If someone said "mid to late morning" to you, what time would you think that was?

[OhamIreally]

Making contact arrangements with ex for after Christmas (so not imminently firming up plans IYSWIM).
Told ex I would be able to drop off at a mid-way point mid-late morning.
He's now asked for a "rough time" so he can plan his departure time.

AIBU that I have already give a rough time?

Just arrange a time?

10.30-11.30

Interesting I’d think 11-12

10.30-11.00. But why not arrange a time?

Anytime from 10 until 1pm. It's a bit vague. I'd want it within half an hour tbh...

I would think mid to late morning could be any time between 9:30 and 12:30, so it's certainly not very specific. (9:30-11:00 would be mid morning, 11:00-12:30 would be late morning.)

If you had said "let's say mid to late morning for now, but I'll give you a better estimate nearer the time" there probably wouldn't have been any issue. I can see him being annoyed if he thought mid to late morning was going to be the most specific you were going to get.

Why not just work with him and give him a rough time?

Well once you get to midday, you're past the time anyone would think it's in the morning and no-one would reasonably think any time before 10 is mid morning, so you're down to 10 to 11.30 at most, which is a rough time and certainly more than anyone needs nearly two months in advance.

10.30 - 11.30

10.30 until 11.30 any later and it's not late morning! I used to get annoyed with my partners ex not giving a time in a round about way sorry.

Personally mid to late morning would mean before lunch to me which would be 1ish. So for me it would be between 11 and 12. If you are meeting half way you need to specify an actual time though.

Gosh - just read some of this! OP I'm totally on your side - you aren't being unreasonable or anything else. You give a rough time now and then firm things up nearer the time. Or even say 'let's say 11.30 and if either of us have a reason to tweak that nearer the time then fine'.

It's weeks away! The day and a rough time are agreed, who needs more? Why is everyone making such a huge deal of it?

(Quite apart from his history of being a logistical nightmare.......)

!!

10 to just before 12

@Sandysellman

10.30 until 11.30 any later and it's not late morning! I used to get annoyed with my partners ex not giving a time in a round about way sorry.

So you would class 11:45 as afternoon?

Just say a time, maybe between 10 and 11
or are you trying to wind him up

You gave a vague time, he isn’t being unreasonable to ask you to be more specific. Mid/late morning to me is 10.30-11.55

I'd need a number
around 11am

10.30 - 12

Mid morning I'd think 10, late morning 11 to 11:30, after that I'd say midday. If I was out for a run at 6 instead of just getting showered I might see 9 as being mid morning. Easier to just say 'around 10/11' surely?

Also agree he needs a specific time.

That said it's 6 weeks away. Not unreasonable to set a firmer time nearer the time.
Have there been previous misunderstandings on this?

I'd assume 10-11 which would be fine if you were dropping them to him but YABU not to give him a time if he's meeting you at a midpoint.

He got a variation on maintenance and youre still meeting halfway?

I wouldnt bother

@Aubree17

Also agree he needs a specific time. That said it's 6 weeks away. Not unreasonable to set a firmer time nearer the time. Have there been previous misunderstandings on this?

Unless he has other things he has to plan for. If OP gives him a time the day before that works for her but what if he has to fit in a visit to take children to see his granny in a care home (you have to book times at the home I visit) or he's booking tickets for something and needs to know if he can get there in time.

Mid to late morning to me would be between 10.30 and 12

YABU. That’s too wide a window and could be anything between 9 - 11.30am.

I would want a specific time.