Do you view someone differently if they swear?

[Speckledhem]

I don’t really mind the odd swear word - I swear myself from time to time, but why do people swear inappropriately as in normal sentences or use the C word? Its not that it offends, It’s just really quite repulsive both spoken or written down, I just switch off and lose any respect I would have had for this person.

Is it a regional thing? People just don’t talk like that in my area

@WomanStanleyWoman

I judge people who don’t swear. I just know I’m going to find them a bit pious and po-faced.

This.

It's about a time and a place.

effing and blinding in the playground. I'd avoid them

Talking to them in a different situation ans they described a fucking stupid driver or their fucking cheating husband. - that's ok.

Total non swearers shouldn't be trusted

@WomanStanleyWoman

I judge people who don’t swear. I just know I’m going to find them a bit pious and po-faced.

Yep, I have to admit I'm the same.

They're just words. I can't be arsed with people who are that easily offended, tbh

@WomanStanleyWoman

I judge people who don’t swear. I just know I’m going to find them a bit pious and po-faced.

Yep same here. I think that of my in-laws, whilst they probably think i'm a fishwife 😂

@Mumoblue

No, I’m not a wanker.

Swearing is very common in most places I’ve lived. Judging someone on the words they use rather than what they’re actually saying is… kinda fucked up.

Agreed. At the end of the day there are a lot worse things someone could say and judging someone as a lesser person just because they use fuck, shit, twat etc is just odd.

Swear words don't make a person better or worse and they don't define who that person is. They are just words and as long as they are able to moderate their use in necessary situations such as in front of children or customers then what is there to judge?

I do judge people who swear in front of children.

I swear very occasionally, I find that way it makes people take notice when I do.

And yes, I guess I judge the frequent swearers. One colleague uses swearwords as punctuation, so much so that I do not choose to go out to coffee or meals out when she is going.

If someone starts swearing to be intimidate then I'll judge the the lack of control and the threat of violence.

But I quite like swearing peppered through the course of civil conversation to add a little flavour, rythmn and low level rebellion.

www.independent.co.uk/life-style/health-and-families/swearing-study-intelligent-intelligence-university-rochester-a7916516.html

The psychologists found that an individual's fluency in the English language was linked to fluency in swearing. In other words, swearing may actually be a sign of greater intellect, not less, and a more robust vocabulary.
www.discovermagazine.com/health/worried-about-your-foul-mouth-swearing-could-actually-be-good-for-you

I’m a swearer. Obviously not in front of kids or in professional environments but outside of work (or in my office at work with close colleagues) I swear a lot.

I don’t make judgements on people based on whether or not they swear but, in my experience, people who are prissy and judgemental about others swearing tend to be less intelligent. Generally, the most intelligent and interesting people I meet are fine with swearing even if they aren’t personally swearers themselves. People who think that swearing indicates low intelligence always seem to be very intellectually mediocre themselves.

@Twelveshoes

Yes. I see it as likely they will have more needs and be less helpful/reliable.

What a crock of shit 😂😂😂

@Twelveshoes

Yes. I see it as likely they will have more needs and be less helpful/reliable.

Gosh, that's quite a leap!

People just don’t talk like that in my area

Here, have a from us riff-raff then.

@Whatkatyforgottodo

I have a colleague who swears a lot in general conversation although not around children. He’s a bit younger than most of the other staff so I see him as a bit immature and hope it’s something he’ll grow out of as he’s lovely otherwise. I swear occasionally and don’t mind people doing it a bit but not to excess if that makes sense?

Some of the biggest swearers at my work are my older colleagues! They are mostly lawyers though which might make a difference.

‘Gosh, that's quite a leap!’

Not really. I work in a job where I have to deal with distressed people. As people become more distressed and are struggling to cope they tend to swear more. The more someone swears, the more likely it is they will need more support and be less reliable at helping themselves.

It is one piece of an overall picture of how someone is dealing with a situation.

I swear occasionally but not as an adjective in a normal sentence. I do judge people who use swear words in every sentence, it wouldn’t stop me being friends with them but it is a bit scummy and lower class.

I prefer people who swear personally.

@Twelveshoes

‘Gosh, that's quite a leap!’

Not really. I work in a job where I have to deal with distressed people. As people become more distressed and are struggling to cope they tend to swear more. The more someone swears, the more likely it is they will need more support and be less reliable at helping themselves.

It is one piece of an overall picture of how someone is dealing with a situation.

But you're trying to say that outside of your job, people who swear are more likely to have struggles and be less reliable, which is total BS.

@ArseInTheCoOpWindow

I prefer people who swear personally.

Me too.

Hate going round the in-laws where MIL will cower away from the work 'fuck' and will meekly mutter 'effing' if she has to quote someone. Blah.

Take me to my parents any day 😂

I don't tend to swear and find people judge me for that. Mind you when I do swear most of my friends take notice!

I find it incredibly tiresome when comedians swear a lot and people titter. Sooo clever.
I'd also rather they weren't used as punctuation. DH does it and I find it a distraction.
I'm not a great swearer but I do like to use them for effect. I have only ever once told a complete stranger to fuck off and even I was surprised!

I love a bit of swearing me

@EatYourVegetables

People just don’t talk like that in my area

Here, have a from us riff-raff then.

‘But you're trying to say that outside of your job, people who swear are more likely to have struggles and be less reliable, which is total BS.’

I would say needs not than struggles.

Isn’t it commonly accepted that people swear to show they are having a strong reaction to something?

I doubt very many people never swear. I’m all in favour of people saying fuck and cunt in a sexual situation.

But swearing in everyday speech is supposed to signify your emotional regulation isn’t it?

I can swear like a navvy on shore leave when it's required.
I like creative swearing and think it helps to ram a point home sometimes.

I try not to swear in front of children, in my job or at people doing their jobs.

I dislike listening to people whose vocabulary is so stunted that they use fucking as an exclamation point in every sentence, though. But that's mostly because I can be a massive judgemental snob.