Husbands sisters got her son to ask for a tablet

[faithfulbird20]

Like as though we're made out of money. Cos he's the uncle he'll get it. Our own kids don't have a tablet (no iPad or anything) both kids are aged 4 (her and mine)...I'm just so annoyed like AIBU? We're trying to save money. He works and I'm a stahm (baby is 8 months). I don't buy extravagant things...buy things dead cheap so that we can save for a deposit faster...whereas SIL spends her husbands cash here there and everywhere. Why can't they get their kid a tablet themselves?

A 4 year old doesn't need a tablet.
And if this is true the parents are cheeky!

Yeah this is not a present you ask from anyone but parents

The issue for you is your husband feeling he has to say yes because he the uncle. Your discussion on this needs to be with him!

You have a massive husband problem. How dare he agree to spend such a high sum of money on a tablet for a relative without discussing it with you when you're all trying to save.

That family sound entitled and rude, but your DH needs to stop facilitating them.

If you can't get out of them asking for big gifts then you need to at least demand reciprocity. Your kid should get a tablet from them in exchange.

Box of lego sounds good to me.

Since when do aunts and uncles buy gifts like that??? Glad I will never be one.

Santa can get that loool

Brilliant answer!!

You firmly but politely say your budget for nieces/nephews is whatever it is, £10, £20, £50, whatever. And stick to that every year, otherwise if he gets the tablet this year it will escalate in future. They could ask for a car for his 18th or 21st!!! Your DH needs to get a grip and be assertive, he can still be a good uncle without being an automatic provider of expensive gifts.

Just say no!!

So you have a DH problem?

What are you going to do?

As others have said high value presents come from parents, not from aunts and uncles, why would you spend as much or more on a nephew or niece. Just say no, if you capitulate there will be an expectation for expensive presents for future Christmas and birthdays. Bloody Hell ridiculous

If she wants one she can buy it!

There you go chick, its not too dear, and you'll be making your nephews dream come true ;-) x

Amazon fires will be £30 next week, tablets don’t have to be expensive.

Tell your DH it is them or you and your kids. It can't be both! If he wants to subsidise his family, you will find a less generous man who supports his family first... Doesn't like it, leave for a week. Things will change!

Unreasonable to ask for expe sive gifts from anyone

Having said that, I also would have removed you from the group chat:

I mentioned it on the family group chat saying unfortunately we can't and our daughter doesn't have such lavish gifts...we're saving for our house...and maybe her dad should buy it...

Very unnecessarily passive aggressive and sarcastic and also - not the right audience IMO

Hi I completely agree with you and I empathise with you.
Now technically your sister in law has asked her son to ask your hubby for a tablet but hasn't specified which one.
Heres a logical way to deal with this just order a kids learning vtech tablet which are dead cheap on groupon , might discount experts and go groopie the only thing is that you have to pay separately for your delivery voucher it's all legitimate and I use these shopping online formats all the time for my 3 carebears of which my middle one has another ability so I enjoy also using my tesco clubcard to gain the great bargains wherever I can in tesco's.
I'm just trying to think of a soloution to help you logically keep face with the sisterinlaw and also your hubby's nephew gets what he asked for but not to the level of an advanced tablet .
It is very wrong of your sisterinlaw to ask her son to request a tablet for xmas from your husband that is also classed as her using her child as a pawn to get what she wants.
Please though it will be hard just ignore her selfishness and remember that you only need one person to become successful and that is yourself and she obviously has no value for money and values material things so she will never empathise with you unless she changes her mindset.
Your hubby needs to politely tell her that it is unfair for her to ask her son to request such an expensive gift from his uncle knowing full well that her brother is struggling himself and are trying to save to invest in a future for his family.
Kind regards Malpha.
Btw the gift your giving your children is priceless ie your time and that my dear is gold dust as kids dont remember gifts growing up but they do remember the time you invest in them and the photos are evident of that and support showing your children the different outfits you put them in the great time they had and it gives them so much joy .
I hope this helps.
What your feeling is standard and logical and also you understand the true meaning of being human.

Buy him and your child a toy tablet. Problem solved. Years ago my cheeky colleague asked her dad for a Pony and she got a figurine Pony

You could get this….
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Age appropriate and still educational 👍

I would just say ahh that’s something you should ask Santa for! That’s a ridiculous gift to expect family to buy

Buy one of the Amazon 'tablets' for 2-4 year olds for £20, or like us, second hand for £5

That has to be what they mean right?

Without wishing to sound like I learned how to talk from a book called "Mumsnet for dummies", you have a husband problem, don't you?

How big of a problem is your husband? Do you have fair access to family money? Is he controlling?

Could your dc ask his auntie for one back?