Friend refusing to share bottle of spirit at party

[IreneSmith]

So, I want some opinions, who is right, me or my friend?

A group of friends get together for a party, we then move onto drinking games.

Now usually whenever anyone brings spirits or anything to a party (myself included) its for everyone to drink...at least I thought.

So, I start pouring the next drink to be used in the game when one of my friends grabs the bottle out of my hand forcefully (literally).

This one friend refused to allow her bottle of spirit to be used in drinking games, as according to her it was a gift to the host (another friend) and not for wasting in drinking games.

My issue it 3 fold:

1. It was outside on the main table and open, so I thought its fair for anyone to drink/use it. (If host wanted to keep it, they would have out it away)

1. It was a bottle of Jack Daniel...which imo is only good as a mixer or for drinking games. (I.e. it wasn't a proper whisky, brandy, cognac or fine wine)

1. It was very rude to just grab the bottle out of my hand forcefully. She could have let me finish pouring the drink, then explained how she felt and asked if we could use something else / another bottle going forward.

The host looked perplexed when this happened and didnt say anything, they didnt care either way / it got awkward.

Imo, I think my friend was being awkward and rude (the bottle grabbing really annoyed me). Am I wrong, is she wrong?

I think it was up to the host to decide, maybe she would have been happy for it to be used in drinking fame. I know I would have been so it would be gone!

Fame = game

YANBU she was rude. If I 'put drinks out', I expect them to be used. It should be the host's call really.

Also have never seen someone drink JD on it's own - it's hardly a premium whiskey!

I had to google ROFL

Also I am sad reading your thread because I'm only 31 and no one I know plays drinking games anymore. My next social event is wreath making

[quote IreneSmith]@CSJobseeker

Haha, you are right, I think I and others may have used incorrect terminology accidentally here and there.

But what about alcoholic mixers, like WKD Blue, or Smirnoff Ice?[/quote]
I guess they could be mixed with other drinks (if you're trying to creat some god awful concoction), but they're not mixers. Disgusting as they are, they are alcoholic drinks in their own right.

Drinking games? How old are you all?
Toddlers, based on the snatching, the non-issue, and the taste in drinks.

I must clearly go to very different parties to you though. I haven't seen anyone bring Smirnoff Ice or WKD to a party since I was in my early 20s.

My friends bring the ale (often craft ale) or nice wine that they enjoy and we all drink that. Later in the evening the host might get out a bottle of single malt for everyone to enjoy. Drinking games are not played because (a) no one wants to chug down crap for the sake of it and (b) we don't see getting shitfaced as the goal of the evening (although that's not to say it doesn't happen).

@MadameMinimes

Don’t want to be a pedant but JD is not a bourbon, nor is it a fake bourbon. It’s a Tennessee whiskey.

Correct. Has to be made in Kentucky to be called bourbon. And while we’re on the subject whisky is only whiskey if it’s Irish. Otherwise it is whisky.

@IreneSmith

1. 30s

1. Rofl was invented by my generation during the time of MSN messenger. Kids these days /newer gens have no claim to it.

1. JD is a cheap whisky and no good for savoring. Hence when I say mixer, I meant for use in drinking games; or is only palatable when mixed imo.

Irene you make my cry inside. Single barrel gentleman Jack is not a cheap easy spirit mixing whiskey. Neat. No ice. First time I've ever clutched my pearls.

@LetHimHaveIt

Jesus. People apparently learning for the first time that Jack Daniels is not a premium spirit, whatever Wetherspoons may say. OP is right that, like Malibu, Bacardi, Southern Comfort et al, it's only acceptable as the base of a mixed drink or shots. A sipping whisky it is not.

Plus - it was open, ffs. Why was it ok to use as a drink up until that point and yet not for shots or whatever?

I think she's the out of order one, and grabbing it out of your hand like that made her look barmy. Don't worry about it.

Completely agree with this post, OP. Don't give it another seconds thought. She was rude.

@PooWillyNameChange

Also I am sad reading your thread because I'm only 31 and no one I know plays drinking games anymore. My next social event is wreath making

Oh, that sounds delightful. I would 100% go to that.

Also, if she gave it as a gift to the host, she had no right to object as it wasn't her bottle to object to being used, IYSWIM!

Some people like getting drunk, not alcohol - to them a £20 bottle of supermarket wine is expensive. Looks like your JD bringing friend is similar.
YANBU

But what about alcoholic mixers, like WKD Blue, or Smirnoff Ice?
Still not mixers! They’re mixed drinks. Was your generation too busy laying claim to ‘rofl’ to pay attention in supermarket alcoholic beverages 101?

She should not have shouted or grabbed it, but if its being used (read: wasted) in a drinking game its going to be gone substantially quicker than if people are just helping themselves to regular drinks with it. Perhaps she didn't like anything else there, or maybe wanted to take some home- sounds like you're the one making a big deal out of it really!

Nobody can help you with this because nobody knows the rules for playing drinking games in your 30s.

Drinking games using spirits! I'd spend a whole week in bed recovering from that!

"To put it another way, JD is hardly Martell, Hennesy, Remy Martin, Courvosier (Appreciate these are cognacs) or JW Black Label, etc.."

Well no, it's not cognac or scotch. It's bourbon. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Well YABU in that arrogance is supposed to be played with whatever drinks people have in front of them already.

I have a friend who takes home the dregs of the bottle of spirits she takes to a party, started in our teens when ok we were skint students but in our 40s are you that desperate for a quarter bottle of gin? 😂 no one else I know does this (she's not poor or rich, comfortable lifestyle so can afford to leave things)

We just drank 70% absinthe when I was a student doing drinking games. It’d be bought specifically for the game and the aim was to just get very drunk.

A side question I know, but other than JD (?) what is used for drinking games these days?

@CounsellorTroi
Incorrect. Whiskey is a common spelling in the US and if you take a look at the label on a bottle of JD, you will see that it is the spelling they use.

@CSJobseeker

A mixer is a non alcoholic drink, such as coke, tonic, or orange juice, that is mixed with a spirit to make a long drink. A spirit is never a fucking mixer!!

How do people not know this?

If you go shopping and your partner says "Oh, can you pick up some mixers for the party we're having tomorrow", you do not come back with a load of spirits.

Thank you!

I think the reason it bothers me is because when I host my friends, I freely give my guests drinks and food, and dont expect anything in return

You seem to be of the opinion that you, and the bottle of Lanson Champagne you took to the party, are superior to your ‘friend’.