Friend refusing to share bottle of spirit at party

[IreneSmith]

So, I want some opinions, who is right, me or my friend?

A group of friends get together for a party, we then move onto drinking games.

Now usually whenever anyone brings spirits or anything to a party (myself included) its for everyone to drink...at least I thought.

So, I start pouring the next drink to be used in the game when one of my friends grabs the bottle out of my hand forcefully (literally).

This one friend refused to allow her bottle of spirit to be used in drinking games, as according to her it was a gift to the host (another friend) and not for wasting in drinking games.

My issue it 3 fold:

1. It was outside on the main table and open, so I thought its fair for anyone to drink/use it. (If host wanted to keep it, they would have out it away)

1. It was a bottle of Jack Daniel...which imo is only good as a mixer or for drinking games. (I.e. it wasn't a proper whisky, brandy, cognac or fine wine)

1. It was very rude to just grab the bottle out of my hand forcefully. She could have let me finish pouring the drink, then explained how she felt and asked if we could use something else / another bottle going forward.

The host looked perplexed when this happened and didnt say anything, they didnt care either way / it got awkward.

Imo, I think my friend was being awkward and rude (the bottle grabbing really annoyed me). Am I wrong, is she wrong?

Why didn’t you use your own spirit for the drinking game? Who are you to say what other people consider expensive? Not everyone regularly drinks ‘fine whiskey’ and for some JD is a nice brand.

@MadameMinimes

Jack Daniel’s isn’t a high-end whiskey but it’s also not the sort of cheap stuff that you’d expect to be used for a drinking game. There’s a difference between putting stuff out and being happy for people to drink it and being happy for someone to use it for a drinking game. What spirits did you bring with you to the party and why didn’t you use that bottle instead?

Starting a drinking game with a bottle someone else bought seems cheeky to me in a way that just pouring yourself a drink wouldn’t. If you’re planning to start a drinking game that will quickly run through a £25 bottle of spirits, I’d say you should start with the bottle that you brought with you yourself.

I didnt bring a spirit, I brought a bottle of Lanson Champagne, that I handed to the host who then put it inside somewhere / out of sight. I guess to keep.

Just to clarify, it was only 7 of us and we are all friends (not strangers).

If it were me i would have asked first, along the lie of, "What should i use? This one?" to give people the opportunity to stop you or say its ok. Thats just basic manners in;t it?

@IreneSmith

@PurpleDaisies
Drinking games? How old are you all?

Early 30s

I was hoping you were going to say 18

YANBU, clearly. The person who brought JD, minging stuff that it is, was probably hoping to take most of it home again. You bring drink to a party for sharing and don't get to dictate what then happens to it.

@MadameMinimes

Don’t want to be a pedant but JD is not a bourbon, nor is it a fake bourbon. It’s a Tennessee whiskey.

Correct

Technically it also a sour mash whiskey

YABU to be making such a big deal out of it the next day. I thought you was 18 reading this post not early 30s!

Drinking games 🤣
And you’ve felt the need to post this!

I am cringing. Seriously get a grip and get over it.

I'm 46 and I'd happily play a drinking game or two. I wasn't aware that once you reach the grand old age of 30 you are supposed to prefer a nice cup of tea snd a sit down.

@KittenCatcher

JD is the USA oldest whisky, its 40% proof and expensive, I wouldnt use it for a drinking game unless I wanted to be unconscious.

Oldest American whiskey? Not even close lol. There’s one brand as I remember that’s been around since the early 1600s though the name escapes me. I used to tend bar at a bourbon-themed place years ago in Kentucky and I ran whisky and bourbon tasting sessions. JD is pretty bad but it’s not the worst and there are plenty of mass market Irish and scotch whisk(e)ys that are MUCH worse.

'Don’t want to be a pedant but JD is not a bourbon, nor is it a fake bourbon. It’s a Tennessee whiskey.
Correct

Technically it also a sour mash whiskey.'

Well, it can put on a fur coat and lippy if it wants, but
it'll still be a pig with no knickers.

To put it another way, JD is hardly Martell, Hennesy, Remy Martin, Courvosier (Appreciate these are cognacs) or JW Black Label, etc..

Johnnie Walker black label is literally in the same league/market as Jack Daniels.

Who cares.
Jack daniels is shite anyway.

@ElftonWednesday

I'm 46 and I'd happily play a drinking game or two. I wasn't aware that once you reach the grand old age of 30 you are supposed to prefer a nice cup of tea snd a sit down.

Me too *@ElftonWednesday* I'm 44 🍷🍷

I voted yabu because at the end of the day you didn't buy it so you don't get to decide who drinks it. Also raising my eyebrows slightly at you regarding it as being the whiskey equivalent of roller cola lol.

Rather have a bottle of JD than Lanson Champagne myself don't care how much it costs or what anyone else considers it good for.

@DoctorWhoTardis

YABU to be making such a big deal out of it the next day. I thought you was 18 reading this post not early 30s!

Lol.

I think the reason it bothers me is because when I host my friends, I freely give my guests drinks and food, and dont expect anything in return.

Sometimes they'll bring a bottle, sometimes not, but as we are all friends, it doesn't really matter. And theres usually enough for everyone in terms of drinks ive kept out or had available.

So when a friend who ive had many times over, does this, i find it a bit annoying.

@Bucanarab

To put it another way, JD is hardly Martell, Hennesy, Remy Martin, Courvosier (Appreciate these are cognacs) or JW Black Label, etc..

Johnnie Walker black label is literally in the same league/market as Jack Daniels.

Yes and no. Price wise its only a tiny bit more. But it happens to be one of the best value whiskys you can get. So definitely worth more in terms of palatability.

Dont blame.her for not wanting her nice JD used for drinking games. Use crappy vodka

Johnnie Walker black label is a single malt scotch whisky so definitely superior to JD even if it is in the same price range.

What drinking game was it?

If it were on the general drinks table, and open, then it’s there for everyone.

If it were a gift for the host, then the host has the final say over when it’s to be drunk, and as it was open etc, she’s given permission for it to be used.

I'm not sure how but you don't appear to know what a mixer is.

And it is rude to assume that any open bottle is fair game for use in drinking games without checking. It's not the same as pouring a glass to enjoy - drinking games revolve around mindlessly chugging to get drunk, so it's not something to use nice drinks for at all. (Jack D isn't my taste, but it's also not bargain basement shit)

Also, you're in your 30s?! Most people grow out of drinking games a bit younger than that.

@IreneSmith

1. 30s

1. Rofl was invented by my generation during the time of MSN messenger. Kids these days /newer gens have no claim to it.

1. JD is a cheap whisky and no good for savoring. Hence when I say mixer, I meant for use in drinking games; or is only palatable when mixed imo.

YABU to say JD is only fit to use as a mixer or in drinking games. A mixer is tonic, coke, lemonade etc., which are all non alcoholic. JD is 40% alcohol, which is exactly the same as most whisky’s, and more alcoholic than most Vodka’s, Rum’s etc.! It is also considerably more expensive than most ‘non malt’ whisky’s, like The Famous Grouse, Bells, Whyte & Mackay etc.

Would you honestly use anything, this alcoholic, the way you would use a mixer? If you do, you will likely become drunk very quickly!

If it was open and on the drinks table then it's for everyone, at least that's how it works in my circles. If a nice bottle of something is given to the hosts and it isn't for everyone then the hosts put it away in their drinks cupboard

Friend overstepped the mark in my opinion.