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If someone said "mid to late morning" to you, what time would you think that was?

361 replies

OhamIreally · 06/11/2021 09:48

Making contact arrangements with ex for after Christmas (so not imminently firming up plans IYSWIM).
Told ex I would be able to drop off at a mid-way point mid-late morning.
He's now asked for a "rough time" so he can plan his departure time.

AIBU that I have already give a rough time?

OP posts:
Plantstrees · 06/11/2021 12:54

11-12 is late morning for me.
10.30 is mid morning so mid - late morning is very vague.

BoredZelda · 06/11/2021 12:57

I don't want to give a specific time yet as have other people/logistics to consider around setting off times and once those are in place I can give an actual time. I thought a rough time 7weeks in advance would be sufficient for interim planning purposes.

I’m not sure why think other people and logistics would be more important than the actual person you are meeting. And if you can give a rough time 7 weeks in advance, being specific shouldn’t be out of the question either. If you do offer him that specific time, at least be gracious about it.

Yourstupidityexhaustsme · 06/11/2021 12:58

Mummy is usually quite fraught on Christmas morning regardless.

We are sore because at bedtime someone announced the only thing they want from Father Christmas is the single £5 toy they have never mentioned before and nothing else and that sets the evening's precedence.

Mummy and Daddy usually started bickering at 10:30 as they attempted to located the 'big present' we have kept hidden since November. Daddy then proceeds to wrap too loudly as Mummy does her best to carry down the hidden hoard outside two bedroom doors.

Mummy usually drops presents on the way down which seem to echo around the house.

The rest of the night is spent with a bottle of wine telling one another to 'shush' loudly as we strain our ears for the sound of someone venturing for the toilet.

Daddy starts prepping veg at midnight as Mummy rearranges the presents and tree for the eighth time that night. We eventually head to bed at 1am only to be woken less than four hours later. The next two hours are staggered with - 'go back to bed', 'it's still bedtime', 'OK, one present from your stocking' before we are finally bullied from our pits.

By 9:00 the house is a bomb site, Mummy is mildly hungover, the turkey is finally in and somehow it's only an hour until Nana is arriving. We must wrangle to get ready.

Everyone's eaten too much sugar, no one likes the outfits Mummy has picked and by this point Mummy just lets Spiderman come to Christmas dinner. Nana informs Mummy the turkey is drier than last year and is horrified when she learns her son has cooked it. Mummy looks at Daddy who cannot wait until next year when it's Uncle X's turn to have Nana. Auntie Y arrives in the afternoon like a sanctified cherub and engages both Nana and the children with her own offspring. Auntie Y helps empty the dishwasher for the third time and Mummy and Daddy want to hug her. They do.

By bedtime everyone is saying this has been the best Christmas ever, but Mummy promises Daddy we won't do it again next year and we will instead get a takeaway or go away.

Mummy lies. Next year would be exactly the same and if Mummy were telling the truth, she wouldn't have it any other way. Except for Nana.

An unexpected house guest who was due at 11:30 only to arrive at 10:00 would have long pushed said Mummy over the edge.

halloweenqwueeeen · 06/11/2021 13:04

I’d think stop being a dickhead and tell me actual time so I know when to arrive 🤦🏽‍♀️

NameChangeADHD · 06/11/2021 13:09

I’d think anytime from 8.45 to 11.55 ish

TheNinny · 06/11/2021 13:09

10.30-11/11.30

PrivateHall · 06/11/2021 13:12

It is 7 weeks away, I ma with OP here. Dad doesn't need to plan his exact departure time 7 weeks in advance surely.

AchyFlower · 06/11/2021 13:14

@Yourstupidityexhaustsme what's that got to do with OP?

Wheresmywoolyjumpers · 06/11/2021 13:19

to me it would be anything from 10am - 12 noon so yes, I would want a specific time.

OhamIreally · 06/11/2021 13:19

The reputation of AIBU is not without cause 😀

Ex: can you do a 150 mile round trip to drop off DD on 28 December?"
Me: yes should be able to get there mid-late morning"

Bluntness: you're a cunt

Mumsnet: You're a petty awkward dickhead trying to block contact.

OP posts:
Saoirse82 · 06/11/2021 13:21

Between 11 and 12 but no, its not clear. It might mean one time to one person and another to someone else. Why don't you just give him a rough time?

