AIBU to not answer the door when she arrives?

[Lightasafly]

I have a few unused gift sets that I advertised for free in a local page.

A woman massaged me this morning to ask if they were available? I told her yes and she arranged to collect this evening at 5.45.

6.15 comes and no sign of her so o message to ask if she’s still coming

She replied…

“Chill, I’m just putting petrol in the car”

She’s still not here.

Fucking hate time wasters, especially cheeky ones. I’m tempted not to answer the door if she eventually turns up. What is it with entitled people who think you’ll sit around all evening waiting for them to come!

@Merryoldgoat

Can I just say to all the people suggesting donating to a shelter - have you tried to do that?

For obvious reasons the locations are secret, no one from the council ever gets back to you, no one from the charities themselves replies to your messages. It’s really disheartening.

I heard about women with no clothes, beds or bedding etc and had all of that stuff, in great condition to give away. Not a single person replied to my messages. I find it infuriating to hear about them being desperate or stuff but giving you no way of donating.

We have an organisation locally which has drop off points across the borough. It passes things on to people who are homeless, including those fleeing domestic violence. I passed on a lot of baby things, women’s clothes and toiletries, household goods etc. There might be similar in other areas.

what a silly cow she was.

I wouldn't answer the door!! My husband advertised very low priced less than yr old washing machine on Facebook market place, a woman said she would buy it but would he deliver. He arranged a time with her.He and his brother loaded it into the car, took it, she wasn't in! Messaged her, she was having her nails fine elsewhere, could he come back!!! He didn't go back, she didn't get a great washer. These people want everything!!

@hotmess19

I just realised I deleted a chunk of the reply. But I hadn’t given him my address yet, just a postcode, as he was asking for a delivery and he somehow found out the exact address (including flat number) and kept ringing the door bell, throwing stuff at out windows, following me into work, calling my work place, etc. He never got the tv as even when I offered him it, he only wanted it if I’d drive it (and him) there.

Very creepy. You were right to call the police. Have to ask yourself why he wanted you to be in a vehicle with him and drive to his property……

Cheeky mare I just donate stuff like that to the school fayre or charity shop!

I felt a bit smug a couple of years after this happened to me. The same woman pm'd me about some Thomas Tank stuff which I was selling dirt cheap just before Christmas. Lucky for me I hadn't deleted the messages I'd sent asking if she still wanted the previous stuff & was she still coming. Her message asking for me to keep Thomas for her was therefore tagged onto these messages at my end. Took great delight in saying "no, you didn't turn up last time or reply to my messages".

Don’t give them! She’s probably going to try and sell them on!

@Oldbird69

I felt a bit smug a couple of years after this happened to me. The same woman pm'd me about some Thomas Tank stuff which I was selling dirt cheap just before Christmas. Lucky for me I hadn't deleted the messages I'd sent asking if she still wanted the previous stuff & was she still coming. Her message asking for me to keep Thomas for her was therefore tagged onto these messages at my end. Took great delight in saying "no, you didn't turn up last time or reply to my messages".

Love this! It reminds me of when I was selling a really nice train set with loads of extras. This woman was expecting me to hold it for her for three weeks "so she could mull it over". I sent her a screenshot of the number of responses I'd had and said "unlikely"!

Chill? She can fu**. Right off. No way would I have given her them.

Woman was so excited for my designer freebies that she had summoned her husband home from work early so they could collect asap. She said "I'll text you when he's home and you can send me your address so you know when we are on our way to you."
I heard nothing all day.
I woke up the next day and blocked her because you don't get a second chance if you can't even be arsed to contact someone when you know they were waiting in all day.
Well she missed out big time as I eventually sold my designer items on eBay instead for over what I paid for them so you snooze you lose

I hate selling stuff because of time wasters.

I was selling a coffee machine recently, woman haggled with price & said she would pick it up … and asked what time would I be in.
I told her I’ll be in all day & gave her my address …. She never showed.
But made me think, if I’d said I’ll be home after 6pm, would I have been burgled? As I’m basically telling a stranger that no one is home until then.
I gave the coffee machine to a friend in the end.
Not doing this again

Whats annoyed me, probably irrationally by this point, is people who don't think something applies to them.

I'm selling a 'lot' of items. I CBA to separate and post and I'm not desperate to sell. In big letters many times I say I will not separate, yet I've had several messages from people ignoring that and wanting to buy one or two pieces because thats all their wonderful child has asked for this Christmas and they are sure I will I split it just for them.

Does my fucking head in. I didn't say "Will not separate unless your PFB wants it for Christmas". If you want it, but the lot and you sell on what you don't want.

The other thing I do - is only give a postcode in conversation. I only provide house number once they are on their actual way...

I'd definitely donate them to a charity for needy people, homeless or women's refuge and then reply to her that you've done that as they are more appreciative.

I don’t know if you got to the charity shop yet but if not, as an alternative, how about Cash for Kids? Their Mission Christmas appeal has just launched and teenagers gifts tend to get overlooked. They have collection points all over