Going on holiday abroad with Covid

[WillyWollyWandy]

I’ve name changed as this is outing.
I tested positive for Covid almost 2 weeks ago. I was due to go abroad with the children for half term to see my sister who lives abroad. But well, best laid plans and all that. Instead I isolated at home for 8 days. For the most part, I confined myself to my room so as not to infect my husband and children. My isolation period has just finished and I’ve been out and about for a couple of days now.
My husband has been going to work every day. He did a PCR around the same time as I tested positive and it was negative.

He is due to go abroad on a golfing weekend, leaving tomorrow and he has a bit of a cold. Says everyone in work has it.
I’ve asked him if he is planning on taking a test and he said no, he doesn’t want to know. Asked him if he’d even consider doing an LFT but he said no. I asked him if he found out he had Covid would he still go and he said yes but it won’t happen because he isn’t going to take a test. “And anyway it’s only flu.”

Full disclosure: I’ve been a bit lax during covid, didn’t always follow rules, was never one for disinfecting my groceries and wore a mask as little as I could get away with.

But even I, as soon as I got it, I was fully compliant. I just think my normally considerate husband is being really selfish for not taking a test because he doesn’t want to miss his golf weekend, potentially infecting everyone on the plane/hotel/the restaurants etc. (I didn’t want to miss my holiday either, but shit happens).
AIBU or am I perched on my moral high horse, misdirecting my anger on missing my own holiday at him?

Are some countries still doing a temperature check/visual health assessment on arrival?

notimagain

So how many layers of extra testing do ‘we” want to impose, just in case? It sounds as if the OP’s partner has already taken an extra test voluntarily….

He hasn’t done the minimum testing. If I understand right, because OP was positive, he should have done a PCR on day 2 and 8 after that test. That’s the current guidelines here at least. Thought that was UK wide though.

So the DH had none of the main listed covid symptoms, had a recent negative PCR and had a negative LFT but this is still not enough for some people.
OP you overreached by booking your DH in for another PCR, he's an adult, it's in him to do that.

I'd still be tempted to contact the airline.

@Terriffids

I'd still be tempted to contact the airline.

And say what exactly….

“My partner passed a PCR several days again, and has just passed an LFT but IMHO he should not fly”?

Frankly this is becoming quite a scary thread and if a DH was attempting to stymie their partner’s plans in the way some are suggesting here there would quite rightly be absolute uproar.

He should have done a second PCR at day 8 but didn’t and is now going abroad with symptoms having knowingly been in very close contact with someone with Covid. He’s in the wrong here.

Genuine question - can you give me the reference to the day 8 PCR test requirement?

@notimagain

Genuine question - can you give me the reference to the day 8 PCR test requirement?

I thought you worked in the travel business?

@diddl

Are some countries still doing a temperature check/visual health assessment on arrival?

Yes, most of them.

I thought you worked in the travel business?

And the relevance of that comment is?

Anyhow FWIW you are correct, but I certainly don’t claim to have encyclopedic knowledge of the ever changing UK regs … hence the question.

As a close contact it is advised to do day 2 and day 8 PCR. Not required. Legally he's totally within the right side of the law. Morally is this issue I guess, although no one on here has presumably checked that they are free of all potentially fatal viruses (including being asymptomatic for flu) prior to flying before covid. So if they say this is immoral then maybe they have also acted immorally previously.

@notimagain

I thought you worked in the travel business?

And the relevance of that comment is?

Anyhow FWIW you are correct, but I certainly don’t claim to have encyclopedic knowledge of the ever changing UK regs … hence the question.

Because you almost exclusively post on aviation matters and have done since the beginning of the pandemic. So I was surprised to see you seeming to question regulations. No need to be snippy

*notimagain

Can’t find a reference that isn’t travel related. I did find it before when I was checking as we are in the midst of a household Covid outbreak but can’t find it quickly now. This is what I got from TTT (see final sentence):

‘This message is for you/someone you are responsible for. Following a POSITIVE Covid-19 test please self-isolate for 10 days from the start of symptoms/ date of test if no symptoms. If you work in health, social care or support vulnerable individuals contact us immediately. Speak to your household/others you had close contact with 2 days before symptoms started/your test date until now. They must self-isolate immediately unless fully vaccinated or under 18 years. Contacts with Covid-19 symptoms should isolate and book a test immediately. All contacts should test on day 2 & 8 from their date of their exposure by...’

OPs partner should have re-tested on day 8 but didn’t by the sounds of it. As he has cold symptoms he is pretty reckless and selfish to have both dodged the second PCR and to continue with plans when he’s feeling unwell and has been in close contact with a positive case IMO.

@Suspiciousmind20 Should does not mean must. Its advice. Legally he can do what he wants providing he does not have one of the three symptoms.

Morally, as I said above is a different issue.

And that is why we had to have laws to enforce lockdowns because you can’t trust people to do the right thing.

So it’s advice…Just like a lot of the Covid “rules” of the last year?

The OPs partner as at least met her demands half way with the LFT, and it at least appears isn’t planning on doing anything illegal…

@BluebellsGreenbells

There’s a lot of viruses that appear to have grown stronger because of lockdowns - we can’t avoid them - we need them to become weaker.

Wearing masks and testing for illnesses when people aren't ill is pointless

Interesting, what makes you say this, are you a biological scientist/virologist?

Place marking for when he's stranded abroad with Covid 🙊

namechangerforthisconfessionn

Place marking for when he's stranded abroad with Covid 🙊

Smart move. Much respect to you.

I'm the laziest person I know and I still dragged myself to the test centre for a PCR. What a dickhead.

@BluebellsGreenbells

There’s a lot of viruses that appear to have grown stronger because of lockdowns - we can’t avoid them - we need them to become weaker.

Wearing masks and testing for illnesses when people aren't ill is pointless

But you don't know if it's coronavirus unless you get tested.

That is the point.