Hankunamatata · 06/11/2021 13:23

11

Newwifeatnumber10 · 06/11/2021 13:23

Just give him a time and don’t play silly games.

AchyFlower · 06/11/2021 13:25

@OhamIreally

The reputation of AIBU is not without cause 😀

Ex: can you do a 150 mile round trip to drop off DD on 28 December?"
Me: yes should be able to get there mid-late morning"

Bluntness: you're a cunt

Mumsnet: You're a petty awkward dickhead trying to block contact.

He just asked what time? Unless he asked it in a nasty way then yeah you're being awkward and making it harder than it has to be.
SmellyLikeABlew · 06/11/2021 13:25

@Bluntness100

Oh cmon, you’re being totally unreasonable, he has to drive to meet you so give him a time.
I agree. He's still within time!
ineedsun · 06/11/2021 13:25

@OhamIreally

The reputation of AIBU is not without cause 😀

Ex: can you do a 150 mile round trip to drop off DD on 28 December?"
Me: yes should be able to get there mid-late morning"

Bluntness: you're a cunt

Mumsnet: You're a petty awkward dickhead trying to block contact.

That’s not really how it went though is it? As I understood it, it was

We agree to meet half way at Christmas

ExP: what time will you be there?
OP: mid to late morning
ExP: what time do you mean by that?
OP: I’m not telling you

Hankunamatata · 06/11/2021 13:25

Yeah I couldn't cope with vagueness of mid morning. I'd prefer you saying between 10.30 and 11.30 or that you plan to set off at x time and that should get you there no later than x time

invisiblecats · 06/11/2021 13:25

@BoredZelda

I don't want to give a specific time yet as have other people/logistics to consider around setting off times and once those are in place I can give an actual time. I thought a rough time 7weeks in advance would be sufficient for interim planning purposes.

I’m not sure why think other people and logistics would be more important than the actual person you are meeting. And if you can give a rough time 7 weeks in advance, being specific shouldn’t be out of the question either. If you do offer him that specific time, at least be gracious about it.

Juggling lots of people's competing needs / logistics isn't saying they're more important, FFS.

Demanding an exact time so many weeks in advance unless you have a good reason to is overly controlling.

AchyFlower · 06/11/2021 13:27

Demanding an exact time so many weeks in advance unless you have a good reason to is overly controlling. he might have good reason to!

invisiblecats · 06/11/2021 13:29

My friend is due this afternoon and I still don't know what time she's getting here! She's going to tell me when she gets a train so I have about 45 minutes notice.

Not a problem.

I'm helping at a work event in 2 weeks. We only just arranged times yesterday as we booked train tickets.

Why on earth does anyone need to know 7 weeks in advance? (Unless a specific reason)

Marvellousmadness · 06/11/2021 13:29

09.30-11 55.
Which would annoy the shit out of me just tell me an actual time to go by. Not some random "mid to late morning " yabu

KaycePollard · 06/11/2021 13:29

Mid-morning for me is around 11am. But frankly, “rough time” for me would be a nominated time. With travel and unforeseen problems, why can’t you say that you’re aiming for 11am, but there. Ishtar be hold ups.

It would annoy me to be told by someone meeting me a time within an hour - it’s a bit rude, really. As if the other person’s time is not as valuable as yours.

Whinge · 06/11/2021 13:30

@OhamIreally

The reputation of AIBU is not without cause 😀

Ex: can you do a 150 mile round trip to drop off DD on 28 December?"
Me: yes should be able to get there mid-late morning"

Bluntness: you're a cunt

Mumsnet: You're a petty awkward dickhead trying to block contact.

Goodness me you seem determined to make out everyone is being awful to you. Hmm

All he's asking is for a time. He doesn't want it down to the minute or second, he just wants a rough time. Not a wishy washy statement which the thread has proven means different things to different people.

Mid-late morning = any time between 9 - 12

Around 11 - 12 = Around 11 - 12

invisiblecats · 06/11/2021 13:31

@AchyFlower

Demanding an exact time so many weeks in advance unless you have a good reason to is overly controlling. he might have good reason to!
Yes, he might. But we haven't heard one, so I'm assuming he hasn't. And the OP says he only asked for a rough time anyway, so it seems unlikely.

And, the OP has explained why she would prefer to be vague at this point.

Cosyblankets · 06/11/2021 13:32

Don't be awkward and just give him a time.