To ask, what's the best piece of advice you've ever received?

[Stripey3000]

I'll start. Mine was in the form of a post on the Postsecret website years ago, where people make postcards, sharing secrets anonymously. This one jumped out at me as it simply said 'You get what you settle for.' For me at the time, those were the exact words I needed to hear. I was heading towardsthe end of a failing marriage (aged 30) and thinking about whether to stay with him or not. In that moment I chose not to settle for what had become an unhappy situation for the rest of my life. 10 years on and I still remember that as a pivotal moment, seeing the sentiment I needed to help me make my decision. I have no regrets 😊
So what advice have you received that stuck with you?

"never a borrower or lender be"

Fall down 7 times get up 8....there is a fancier version but this is my go to.

Don't allow your children to become fussy eaters, or make separate meals for them. Don't sit and nurse your baby to sleep every night. Don't co-sleep with your children (she says waiting for the MN backlash!!!)

Fight for what you believe in, not against what you don’t.

Forgiveness isn’t about letting someone else of the hook, it’s about freeing yourself from what they did to you.

And my two parenting mantras:
Pick your battles
Never make a promise or a threat you don’t fully intend to keep

You never get a second chance to make a first impression.😎

Saw this on a postcard in Canada at a pivotal point in my life: “Life is brief, and very fragile. Do that which makes you happy”. So I did

Don’t put things down,put them away.
So simple but effective.

Living well is the best revenge.

Do your best and fuck the rest.

Never buy what you can't afford to pay cash for (excluding your house of course!)

@Chenga

If, as the driver, you’re sitting in the middle of the road, then you’re driving on the correct side.

Absolute gem of a piece of advice for someone who drives regularly on both sides of the Atlantic. Changed everything.

I also drove at home (Ireland) and abroad (US, Spain) and my way of remembering is 'me in the middle', same principle but it's like a mantra I use.

The difference between knowledge and wisdom: Knowledge is knowing you are crossing a one way street, Wisdom is still looking both ways.

Happiness is found along the way, not at the end of the road.

All you have to do today is breathe - anything else is optional.

Advice from a wonderful friend whilst grieving my parents.

Better to be a rich man's darling than a poor man's wife.

Control is something you take.

Don't marry for money but love where money is.

Cut your coat according to your cloth

This was a corker, from the HR lady who was working out her notice. "Your manager is deliberately ramping up your anxiety because she knows you are better at her job than she is. Dont stay and fight it, management know what she is like but wont address it. Move departments, they will treat you with respect you deserve "

Just before dc1 was born -

Listen to all the advice you're given but don't dismiss anything. Then pick what you think might work for you. If it doesn't work, try another.

It has applied to everything in my life since then.

Don’t ever be someone’s maybe

@Sundancerintherain

This was a corker, from the HR lady who was working out her notice. "Your manager is deliberately ramping up your anxiety because she knows you are better at her job than she is. Dont stay and fight it, management know what she is like but wont address it. Move departments, they will treat you with respect you deserve "

This HR person deserves massive good karma for saying this ! What on earth was your response !

Nice to see nice people do live and breath!

"Leave him, start again, you deserve better than this and so do your children" I was told by a neighbour

The penny finally dropped 21 years ago: I packed my 4 adult children bags, mine and walked the door and never once regretted it.

We walked the fires of hell with the aftermath. It got worse before it got better. I never once
regretted doing what I should have done years before.

I've learnt over the past 21 years that given the domestic abuse figures I am just glad we got out when we did.

Many other profound adviceI could say. This was the most important as it means I can write this today

I have happily remarried and have a good peaceful happy life today

Comparison is the thief of joy. Don't rob your own house.

Bloody hell keffie what a woman.

If you want to have time, make time

Always do the right thing and leave the consequences to God.
Or if you're not religious ... Let the consequences take care of themselves