No 2 minutes silence at gym. AIBU

[Mushypeasandchipstogo]

I went to my gym today for a class in the swimming pool. I had totally expected the class to finish just before 11am so that those who wanted to could observe the two minutes silence. By 10.55am it was apparent that this was not going to happen so I just took myself out of the pool and sat in the changing room by myself.
So as to not drip feed, I am from a Forces Family and the wrong side of 50! I found this totally disrespectful of the instructor. He could have, at the very least, mentioned that he had intended to not stop before the class. AIBU to be upset by this?

@MaryAndGerryLivingInDerry

YABU

It’s a personal choice to observe a silence, at any time of your choosing. Virtue signalling is bad enough, but forced group virtue signalling? no thanks.

Absoloouty this! The whole poppy thing has become ridiculous. No silence observed where I was and that's fine with me.

I don't like being told when I have to think about things, I'd rather learn the history in a museum (and have) than stand in silence to be honest. I thought the silence was on Remembrance Sunday only, I didn't even realise there were two. I wouldn't be disrespectful but as I don't know anyone who fought in the war it just doesn't have the same meaning for me and I'd just be waiting for it to end. I respect that it has much more meaning for others though and know someone who places the Last Post which I think is amazing.

@NotMyCat
Was your grandfather alive in WW1?

*plays

A two minute silence at 11.15 means just as much as one at 11am, unless you are doing it for performative reasons.

We done it at our soft play centre today, I was quite pleasantly suprised really. I didnt expect them too, I wouldn't expect it at the gym either.

@Waxonwaxoff0

YABU, it isn't mandatory. If it's so important to you why did you go to a class at that time?

This. ^ If you felt so strongly about it @Mushypeasandchipstogo you would not have gone to the gym at that time. What a silly complaint.

So as to not drip feed, I am from a Forces Family and the wrong side of 50!

What on earth has this got to do with anything?

Twenty years ago people definity didn’t wear poppies on TV for weeks beforehand and light entertainment shows didn’t do virtue-signalling specials. It’s grim.

A minute’s silence on Remembrance Sunday is totally appropriate. Everything else is just people showing off to make out that they care more than everyone else. Mind your own business.

I was in Waitrose. The cashier said, we're stopping now for 2 minutes. Ok, so be it; I wouldn't have noticed probably otherwise. Other people stopped, not much head bowing going on. I thought of the end of Black Adder and 'The Old Lie'.
In the middle of swimming, fitness classes, well that's just daft.

@Lemonsyellow

It's the very least we can do. I am extremely grateful to all those who fell giving their life so we can live ours.

So patently untrue. The least you can do? Not even a fiver to a charity? “Fell” is such a euphemism and insulting - to poeticise it all. They died, they didn’t fall.

It is true. I am grateful. I said least we can do so do not presume what I do or do not give to charity.

Fell is the original term. Yes they fell.

[quote Lemonsyellow]@NotMyCat
Was your grandfather alive in WW1?[/quote]
WW2, but he was very vocal on war/poppies/remembrance etc and it always reminds me of him and gives me a few minutes to think about him
Plus he was a POW in Burma

Yabu. The entire Remembrance has been blown up and pedalled out by the media into this agenda-serving hype that certainly never used to exist when I was a youngster.

We managed 2 mins on an Acute medical ward, it was great, v respectful.

I wouldn't be disrespectful but as I don't know anyone who fought in the war

Exactly. Virtually no-one alive today knows anyone who was around in WW1. Many people clearly seem to think today is about WW2 or any other conflict - and they seem to be the ones preaching the most.

I don’t remember it being a thing when I was young. I wonder if it has become more important as the WW1 veterans have died. We did it at school
Today and it felt incredibly moving. The young army cadets came in uniform and we had an assembly on the history this morning, and remembered the members of the school
Who have died in more recent conflict. Thr young trumpeters played the last post and for all our young people it feel very profound and moving and not performative at all. I guess schools have a duty to educate it, and if you are not working and it matters that much to you why wouldn’t you go to your nearest memorial rather than swimming or shopping. It doesn’t seem that respectful to do that and then moan that they don’t do 2 minutes silence.

I thought the silence was on Remembrance Sunday only, I didn't even realise there were two.

I’m ready to be corrected but think that is how it used to be, I’ve got the impression also having a period of silence on the 11th (the actual anniversary) in the UK is a fairly recent thing….

FWIW by way of comparison where I am (France) the 11th is a public holiday and all commemorations/parades are done on the day, which is a public holiday.

As for the OP…I do think it’s a personal matter and I’d actually not expect an enforced silence in somewhere like a health club, but I would make my own arrangements, as indeed I did earlier today.

I stopped for 2 minutes and sat in silence.

It was important to me to be able to do that, in private.
Because it was important to me, I made sure that I wasn't in a swimming pool or in a supermarket.

I am with you. I was in a cafe and the announcement was made about silence. It took a while for some to shut up and even when most had I heard a woman laugh twice quite loudly while another was talking to her. Just no respect.

Forced performative remembrance. Pointless virtue signalling

It's not compulsory. What's the point of enforced remembrance?

YANBU OP

I’ve got the impression also having a period of silence on the 11th (the actual anniversary) in the UK is a fairly recent thing….

You’re right. 1995.

You can't seriously expect the preening gym addicts to break for 2 minutes from their vital workout schedule to honour those who died for their country OP.

@Lemonsyellow

It's the very least we can do. I am extremely grateful to all those who fell giving their life so we can live ours.

So patently untrue. The least you can do? Not even a fiver to a charity? “Fell” is such a euphemism and insulting - to poeticise it all. They died, they didn’t fall.

The least anyone could do is vote for a party that actively tries to support the most vulnerable members of society such as homeless people and those with mental health issues, and those who have been forced to retire early from badly paid jobs - with ex-servicement being a well represented in all three of those groups if I nderstand correctly.. As opposed to a party that is set-up by and for the rich.

@Suzi888

YANBU but no one seems to care anymore. Generation ❄️ We wouldn’t win a war these days!

What rubbish. A PP said the 3 and 4 year olds sat for it, my dcs are going to a remembrance on Sunday and I expect from the OP's post this was a class of middle aged people.

Hate the blame and easy pickings the young appear to be.