[quote TheGirlCat]@Fr0thandBubble You don't explain if it's 4 girls or 5 girls left out. It reads like as your title says, 5 girls out of a total of 13 are being left out.
Regardless, I find this thread deeply, deeply horrifying and concerning on so many levels. We wonder why #MeToo happens, why women are told to #BeKind , even at their own expense.
This thread, shows how the conditioning starts early. I am lucky I grew up in a time and country where if you received an invite, you received one. It was never a big deal, and as young as 5 you knew who your friends were so would never expect an invite from a classmate you weren't good friends with. What this thread shows, is these days children are conditioned to sacrifice their own happiness - told they have to invite the whole class - even children they don't get on with or who BULLY THEM, or they risk not having 8 of their friends so then run the risk of upsetting a couple of close friends, all for the sake of not having an entire class there.
Children as this thread shows, are conditioned that their rights don't matter, their wants ON THEIR OWN BIRTHDAY don't matter. They have invite people they don't like. This, has a serious affect, especially with girls and women later on, who feel they have to be around people they are uncomfortable with or don't like, just to be seen to 'bekind'. Their own wishes don't matter, they must 'bekind'. No matter the cost to them.
This thread and it's subliminal and outright messages that children have no choice in who they have in their own homes and who they associate with, is so deeply, deeply disturbing to me, and more so because many of you simply can't see it. You are too caught up in the shallow 'bekind' to see what the undercurrent of the message is you are sending out. This thread has such sinister undertones and while I'm glad some others see it, I am very saddened and disturbed not enough others see the sinister messages this 'bekind' and put your own wishes and happiness last has on a girl who will grow up.
OP, allow your daughter the safety, the freedom, and the happiness to CHOOSE who SHE wants and HER OWN BIRTHDAY. Other people's responses is NOT YOUR DAUGHTER'S RESPONSIBILITY. The reaction of another child, parent, or ultimately man, is not your child's responsibility, and she shouldn't have to sacrifice a couple of her friends, just to be seen to be kind, at her own expense and happiness. Please, think about what message you are sending to your daughter, that appearances matter more than her own wants and needs on her own special day. You are like other posters on here, teaching her to put herself last, and to be responsible for the reactions and happiness of others, at the expense of her own. Just think about it. You don't have to make yourself miserable and axe a few of your friends, just to be seen to 'bekind'. You don't have to invite everyone to be a decent person. Just think about what message you are giving her, when you are telling her that her own happiness matters less than numbers and the reactions of others. Please, just think about it, and make that positive change to be a positive parent who lets her daughter know it's ok to make choices that make her happy.[/quote]
Well thankfully it looks like your opinion on the matter is in the minority!!
Most people appreciate empathy, clearly some don’t….
Some parents try to teach kids how ‘being kind’ works from an early age, some don’t….
Some parents try to reach kids to be inclusive, sons don’t….
Some people give a shit about others, some don’t….
Swings and roundabouts!!