a pet to someone else's home unless they say it's ok.

There are loads of threads from the perspective of people annoyed that family want to bring their dogs.

@Fredstheteds

Leave in the boot of the car and walk your dog after lunch. Remember a pet safe hot water bottle in case it’s cold

Please be joking

This has got to be a reverse.

I bloody hates reverses.

Of course you should respect her wishes! If you don’t like it then you can stay home with your dog (tbh I’d prefer Christmas alone with a nice dog to Christmas with 22 people packed into one house)

This has got to be a reverse. No-one is that self entitled or lacking in social awareness to do this.

You know the dog doesn't give a shit it's Christmas, right?

We've asked my brother not to bring his dog - it's a young dog (not quite a puppy) and there's lots of young kids coming, loads of toys and noise. We won't be asking the kids to not play with their brand new toys, but don't want to tempt the dog who is still in the chew stage.

My mum's dog will spend most of the day in the garden (with outdoor kennel) but it's a mature dog and used to it.

@Walkingthedog46

22 people on a Christmas Day? Sounds like hell to me. I’d stay at home with my dog and enjoy the peace and quiet!! 😂

Same here.

I wouldn't leave the dog alone all day. You could go for the lunch and then leave.

I think that people humanise their dogs’ feelings far too much

The dog will be sad/the dog will miss out/the dog shouldn’t be on its own for Christmas.

When actually, a dog in a room full of people/noise/food they’re not allowed to have is rarely going to be a more enjoyable experience for the dog than being at home in its bed with its toys.

I have guide dogs (one retired, one working,) and I don’t take them to family gatherings even though I am perfectly welcome to do so. I don’t need my guide dog to get there since we usually go in my parents’ car. And I know that taking him will mean making sure he is behaving at all times/not getting in people’s way/not wagging his tail near low tables full of drinks/that nobody is feeding him or leaving food within reach. And my dog’s behaviour is impeccable. But he’s a dog. He doesn’t need to be dragged off somewhere where he’s forced to be whether he wants to be or not.

So I leave him at my parents’ house if I’m staying there and we’re going somewhere else. I leave the tv on for him/them, The young one has all his toys, the older one would prefer just to sleep anyway, and my dad will come home after a few hours and feed them/let them out etc. That’s IMO a far more enjoyable experience for the dog, and actually, given he’s a guide dog, if I posted that family didn’t want him there most would probably say I wasn’t unreasonable because he’s a guide dog. But sometimes there are situations where you just don’t take them, for their benefit as much as anything.

Her house, her rules. Just because you’re a dog lover doesn’t mean everyone else wants it around. It’s a dog, it’s hardly going to know it’s Christmas.

@Boopeedoop

You know the dog doesn't give a shit it's Christmas, right?

Of course, but you shouldn't leave it alone for an extended period especially if it's not used to it.

Ok OP pls humour me with your spiel as to the pushback.

What would your script say?

bet this is a Reversey Percy really

Yabu to expect to take your dog to someone's house on Xmas unless they've specifically offered you to. (Obviously I'm not including guide and support dogs)
It's one day, for a few hours. There will be loads of people there, food around, gift wrap etc. I wouldn't want any pets around them, unless they were my own.

It doesn't matter if it is 2 or 22 people.if she doesn't want you to bring your dog you either don't or don't go.

Daily Mail?

Tab. It's her home and her decision
There is no 'pushing back' to be done

If you don't want to leave your dog then stay at home with him.

You cannot force someone to have your dog in their home.

depends how far youre travelling really, but if its an all dayer, of course you cant leave your dog. Id stay home and do something more low-key

@onethickpony

My Aunt has told me that she doesn't want me to bring my dog on Christmas day. There are going to be 22 of us so I can understand maybe she is worried about it being overwhelming, but my dog is very clean and well behaved and has been at most large family gatherings without issue.

Should I just respect her wishes or AIBU to push back and least ask why? Sad to think of my dog alone on xmas day (yes i am a crazy pet parent).

She's already told you why - she doesn't want you to.

That's enough.

You can’t take the dog.
End of.

This has to be a reverse- surely no one is so rude to ‘push back’.