How do I tell my mum I’m moving 45 minutes away?

[umwhyisthishappening]

I live in an expensive area so am currently renting a very small flat. I am now in a financial situation where I can afford to rent a house, but just outside of the area. We can’t buy and don’t want to move back home. We have a toddler.

I have wanted to move for months and today we found a place we love and we want to put down the deposit before it’s snapped up - but it’s 45 minutes away from my mum.

A couple of months ago I suggested moving she screamed in my face and then refused to talk to me - even though it was 15 minutes away. She wants me to live in the same town as her, but I definitely don’t want that.

This nee place is 45 minutes away and I am terrified of telling her, I know she is going to go mad.

But this is a three bedroom house with a large lounge and two bathrooms. In our price range! The area has amazing schools and the neighbourhood is gorgeous. I need to go for it - but how do I do this without causing a huge fallout?

And yes I have posted about my mum before - a big part of moving 45 mins away is to be further from her as currently we are in the neighbouring town.

I’m 26. And I don’t depend on her at all - I feel like she wants me to, though.

Exactly OP, she wants you dependant on her because then she can have full control over you and your DS.

I'm so glad you are moving away from her and asserting some boundaries that will protect you and your child.

Sorry you got that abuse from your mum,

Pack up, focus on the new memories you will be making, a fresh start 💐

Good luck with the move today, umwhyisthishappening! Hope you manage to relocate without any drama from your family.

Well, don't tell her then. Move. If she kicks off when you do tell her, don't give her the address. Oh, I see you've told her. Why? You need to put as much distance between you as possible, your family sounds deranged. Don't join in with it.

Best of luck with the move today, enjoy your new home!!!

They moved the move to Wednesday last night due to the previous tenant not being able to get it cleaned in time as she was in hospital. Totally understandable but still a little gutted! X

Ahhh what a shame!!! At least you have a date though and clearly it couldn't be helped. This time next week you'll be sitting in your new home x

Best wishes OP, keep your details to yourself and enjoy your new home.

Not sure why my question was deleted.

Anyway, seems like you are an adult and capable of making your own decisions.

Good luck for Wednesday and don't look back.

Go be the mum to your kids which you wish your mum could be right now. You're on the right track. I moved a 6 hour flight away from mine at a younger age. 45mins by car is nothing.

Hope everything goes well for you tomorrow.

Good luck today OP!

Hope all is going well OP.

Good luck today OP!

Thinking of you and hoping all goes well today.

Thank you all! Can’t believe so many remembered! We are moved in and unpacking now!!

Good luck with the move. My sister and I moved away from my parents who never did anything but support ,encourage and hide their own sadness. We knew they'd miss us but they wanted us to live our own lives and stand on our own feet.

It sounds as if you just had your best Christmas present early!
Congratulations and every happiness in your new home!

Congratulations!!

Wonderful!!!

Welcome HOME! Peace and joy to you and your little family.

@umwhyisthishappening congratulations and hope you have a peaceful life in your new home.

Happy new home!

Congratulations and best of luck.

Congratulations!