Do you view someone differently if they swear?

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I don’t really mind the odd swear word - I swear myself from time to time, but why do people swear inappropriately as in normal sentences or use the C word? Its not that it offends, It’s just really quite repulsive both spoken or written down, I just switch off and lose any respect I would have had for this person.

Is it a regional thing? People just don’t talk like that in my area

Honestly, as soon as someone swears I think less of them.

It does not bother me and I do not find it "repulsive". Most adults swear sometimes, I would view it dimly if someone was swearing in front of children, but in many other environments it is something that happens.

Not really.

If they swear in an inappropriate setting then I’d view them as someone either with no filter, or with no awareness of social norms (an example would be swearing in a job interview or something). And I don’t like rudeness - but you can be rude without swearing and you can swear without being rude, so I guess in that case it’s the intent rather than the word itself that I’d object to.
So no, on their own swear words don’t bother me, but I think they can be used in ways that are inappropriate or unacceptable, which would bother me.

I judge people who don’t swear. I just know I’m going to find them a bit pious and po-faced.

I don't think it's a regional or a class thing.
I live in a very working class northern place and don't often swear. Most people I know don't swear often. As soon as I hear someone swear and it's clear that it's going to regularly feature in each sentence I lose respect for that person and we won't interact in the future.

No, I’m not a wanker.

Swearing is very common in most places I’ve lived. Judging someone on the words they use rather than what they’re actually saying is… kinda fucked up.

Doesn't bother me in the slightest.

It's all about the context.

I don’t swear at all, or really rarely. DH has a fucking in most sentences.I don’t care , I don’t mind it at all in others. Although, not around children.

If they swear in an inappropriate setting then I’d view them as someone either with no filter, or with no awareness of social norms (an example would be swearing in a job interview or something).

I said ‘bollocking’ in a job interview once. As soon as it was out I thought ‘Did I really just say that in an interview?’, but I pressed on.

I got the job.

I judge if the swearing is just part of speech rather than to convey a particular feeling. So if you stub your toe and say shit...fine. If you say "do you have milk in your fucking cup of tea?". I judge hard.

Yes. I see it as likely they will have more needs and be less helpful/reliable.

Yes, I would view differently and judge.

@WomanStanleyWoman

I judge people who don’t swear. I just know I’m going to find them a bit pious and po-faced.

I'm with you.

I certainly judge people who judge people for swearing. It's just words. I am perfectly capable of not swearing in certain situations / in front of children, but sometimes only a good swear will do and if you're going to judge me for it we're not going to be on the same wavelength

Only when people are swearing at children.

I love to swear - but at appropriate times and never in front of children. I don’t like the c word but a good curse with the f word works wonders for my frustration. I also judge people who say they never swear.

I don't judge people for swearing generally, but depends on the situation 🤷, place etc. I swear myself, but only with close friends/family and I detest the c word with a passion.

Doesn't bother me at all. They are just words.

Doesn’t bother me

I am more surprised by people who don’t. I work in a high stress environment with high stress people and sometimes the word cunt is needed to get meaning across. I NEVER swear AT people just generally sweary rants about how management are dickheads and why the fuck does no one give a shit about human beings. That sort of thing.
But it’s Australia so maybe it’s different

use the C word

Corbyn?

@WomanStanleyWoman

I judge people who don’t swear. I just know I’m going to find them a bit pious and po-faced.

Have to admit I’m the same, especially if their not swearing policy extends to other adults around them.

I think swear words are just words and are sometimes helpful in providing suitable emphasis. "Fucking hell" vs "oh gosh" for example. So I think they're just words, but sometimes they're used in vile circumstances. I heard my neighbour's adult son recently call his parents cunts whilst shouting at them. It's not the word that I found distressing, but the event, whatever led up to it, how awful they all must have been feeling in that moment, etc., that worried me.

I work with people who are highly distressed and they often ask permission to speak freely. My response is always "you can use whatever words you want so long as you aren't using them at me".

I'm with the crowd who judge the people, who judge swearers. Swearing is appropriate when people are being twats and wankers. For example.

I have a colleague who swears a lot in general conversation although not around children. He’s a bit younger than most of the other staff so I see him as a bit immature and hope it’s something he’ll grow out of as he’s lovely otherwise. I swear occasionally and don’t mind people doing it a bit but not to excess if that makes sense?