Friend refusing to share bottle of spirit at party

[IreneSmith]

So, I want some opinions, who is right, me or my friend?

A group of friends get together for a party, we then move onto drinking games.

Now usually whenever anyone brings spirits or anything to a party (myself included) its for everyone to drink...at least I thought.

So, I start pouring the next drink to be used in the game when one of my friends grabs the bottle out of my hand forcefully (literally).

This one friend refused to allow her bottle of spirit to be used in drinking games, as according to her it was a gift to the host (another friend) and not for wasting in drinking games.

My issue it 3 fold:

1. It was outside on the main table and open, so I thought its fair for anyone to drink/use it. (If host wanted to keep it, they would have out it away)

1. It was a bottle of Jack Daniel...which imo is only good as a mixer or for drinking games. (I.e. it wasn't a proper whisky, brandy, cognac or fine wine)

1. It was very rude to just grab the bottle out of my hand forcefully. She could have let me finish pouring the drink, then explained how she felt and asked if we could use something else / another bottle going forward.

The host looked perplexed when this happened and didnt say anything, they didnt care either way / it got awkward.

Imo, I think my friend was being awkward and rude (the bottle grabbing really annoyed me). Am I wrong, is she wrong?

@amber763

It wasn't yours! It's not cheap and just because you don't like it doesn't mean you can waste it on a game.

This!

I guess on that basis it would be fine to shake a bottle of Prosecco (not champagne, fit only for blah, blah, blah) and use it for the fun game of spraying people

@ElftonWednesday

I'm 46 and I'd happily play a drinking game or two. I wasn't aware that once you reach the grand old age of 30 you are supposed to prefer a nice cup of tea snd a sit down.

It's not that I'd rather have a cup of tea. I enjoy a drink as much as anyone, it's just that I'd rather enjoy my drinks and savour the flavour.

I can afford to buy nice wine and expensive whisky these days - I'm not going to knock them back in such a hurry that I don't even get to taste them properly. (As that is how drinking games usually go.)

Also, when I was 19 I did drinking games as the goal was to get totally shit faced (as cheaply as possible, and preferably for free!). That's not normally my goal on a night out these days, and the same applies to all the people I hang out with.

People on this thread are embarrassing.

So when you have a party do you stand next to the drinks table all night so people can ask your permission every time they make a drink?

I don’t think it’s crime of the century, but I do think it’s cheeky to be the one who instigates a drinking game when you didn’t contribute any “drinking game” booze.
JD is not to my taste, but it’s not cheap either. It’s a similar price to a bottle of Reyka vodka or Sipsmith gin and I’d consider both of those to be too expensive for drinking games. I don’t buy JD, but I don’t spend much more than what it costs on a bottle of bulleit or makers mark bourbon that I’d use for cocktails.
If you want to play drinking games, bring “drinking game” booze with you. I think people will have different ideas of what sort of booze is “cheap” and it sounds like you have fairly expensive taste, so probably best to err on the side of caution and ask if anyone minds before using a bottle for a game.

Johnnie Walker black label is a single malt scotch whisky so definitely superior to JD even if it is in the same price range.

It literally states "Blended Scotch Whisky" on the label...

@Mrgrinch

People on this thread are embarrassing.

So when you have a party do you stand next to the drinks table all night so people can ask your permission every time they make a drink?

No, if I take a bottle of something I drink to a party I will share it, of course, but if someone wanted to play a drinking game with the only thing I drink I would be pretty miffed too. I'd be left with nothing else to drink the rest of the night while everyone had a couple of rounds of shots.

It wasn't about permission to take a drink, the op would have used the whole bottle for shots.

And it is rude to assume that any open bottle is fair game for use in drinking games without checking.

Of course it isn't, especially when it is on the general drinks table with other drinks that people can help themselves to. Do you ask for a drink at a party every time you want one if there is a table full of opened bottles? Really?

It doesn't matter who was wrong. It's a non-event. Just apologize and move on.

I wouldn't be pleased if my bottle was used in a drinking game. But then I wouldn't socialise with people that took part in drinking games.

I haven't seen ROFL for a least twenty years! Do people still do that?

Is it just me that thinks there is a world of difference between picking up a bottle of JD at a party in order to pour yourself a JD & coke, and doing so in order to use it in a drinking game (which guarantees it will be empty in no time, with no one having enjoyed any of the drinks that came from it).

Like I say, I don't like JD (I'm a single malt woman myself), but plenty of people do enjoy a JD & coke, and wasting someone else's bottle on a drinking game just seems off.

OP - if you're so keen to play drinking games, why not take a bottle of cheap vodka for the purpose?

I had no idea drinking games could be so organised!

Only 'proper whisky', brandy, cognac or fine wine.

Using another bottle 'going forward'.

Did all this take place at Hyacinth Bucket's house? 🤣🤣

JD, along with all other mixed blends, is a mixer. That’s like saying Smirnoff is good quality vodka.

If someone tried to use a quality single malt I’d brought as a gift in a drinking game, I’d probably have to say something. But JD - nah.

@RampantIvy

And it is rude to assume that any open bottle is fair game for use in drinking games without checking.

Of course it isn't, especially when it is on the general drinks table with other drinks that people can help themselves to. Do you ask for a drink at a party every time you want one if there is a table full of opened bottles? Really?

I wouldn't ask to pour myself a drink. I would ask if I was taking the bottle to use in a drinking game. Because it'll be totally empty in no time, and it might be that that's someone's favourite tipple.

@CSJobseeker Totally agree with you on this.

@catinboots123

What drinking game was it?

@catinboots123

Hahaha, im surprised that no one else has asked this yet!

The Game - Arrogance

A mixer is a non alcoholic drink, such as coke, tonic, or orange juice, that is mixed with a spirit to make a long drink. A spirit is never a fucking mixer!!

How do people not know this?

If you go shopping and your partner says "Oh, can you pick up some mixers for the party we're having tomorrow", you do not come back with a load of spirits.

I know it matters to you op, but it is the mother of all non-issues. There must be something else in your life which is more troubling than this?

@Bucanarab

Johnnie Walker black label is a single malt scotch whisky so definitely superior to JD even if it is in the same price range.

It literally states "Blended Scotch Whisky" on the label...

Oh. In my defence it was my stupid DH leaping to the defence of JW. I don't even like whisky.

you took lanson????? I mean LANSON????? urgh

A drinking game that erupted into an argument and made the host akward. There's not really anyone in the right is there!

Just how far up your own backside would you have to be to a) assert that 'your generation' invented 'ROFL', when you're in your 30s and it's been around ~40 years. And b) think that the perfectly good drink someone else kindly brought is beneath you and only fit for wasting on drinking games.

It’s like a different world!

@CSJobseeker

Haha, you are right, I think I and others may have used incorrect terminology accidentally here and there.

But what about alcoholic mixers, like WKD Blue, or Smirnoff Ice?