To ask, what's the best piece of advice you've ever received?

[Stripey3000]

I'll start. Mine was in the form of a post on the Postsecret website years ago, where people make postcards, sharing secrets anonymously. This one jumped out at me as it simply said 'You get what you settle for.' For me at the time, those were the exact words I needed to hear. I was heading towardsthe end of a failing marriage (aged 30) and thinking about whether to stay with him or not. In that moment I chose not to settle for what had become an unhappy situation for the rest of my life. 10 years on and I still remember that as a pivotal moment, seeing the sentiment I needed to help me make my decision. I have no regrets 😊
So what advice have you received that stuck with you?

Enough is as good as a feast.

From my Grandma when she had eaten enough. Can be applied to all sorts of non-food situations, too.

Well done you, so pleased to hear success and fulfilment can be achieved without the pressure of constant measurement of goal setting.

You can bring a horse to water, but you CAN'T make it drink.

I feel this helps when I become frustrated with life/family.

Your attitude and behaviour speaks more about you, than the words that leave your mouth.

If you can't get out of it, get into it.

Always buy a good bed and a good pair of shoes because if you are not in one you are in the other. X

always try to lift people up not bring them down

My DF circa 1997, as I was about to marry my violent, abusive drug addicted ex BF.

He took me by the hand, just before ex and I were about to tie the knot.

And said “Rubens, it’s easier not to get married than it it to get divorced” he left me to think for a while and then sent the driver round to get me and I went back to his house and never saw ex again.

And I’ve never forgotten that, even though my DF is a fucker at times but he really came through for me that day.

A dried of mine who had no family but is very successful career wise said they think success means happiness as this is what makes them happy (I didn't say so) but imo happiness is success -my children and my little family of 4 make me happier than anything in life (and yes they are my greatest achievement too) but I think if you can achieve true happiness in life then that is successful! Each to their own though what makes people happy is different for everyone!

The other one is 'shit happens it's how yourself with it that matters'!

Meant friend not dried

And should be Shit happens it's how you deal with it that matters - it's too late and autocorrect is really annoying!

Never ever vote Tory!

I had an autograph book signed by pupils and teacher's on leaving school at 18. One particular old nun who knew me very well wrote me a message. "DO NOBLE THINGS NOT DREAM THEM ALL DAY LONG. I hope i have lived up to her expectations 45 yrs later !!

'Each stage is a phase'

My friend told me this when I was struggling with a 4 month old. I couldn't get my head around the fact my baby kept changing routine/likes/dislikes etc. When I just got used to a bed routine it would then change. It now makes sense in life in general to me, everything is just a phase.

@Newbie8365

Dont let your icecream melt counting someone else's sprinkles.

Love this!

You can't polish a turd, but you can roll it in glitter!

You catch more flies with honey than with vinegar.

Something my nan said to my mum after she found out about my dads second affair before he left. 'What you allow, will continue." And thats always stuck with me.

You allow somebody to treat you like crap or take advantage of you, they will carry on doing it.

I wish I could somehow enter my lovely old late mum’s minor shifts of facial expression here. On three major occasions in my life she said nothing at first (she wasn’t quick to judge or advise) but her face told me everything I needed to know.

Some day we will all be dead and none of this will matter.

It's just as easy to fall in love with a rich man as a poor one.

If in doubt, do nowt.

Be kind to the people you meet on the way up. You might meet them again on the way down.

Keep your powder dry!

@Blahblahblow

Keep your powder dry!

Excellent. Me too.

Love will always find you

Don't save it for a special occasion-today IS a special occasion. This piece of advice I now live by and it helps bring joy to my day to day life and I also feel I am getting my moneys worth out of my things because I get good use, wear and enjoyment out of my things.

Love many trust few; learn to paddle your own canoe.

Told to me by an Aunt.