in being upset (pissed off) with parents who bring their obviuosly sick children to the nursery?

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Shouldnt a child that is coughing his guts out be home? Or with rosy red feverish cheeks? Why do some parents think it is ok to lumber nursery staff with children so ill they need carrying around all the time? Why do they think it ok to keep passing on the germs to other peoples children?

It is really frustrating I agree and you always know that in a few days time, your lo is probably going to be unwell too. Some people aren't very considerate.

drives me nuts too - you just know that your lo is going to be ill over Christmas too

BabyDragon has a cough. And red cheeks. And she insisted on loads of cuddles at nursery this week. She's not ill though.

And one by one babydragons nursery friends will turn up with a cough and rosy cheeks. Guess why.

And one of these children may be asthmatic, or have other illnesses that you cant "see" on a daily basis, and coughs which remains a cough with ONE child will be hospitalization for another.

Not sure about a cough, but DD's nursery had an outbreak of hand foot and mouth and parents were sending in children who were ill and contageous with it, I ended up having to keep DD off as I didn't want DS2 to get it via her and also I work with pregnant women so couldn't risk passing it on as it can be passed on to the neonate [fangy] I was!

I was so I couldn't spell it

My son is not normally in on a friday, but it was his nursery Christmas party today, so I was with him there for about an hour. It was like being in the house of Pestilence. But if that is how ill all the children are I am not sending him next week at all, I cant risk it. We are flying out to see my parents for Christmas on saturday morning. I cant drag any illnesses there, if I can avoid is. My parents "should not get ill". My dad is paralyzed and in a wheelchair after a stroke, and cared for by my mum who has terminal cancer.

Luyckily he is starting a new nursery after Christmas, he has already been there a few times a week this term. That is a nursery where people rarely send children if they are ill, mostly because it is only till 12, so the children have either got SAHMS or nannies who care for themn in conjunction with the nursery. I cant wait.

I think, if you are a working mum, you should have contingency in place for when your child is ill. But I guess, if you dont care enough about your child to keep him home if he is unwell, why should you care if your child infect other children?

Oh FGS calm down.

BabyDragon has red cheeks because it's cold outside and warm in the nursery. She wants to be carried round because she's just started and loves the attention. The cough is just the tail end of a cold.

So no, one by one the children aren't going to go down with it, because there isn't an "it" to be gone down with.

And, she's a third-born child with schoolage siblings. If I kept her off whenever she has a cough r cold she wouldn't be there from about July til April.

Ah, it's turned into a judgemental "you don't care enough about your child" kind of rant. I'm parping myself and hiding the thread.

There is a mother at DD's school who keeps doing this. It irritates me because I don't want dd sick but what really gets me is the lack of concern for her dd. Poor thing needs to be at home in bed

Are we talking about colds, basically? Do you really think working parents should keep their children home every time they have a cold? Sounds a bit precious to me - not to say hopelessly unrealistic.

Nurseries do expect feverish or otherwise unwell children to be at home. But not common colds. And even if you did - you could never cut out the catagious period - it would be too late.

contagious period, even

No, normal colds are "fine", kids get them, you cant really stop that from happening. But contageous illnesses, and when kids are coughing so bad thay cant manage to catch their breath between coughs.

What really irks me is that it was the nursery managers child who was sickest. She brought her to work as "mummy was there, so it was ok". NO, NOT OK! She had one on one the entire time, from the nursery staff, and by her own admission, calpol was not really helping to bring her temperature down, the child had had two doses already.....

Sorry, I am probably getting it all out of proportion, but I cannot have another chest story with my youngest just now.

I am supposed to go out tonight, to a school quizz night arranged by the pta as another fund raiser, but I am now in such a panicky mood, I feel like I am going to burst out crying.

Quintessential don't get upset, not worth it. It is really annoying, but it won't ever stop, especially if like at your nursery the managers children are ill and still there. It does pose another question abaout staff and thier own children at the same place. I personally can't see how it can really work that well, especially with small ones who really wouldn't understand why "mummy is spending more time with other children rather than them !"
Anyway, go out and have a good time.

Is this a thread attacking working mums? Do think that we should all give up our jobs and live on benefits. It is wrong to judge parents if you have never been in their shoes.

Working parents are often under huge pressure not to take sick leave when they are ill, yet alone when their children are ill. For example I know someone who is a single mother who got sacked for taking too much sick leave when her daughter had chickenpox. (Ok, the truth is she was selected for redunancy) There may be lots of lovely European directives allowing unpaid sick leave for dependents, but employers find ways of getting rid of people who take the leave.

Sending a child into nursery when they are below par is often done by parents who know that the bills won't get paid unless they go to work. Also children can go up and down very quickly when they are ill. A bouncy two year old who has jumped all over mum in the morning might be tired and larthagic in the afternoon.

yes 0f course,sick children shouldnt go to nursery - whether mum or dad are stay at home, work from home or work out of home,, end of

In an ideal world people would not be sacked for taking time off with their children. Unfortunately we live on Earth rather than Utobia. Its the REAL world and people sometimes make mistakes.

I agree that sick children should not be sent to nursery. However its unfair to suggest that the parents who do send in a child who sick by mistake are not concerned about the welfare of the child.

i send my children to nursery/school if they have cough/cold ect as long as they are not ILL as such because if i didnt they would be never there and id lose my job!!! do we stay off work just because we have a cold? do we heck!!! you have to be sensible i wouldnt leave them if they had been up all night wi sickness ect... but colds? well be fair its time of year and there gonna get it weather my kid passes it on or someone in street does!!

Oh for heaven's sake there is no point trying to 'avoid' bugs.
You can't , just accept them , buy some medicines and get on with things.

So selfish to send a child you know is sick to nursery. I was going to start a thread on this earlier in the week. A woman came to my babygroup smelling of (her own) sick and her child was puking while she was there, she was discussing how awful she'd been feeling and so on. DH came to pick me up and wished her Christmas briefly - by that evening he was throwing up with the same bug she described. It's knocked out our whole week and I've just had an email from the babygroup host saying the same thing happened to her. If you know you're under the weather, or your child is, stay in!

If they don't catch the bugs at day nursery then they catch them when they get to school.

My son is in year 1 and hardly ever ill. I am sure that attending nursery full time as pre schooler built up his immune system.

Nurseries are very quick to send home a really ill child.

Reallytired - are you suggesting that parents of sick children are doing everyone a favour by passing bugs around?

I don't think so speccie, reallytired is saying that getting ill is part of life and children do tend to build up immune systems when little if they are exposed to germs.
You can't live your life in a germ free bubble, people all around you are coughing sneezing germs all the time.