Friend refusing to share bottle of spirit at party

[IreneSmith]

So, I want some opinions, who is right, me or my friend?

A group of friends get together for a party, we then move onto drinking games.

Now usually whenever anyone brings spirits or anything to a party (myself included) its for everyone to drink...at least I thought.

So, I start pouring the next drink to be used in the game when one of my friends grabs the bottle out of my hand forcefully (literally).

This one friend refused to allow her bottle of spirit to be used in drinking games, as according to her it was a gift to the host (another friend) and not for wasting in drinking games.

My issue it 3 fold:

1. It was outside on the main table and open, so I thought its fair for anyone to drink/use it. (If host wanted to keep it, they would have out it away)

1. It was a bottle of Jack Daniel...which imo is only good as a mixer or for drinking games. (I.e. it wasn't a proper whisky, brandy, cognac or fine wine)

1. It was very rude to just grab the bottle out of my hand forcefully. She could have let me finish pouring the drink, then explained how she felt and asked if we could use something else / another bottle going forward.

The host looked perplexed when this happened and didnt say anything, they didnt care either way / it got awkward.

Imo, I think my friend was being awkward and rude (the bottle grabbing really annoyed me). Am I wrong, is she wrong?

She must have been offended the host didn’t put her drink aside to open later. Don’t give it brain space.

@IreneSmith Bells original £19.50 at Tesco.

Cheap fake bourbon (I say this as my dh has a mad collection of good stuff) It’s good for making an old fashioned when you have a cold, although I’d rather something a bit nicer. I’m a bit surprised that your friend was so unwilling to let it be used unless it’s the host’s favourite drink or something.

@ABCeasyasdohrayme

JD is pretty expensive to be used for drinking shots in a game. I don't blame her for being pissed off

OP should have used the spirits she bought. But ime it tends to be chancers who bring £4 prosecco for a party who then get annoyed when they can’t use the expensive stuff. Not having a dig at OP but I went to many parties where idiots have even dug into the host’s private stash to try and open expensive bottles.

Would it really have been that hard for you to ask which drinks could be used for the game jds is not cheap and can be drank straight but on that point I would not have been happy to watch something I bough to be wasted like that either

[quote PinkiOcelot]@IreneSmith JD is £32 a bottle at Tesco so hardly a cheap mixer.[/quote]
You need to switch to Asda, £16 for 70cl. (Lol, you actually made me check).

ROFL was in use in the early 1990s! I'm 47 and remember it from the early days of mass internet.

JD is a terrible whiskey and anyone seriously claiming it has any uses aside from being mixed and/or used in drinking games has no idea about quality spirits.

I'm with you OP!

Jack Daniel’s isn’t a high-end whiskey but it’s also not the sort of cheap stuff that you’d expect to be used for a drinking game. There’s a difference between putting stuff out and being happy for people to drink it and being happy for someone to use it for a drinking game. What spirits did you bring with you to the party and why didn’t you use that bottle instead?

Starting a drinking game with a bottle someone else bought seems cheeky to me in a way that just pouring yourself a drink wouldn’t. If you’re planning to start a drinking game that will quickly run through a £25 bottle of spirits, I’d say you should start with the bottle that you brought with you yourself.

Jesus. People apparently learning for the first time that Jack Daniels is not a premium spirit, whatever Wetherspoons may say. OP is right that, like Malibu, Bacardi, Southern Comfort et al, it's only acceptable as the base of a mixed drink or shots. A sipping whisky it is not.

Plus - it was open, ffs. Why was it ok to use as a drink up until that point and yet not for shots or whatever?

I think she's the out of order one, and grabbing it out of your hand like that made her look barmy. Don't worry about it.

@XelaM

JD is a terrible whiskey and anyone seriously claiming it has any uses aside from being mixed and/or used in drinking games has no idea about quality spirits.

I'm with you OP!

^^This! It's awful stuff!

