To ask, what's the best piece of advice you've ever received?

[Stripey3000]

I'll start. Mine was in the form of a post on the Postsecret website years ago, where people make postcards, sharing secrets anonymously. This one jumped out at me as it simply said 'You get what you settle for.' For me at the time, those were the exact words I needed to hear. I was heading towardsthe end of a failing marriage (aged 30) and thinking about whether to stay with him or not. In that moment I chose not to settle for what had become an unhappy situation for the rest of my life. 10 years on and I still remember that as a pivotal moment, seeing the sentiment I needed to help me make my decision. I have no regrets 😊
So what advice have you received that stuck with you?

Similar to @RuggerHug
Don’t care about the opinions of people who you don’t like/respect anyways
Although yours was more eloquent haha

But it’s true. Especially in a work place when someone’s doing your head in -I just think “ so I actually like you? Do I think you are good at your job despite this? “ and I’m much happier

Pay peanuts, get monkeys … a lot of workplaces need to realise that one. When stressing about inept untrained staff ( again workplace one lol)
And a third workplace one : you can’t control what others do - just keep on doing what you’re doing and never mind getting harassed about anyone else

"This too shall pass."
It gets me through most things that feel overwhelming.

From a very successful ex boss. When a change is being proposed, be at the very front where you can have a voice.

If you're resisting at the back no one
will hear you and you'll have no influence on an outcome that's going to happen whether you like it or not.

@RuggerHug

Don't take criticism from someone you wouldn't take advice from.

This is brilliant advice.

'No point borrowing worry' was one my name used to say.

Basically means don't stress about stuff which hasn't happened yet

Breaking someone's trust is like breaking a vase. You can stick it back together but the cracks will always show.

My Mum said to always keep a bustling, noisy house around babies. She said that the worst thing you can do is Ssh everyone and tiptoe around when babies are asleep, as you're training them to wake up at the slightest noise.
She was right! We had the radio or TV on, vacuumed the lot.
Both of mine slept through for the first time at 6 weeks & to this day - aged 17 & 19 - sleep through thunderstorms.

Respect is just the minimum (yes this is a lyric lol)

That whole song is great advice

Don't be a hard rock when you really are a gem

There's some great advice here, my best was from my nan when I started living with my now husband.

Start as you mean to go on, if you give 'em and inch they take the whole mile!

Oh and of course the best advice "Just keep swimming"

Its silly but its got me through so many situations

When someone shows you who they really are, believe them the first time.

My wise old gran always used to say when talking about old flames “what’s right with one is wrong with another” 😂

Never launch a ground war in Asia

(Courtesy of The Princess Bride)

@TheWeeDonkey We were terrified about bringing newborns twins into a madly busy house with two knackered old parents. They've slept through from six weeks. This must be the key!

Pick your battles.

Just because it is their opinion, it doesn't make it fact. What other think of me is not how I have to see myself.

Oh wow, well done @JennyForeigner .... well I was going to say keep it up, but I already did

Advice I gave my son when her was in the throws of his first heart break. Trust your gut, your heart will lie to you, your head will lie to you but your instincts will always be true.

Be careful what you wish for, you might just get it.

and

Just because you can do something, it doesn’t mean you should.

I’ve found both to be very true. Sometimes what you wish for is exactly not what you need.

Leopards really don’t change their spots. You have to learn that you can’t waste your valuable time & energy trying to change someone. So see them for who they are and accept the truth.

Judge people by their actions, not their words.

If in doubt, do nowt

Go to sleep and it might be better in the morning.

Money can buy safety and security but not happiness

If in doubt...don't!
My beautiful Grandmother....she was so right,..if you are ever in doubt, listen to your intuition and gut feeling...

Go with the flow....
Meaning just trust the process, trust the universe in directing you on your journey..

Lastly,...I wish I had heeded this...
Never settle for a 'flat mate'...you want someone who means more to you than that...

@TheWeeDonkey Just keep swimming

'You don't have to do anything.'

It's nice to be important but it's far more important to be nice.
That and one of the best gifts you can give your children is to know the word no .
My grandad was a very smart geezer.

Make up your own mind (thanks Dad).