Changed nappy on restaurant table

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I went to an independent pizza place for lunch with a friend. Her 4 month old did a poo. The restaurant only had one tiny toilet with no changing space. My friend used the empty table next to us to change her baby. I was mortified and other customers watched us, I think one was filming us surreptitiously. Am I wrong not to want to go to lunch with her again. Fwiw I have 3 small children and I would have changed them outside.

YABU: she had nowhere else to change the baby
YANBU: that was a disgusting thing to do

I assume the person I think was filming was doing it because it was such a WTF moment, rather than because they are a pedophile. Although, obviously I do not know their motives.

I would never change my baby on a bathroom floor, especially in a unisex loo. I would have left the restaurant to find somewhere suitable.

So revolting! I would have changed on toilet floor

So it's revolting to change a baby on a table but you'd happily put a baby on a public toilet floor....Ok.....

Totally unacceptable to film whatever the motive.

That’s appalling.
What a revoltingly unhealthy and disrespectful thing to do!
Does she have no ideas about hygiene?
The other customers must have been retching at the sight and smell.
Feral behaviour.

I assume the person I think was filming was doing it because it was such a WTF moment, rather than because they are a pedophile. Although, obviously I do not know their motives.

Still completely unacceptable, and I would have challenged the person filming.

disgusting! I'm amazed the restaurant didn't call her out on it

Did she put down a mat or anything at least? I wouldn't have changed on a table in any circumstances though. I have a 4-month-old and I'd avoid any place without changing facilities. I'm anxious enough about him making noise. Never mind trying to change him out in public. I would have just gone to find a place with changing facilities. Also to those saying they'd use their laps. I'm not sure how that'd work though I do have a big wriggly baby so maybe they have smaller more compliant babies.

No need to lay a baby on a toilet floor, mat or otherwise.

Teach a mother to change a baby on her lap, as was the way long before changing mats were even invented. Sit on the loo lid, and job done.

If there is a loo, there is no excuse to change a baby anywhere else..

If I can still change my two year old grandaughter on my lap, so why not a small baby?

No no no, that's gross. We used to take travel change mats and go off to the toilets.

I’d have just sat on the toilet and changed the baby on my lap. Much better than using the table.

YANBU - I used to put a changing mat onto toilet lid and change my DC there if no space....or I'd wheel buggy to WC area and change them in the buggy. I wouldn't change them in a restaurant area, anymore than I'd expect someone to feed their baby in a toilet area

Did anybody say they'd use the toilet floor? I'd put the seat down and change the baby on my lap there

That is absolutely disgusting

Christ that's grim.

When DD was 8 months old we went to Spain and on our first day (me, DH, DM and DD) chose a gorgeous trendy tapas bar for lunch. Went to change DDs nappy then remembered the pitfalls of non-child friendly changing facilities in a trendy venue! Still, that's what a travel change mat is for so it was on the loo floor for us and with the help of anti bac wipes for me and to wipe back of mat down were fine.

There is no excuse EVER for useing the table

Disgusting.I saw someone do that in the dining area of a pub once and the dirty nappy was left on the chair.

I've asked the manager to use their office at times like this. I've never yet been refused (mostly because i say "or i could use a table")

But frankly? Complain and never go back?

That is utterly disgusting.

As someone who has caught nasty bugs from changing nappies, this is disgusting. You really should have stopped her. Just because it comes from a baby doesn't make it any less poo.

Agh, sorry but that’s awful! I sympathise with being caught out needing somewhere to change your baby, but on top of a restaurant table in full view of other diners? 🤢
I was in this position once and a bit desperate. I spoke to staff and they let me change my little boy on a mat in the back storeroom.

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Disgusting.I saw someone do that in the dining area of a pub once and the dirty nappy was left on the chair.

What subhuman would do this?! It is gross when filthy nappies are left in rural lay byes or gutters for others to pick up- Probably the same type of person that leaves dog poo bags dangling from trees - or leaves dog poo in parks or on pavements.

Why should someone else have to clean up the feces? So utterly selfish.

I'd have done it in bathroom on toilet on knee. Or on floor in bathroom. I.e cross legged baby on knee

The restaurant staff should have marched straight over and stopped her in her tracks. If they saw her and said nothing that was bad, but if they didn’t see her then that would mean that they did not know that the table needed to be fully cleaned afterwards. Did you or she tell them? Otherwise, imagine how awful for the next people to sit there? And I say this even if she used a mat and knowing that very small baby poo is really not that offensive.

With a baby that small she could easily have managed in the loo with baby on her knee or on the toilet seat. Or she should have braved the cold outside. At a very very big push, on the chair next to your own table.

She’s clearly suffering from the delusion that babies give people a free pass to be disgusting. It can happen slightly as you get so used to all the mess and bodily fluid at home that you forget that it’s not acceptable out and about. But this people need people like you to remind them.

That is disgusting. No excuse or justification for changing a baby on a restaurant table.

She was bu obviously, you use your lap or the pram.

You were bu for not challenging her. Ditto the staff.

Jesus, how grim.