JD isn't a cheap mixer

All those saying that the OP was being unreasonable - the bottle was open and on a table with other drinks for everyone to help themselves. It wasn't wrong for the OP to assume that people could drink it.

Who put it on the table? If the host put it open on the table then maybe they wanted other people to drink it.

If someone had bought me an expensive bottle of gin as a gift I would have put it away. If they had bought me some JD I would have offered it to everyone as I don't like whiskey.

@Dddccc

Would it really have been that hard for you to ask which drinks could be used for the game jds is not cheap and can be drank straight but on that point I would not have been happy to watch something I bough to be wasted like that either

To put it another way, JD is hardly Martell, Hennesy, Remy Martin, Courvosier (Appreciate these are cognacs) or JW Black Label, etc..

We're you drinking it straight, it's been year's since I drank JD straight in a drinking game🍷🍷

When my friends come over and everyone pished we always make cocktails 🍹 or a fish bowl😂😂😂
Vodka, whisky, gin, Irn bru, tequila, wine and Bacardi and diet coke.
And get the music and karaoke on.💃💃💃
Your friend sounds a pain in the arse.

Whether it was cheap or expensive, isn't really the point.

The friend might have given it as a gift to the host, but it was open and on the table with the rest of the drinks available to all guests.
OP also pointed out that the host wasn't bothered that others were drinking it.

Just because you give a gift to someone, you don't get to determine how it is used. Maybe the host isn't really a fan of JD and so left it out for others to drink? I've done that when gifts of alcohol have been given to us for hosting a party, but it's not something we would choose to drink, it goes out with everything else

It was given to the host so up to them to make the decision.

@IreneSmith

1. 30s

1. Rofl was invented by my generation during the time of MSN messenger. Kids these days /newer gens have no claim to it.

1. JD is a cheap whisky and no good for savoring. Hence when I say mixer, I meant for use in drinking games; or is only palatable when mixed imo.

Do you think only your generation can use ROFL - really ? Jack Daniels is not a mixer , it's Bourbon.

Lol at JD being highbrow, I used to drink it as a student with Coke , also smoke Marlboro reds. Thought I was it. Wouldn’t touch either now.

To put it another way, JD is hardly Martell, Hennesy, Remy Martin, Courvosier (Appreciate these are cognacs) or JW Black Label, etc..

TBH I wouldn't know that as I don't drink any of of those. The only spirit I drink is gin (and I pre-date the current gin trend ).
MsSquiz and CreepySpider are correct. It was up to the host who drank the JD, not the person who brought it as a gift.

Fortunately none of my friends are precious like that.

People do drinking games in their 30s? Incredible. Did you do spin the bottle too?

Of course an open bottle on the table at a party is fair game. If your friend had specific intentions for the drink she brought 'it must only be drunk by specific people under specific circumstances' then A) that's weird and B) she shouldn't have left it open on the table at a drinking party.

Yabu to be offended by slightly poor manners during a drinking game.

@MsSquiz

Whether it was cheap or expensive, isn't really the point.

The friend might have given it as a gift to the host, but it was open and on the table with the rest of the drinks available to all guests.
OP also pointed out that the host wasn't bothered that others were drinking it.

Just because you give a gift to someone, you don't get to determine how it is used. Maybe the host isn't really a fan of JD and so left it out for others to drink? I've done that when gifts of alcohol have been given to us for hosting a party, but it's not something we would choose to drink, it goes out with everything else

This. Once the hosts had controversially decided they weren't going to keep a supermarket bourbon for their next 'Masters of Malt' meeting, it was opened and it was fair game. The giver might, I suppose, have said - 'Ooo, I'd actually rather it wasn't used for drinking games' - (I personally wouldn't have) - but to wrestle it away from her as though OP had suggested they empty some unopened Dom Perignon down their throats like Babycham, is pretty uptight.

Don’t want to be a pedant but JD is not a bourbon, nor is it a fake bourbon. It’s a Tennessee whiskey.