AIBU to not answer the door when she arrives?

[Lightasafly]

I have a few unused gift sets that I advertised for free in a local page.

A woman massaged me this morning to ask if they were available? I told her yes and she arranged to collect this evening at 5.45.

6.15 comes and no sign of her so o message to ask if she’s still coming

She replied…

“Chill, I’m just putting petrol in the car”

She’s still not here.

Fucking hate time wasters, especially cheeky ones. I’m tempted not to answer the door if she eventually turns up. What is it with entitled people who think you’ll sit around all evening waiting for them to come!

@Lightasafly

No show! I’ve messaged and blocked her and told her they are no longer available 🤯.

They’ll go to the local charity shop that helps to fund local children and OAPs etc.

Lesson learned!

There was a post exactly like this about giving away toiletry sets via facebook about a month ago.

Who the hell do these people think they are? I think I live on another planet these days. Glad you won't donate to the selfish article.

I’d drop them at the nearest women’s refuge, personally.

fucking chill-glad you blocked her op

Tell her they've gone

I just don't get people who behave like this. If she had no intention of coming when you texted her, why not just say "Apologies, my plans have changed do please pass them on to the next person". Or do they genuinely think they are still coming yet somehow they don't, much to their own surprise?!

We put something on freecycle recently. I purposely left it on the drive and said to a guy who was really keen don't knock the door, baby sleeping, just take it and he did

One person asked if I could deliver it, I didn't reply

Telling you to chill would have annoyed me

Honestly, I really can’t be doing with ride entitled fuckwits like that! They get short shrift from me: any giveaways go to the next person.

Can I just say to all the people suggesting donating to a shelter - have you tried to do that?

For obvious reasons the locations are secret, no one from the council ever gets back to you, no one from the charities themselves replies to your messages. It’s really disheartening.

I heard about women with no clothes, beds or bedding etc and had all of that stuff, in great condition to give away. Not a single person replied to my messages. I find it infuriating to hear about them being desperate or stuff but giving you no way of donating.

I’m collecting for a women’s refuge if you’re local to me - I’ll take them!

@Merryoldgoat I’m sorry to hear of your experience. Thankfully our local one has a dedicated coordinator.

It was really frustrating. Our council has a coordinator who just ignored my messages.

Literally, if she just gave a day and time I’d have dropped and run.

@Merryoldgoat

Can I just say to all the people suggesting donating to a shelter - have you tried to do that?

For obvious reasons the locations are secret, no one from the council ever gets back to you, no one from the charities themselves replies to your messages. It’s really disheartening.

I heard about women with no clothes, beds or bedding etc and had all of that stuff, in great condition to give away. Not a single person replied to my messages. I find it infuriating to hear about them being desperate or stuff but giving you no way of donating.

I gave a lot of stuff to our local women's refuge. I contacted the police and explained that I had good quality bedding, clothes, toys, DVDs etc and although they were a bit wary, they gave me number to call.

The person I spoke to gave me the location of the rescue - it was a bit "prison" - really hight walls with spikes etc, and DH wasn't allowed to help me with unpacking the car (none of the women could come to the gate to help because of the risk of abduction) so it took me a few trips, but they were pleased to get the stuff.

Might be worth ringing your local cop shop and asking if they can give you a contact number.

Should have said - DH wasn't allowed to drive into the yard, or get out of the car, never mind helping me unpack.

Just shows what terrifyingly violent meant they have to deal with when they need to take these precautions.

*violent men, not violent meant

I have given quite a bit of stuff away on facebook and the vast majority do turn up when they say. I always say give me a rough time and I will pop it outside though.

Telling you to chill was pretty cheeky!

Our women's refuge has a location where donations can be taken (and has fund raising events there). It's not where any of the women are living.

I agree with the woman's refuge, or care home

As a carer, some care home residents don't have a family that buy them gifts etc so the gift sets would be a nice idea for them too!

She was rude - but what will you actually achieve by not opening the door when she arrives? That makes you equally rude.

Didn't you post about this quite recently? (A different CF buyer?). I'd have given up at that point I think.

I'd have popped them on the doorstep and thought nothing more of it. Half an hour is nothing really.

@JunoMcDuff

I'd have popped them on the doorstep and thought nothing more of it. Half an hour is nothing really.

You have read the whole thread, haven't you?

Just text her someone else got their first.

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