To ask if it’s common these day to live at home

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At 27

My DS lives at home he’s 27
I don’t mind as he’s rarely at home
As he works 12 hr shifts
He’s just about to come into a substantial inheritance and will be using that to buy a place in a few years otherwise I expect he wouldn’t be in any hurry to leave😂
I don’t charge him rent as we can afford not to
He cooks for himself like after our dogs when we go away

I’ve got 2 friends still living at home and both are over 40. One in London, been on council list since she was 20 but never has enough points to bid, as she is single, no kids etc. Her LA stipulate that any new developments must be offered to local residents first. An ‘affordable’ flat in her area is about £300k, more than 10x her wage. She could move further out but then would be isolated from her family and friends.

Another lives near me (Gtr Manchester), never earned enough to move out. Wages are low here, usually under £20k and house shares are practically non-existent unless in city centre (we’re not) or in student areas (who just want fellow students).

I could only afford to live alone at that age as I had a temporary promotion and was earning a very good wage for the area I lived in. As soon as the secondment ended, I had to go back to about half that wage and had no choice but to move back in with my parents. The company I worked for didn’t allow you to take a second job and it would have been impossible with my varying shift patterns.

@amsadandconfused I have just turned 30 and I recognise what you’re talking about. In our group of friends, it’s only the ones who went to uni who still can’t afford to buy a house or have only recently bought a small first house or flat.
The rest of us got good jobs after A-Levels and have either small mortgages on our first homes that were bought around 2013 or have now sold our first homes and bought bigger ones.

The ones who went to uni aren’t earning more, either and have more debt. It’s quite sad really as they obviously thought they were doing the best thing for their futures but it hasn’t turned out that way at all. Those that haven’t bought by now probably won’t be able to afford to on the wages they’re on.

Yes it is. My neighbours all 4 daughters are still at home, all of them uni age/passed uni age except one that is 15. I want them moving out as they now have 4 cars and soon to be 5. I grew thinking it's the norm in white families to move out ASAP, so I find it surprising they are still there and not living with a boyfriend.
My neighbour across from me, their son was living with them til 27, he just recently moved out, renting with a couple of friends. He's an only child.

@Powaqa

We are a multi generational house. I have both DC and their partners and one DGC living here. Both DC are older than 30 We share all the bills and any chores. It doesn't feel like they live with their parents or that we live with our kids. The house is big enough to comfortably fit all of us and we each live separate lives, we are not in each others pockets. It suits all of us.

I do genuinely think that this is how families will be living n the future! My children are all highly intelligent and have great degrees but unless they live in really deprived areas they have absolutely no chance of being homeowners!

I’m in my thirties and back at my parents house (for the last 3 years). I lived alone but was renting and was literally budgeting to the penny. This was in a small flat, nothing luxurious.

Parents said I could move back in to save up a house deposit. I pay board and buy the odd takeaway for us all, etc. this has meant that I can put £1000 a month away. I now have a house deposit and I’m constantly browsing Rightmove 😊 I’ll always be grateful to them for helping me along.

As a single person, so obviously buying on one wage, I would NEVER have been able to save a deposit while renting. So moving back home has literally changed the path of my whole life, enabling me to buy a home and have security.

I don’t see any shame in it. I get on well with my parents, we are all fine with the arrangement. I’ll admit I don’t have as much privacy as I’d like (though couldn’t date through endless lockdowns anyway!) but it’s a small price to pay

Thinking of the friends of my children, there was only one who still lived at home at that age.

I'm in south east I work with someone 32 who still lives at home. He can't really even afford to rent as rents are astronomical around here

[quote RussianSpy101]@amsadandconfused I have just turned 30 and I recognise what you’re talking about. In our group of friends, it’s only the ones who went to uni who still can’t afford to buy a house or have only recently bought a small first house or flat.
The rest of us got good jobs after A-Levels and have either small mortgages on our first homes that were bought around 2013 or have now sold our first homes and bought bigger ones.

The ones who went to uni aren’t earning more, either and have more debt. It’s quite sad really as they obviously thought they were doing the best thing for their futures but it hasn’t turned out that way at all. Those that haven’t bought by now probably won’t be able to afford to on the wages they’re on.[/quote]
Yes agree. But saying that 27/ 28 year olds are unattractive if they live at home is very unfair..it’s a very common problem for that age group.X

@amsadandconfused. That's really offensive. My siblings and I are aged between 27-33. All had bought our own homes by age 26, some are on our second ones now. One lives in a lovely new build three bed detached in a big housing estate 5 mins from the motorway with two cities either side. Another in a glamorous 2 bed flat by the seaside. Another in a period 4 floor terrace in the "naice" part of a major city. None of us or partners have amazingly well paid jobs - ranging from admin and electrician to civil service. Not everywhere outside of London and the South East is "majorly deprived" ffs!

@UndertonesOfCake

Hilarious!!

I'm really hoping that my kids feel as though they can return at any time in their lives. Admittedly we're yet to hit the teenage years, but I would feel as though I'd done a reasonable job parenting if they chose to return for a while whilst saving up for a house deposit. I think that things are very different today.

@RussianSpy101

I think it’s really odd and also unattractive. Can you imagine going on a date with a 27yo man who lived with his parents? No thanks.

Let's have a look at you then, see how attractive you are?

My brother (37) moved back in with dm because they both couldn't afford to live alone.
Dm is now disabled so has cut her hours right down, it works for them but sometimes I worry that my db feels like he cannot move out because he doesn't want dm struggling

I didn't move out for good until I was 29.

Thankfully DH wasn't as judgemental of my situation as some posters on here seem to be

I went to university at 18 and lived away for four years, including a year abroad.
Then came home after graduation and lived at home for two years before moving in with a boyfriend.
Stayed there for three years but when we split up I couldn't afford to live independently and had nothing keeping me in the area so I moved back home, got a full-time job, saved for a car and lessons and moved in with DH as soon as I passed my test.

DH himself moved out at a similar age as he was saving for a deposit. He's the only one out of five siblings who owns a property as the others were all desperate to move out ASAP, but they had DC and are now stuck renting in their forties and fifties which they all hate

@Snoozer11 I might not be physically attractive to you but I have 4 properties, a career, a business and 1 child in private school so at least I have my independence.

@Snoozer11 good try though 😂

If this was just about money, you would not have more young men living with their parents than young women.

[quote RussianSpy101]@MapleMay11 agree. I would expect someone by 27 to have a good career and be able to afford their own home.[/quote]
People can buy a house on a 30k salary in many parts of the UK. Hardly high earners or indicative of having a good career.

@MapleMay11 so why live with parents?

What is more surprising is the number who have left home at 16 years old.

www.statista.com/statistics/285330/young-adults-living-with-parents-uk-by-age-and-gender/

[quote RussianSpy101]@Snoozer11 I might not be physically attractive to you but I have 4 properties, a career, a business and 1 child in private school so at least I have my independence.[/quote]
A 27 year old at home might get to the same point you are at too, some day.
Why look down on them?

[quote RussianSpy101]@MapleMay11 so why live with parents?[/quote]
Why not? People are free to make their own choices. I don't find it particularly odd.

I think if you are able to leave home but don't, it shows a lack of get up and go.