Do you view someone differently if they swear?

[Speckledhem]

I don’t really mind the odd swear word - I swear myself from time to time, but why do people swear inappropriately as in normal sentences or use the C word? Its not that it offends, It’s just really quite repulsive both spoken or written down, I just switch off and lose any respect I would have had for this person.

Is it a regional thing? People just don’t talk like that in my area

Sorry should have said ‘needs rather than struggles.’

I swear like a trooper and make no apologies for it. It's expressive and a sign of intelligence.

Never in front of kids, obviously.

I swear a lot, too much really, and don't even notice I do it half the time. I work for myself so nobody to curb it for while I'm at work either!

Becoming a parent has meant I try a lot harder not to in front of my son, but I can't claim to be whiter than white in my efforts.

If people want to judge me for it, fuck them.

I think there’s a difference between f, b and c* every other word and using the occasional swear word.

I wouldn’t bat an eye at occasional use but would avoid someone who couldn’t get through a sentence without swearing, in my experience they’re usually rather stress I’ve personalities

*aggressive

@EatYourVegetables

People just don’t talk like that in my area

Here, have a from us riff-raff then.

She probably only eats biscuits from Fortnums. None of your jammy dodger crap round her end.

Depends. With some people its just how they speak and how people around them have spoken all their lives. Its part of who they are. With other people I find it almost embarrassing, because its so obviously done for affect. Otherwise very respectable and conventional people throwing in swear words to be cool and rebellious makes me blush a little at how daft they sound. I suspect a lot of the swearing on here is in that category. Doesn't offend me though and sometimes the more creative use of swear words amuses me.

I wouldn’t say I judge but I feel intimidated by it and I tend to get quiet because I was bullied for not swearing enough in school.

I’m not bothered by strong emotional reaction swearing, just the every other word type.

@Comedycook

I judge if the swearing is just part of speech rather than to convey a particular feeling. So if you stub your toe and say shit...fine. If you say "do you have milk in your fucking cup of tea?". I judge hard.

Hahahaha I like this.

Im the above. I would swear to convey a feeling but not just for the sake of it. It wouldn't offend me if someone swore alot I probably wouldn't even notice. I live in East London so pretty normal here!

I judge people where every other word is swearing - not to add emphasis or denote anger etc., just ebcause they don't seem to realise how often they use it. My neighbour is like this - an average sentence is "I went to the fucking gym, had to wait fucking ages for the fucking weights, pressed fucking 120 like a little fucking boy, for fucks sake." Or "Put the pizza in the fucking oven at fucking 180 fucking says on the fucking box innit are you fucking stupid."
Not exaggerating in the slightest. Don't see how this can be a sign of intelligence as per the studies above. They've got a 7 year old kid and he and his partner not only swear constantly in front of her (as per the above) but directly at her, calling her fucking useless etc. That I judge too.
General swearing between adults I couldn't care less about.

I swear a moderate amount but have always known when not to, and from a young age as my parents always swore in front of me, but not at me, there is a difference. So I never swore at school, and now never swear at work, in front of my grandma, or in various other social settings. I am not offended by swearing at all and I think it is a useful part of one’s vocabulary and the English language, but it isn’t appropriate in some settings.

I’m more likely to judge someone who judges swearing, than judge a swearer though.

I would judge someone for swearing at somebody, as I don't think there is any need for people to be abusive, whether that includes swearing or not.

I wouldn't judge people at all for just using a word as a means of expressing themselves. They're just words. Why on earth would I get upset about a random collection of letters or sounds? Tbh, I'd be more likely to judge a person who started clutching their pearls over the use of a word than the person who actually used it.

I feel a bit attacked 🤣

Makes no difference to me but yet another thread highlighting to me how many things other Mumsnetters are judging me for. 🙄

It is very, very rare that I swear.
Parents always drummed it into my siblings and I that “swearing is a sign of poor vocabulary” 🤔😂

The last time I swore was last year, when Dd informed me on WhatsApp that she had COVID (she was stuck at uni away from home.)

I do tend to see swearing as a negative trait.

I'm not bothered generally but it does make me cringe sometimes if people use it frequently during a normal conversation. But I think that's just because I don't swear very often myself, when I do it's usually because I'm angry and frustrated.

Middle middle class people think swearing is awful and a sign of being lower class. Very highly educated, professional people (in my experience, anyway) all swear (albeit not at people/in front of children) and sneer slightly at the middle class squeamishness about it.

@Comedycook

I judge if the swearing is just part of speech rather than to convey a particular feeling. So if you stub your toe and say shit...fine. If you say "do you have milk in your fucking cup of tea?". I judge hard.

i'm on this sort of level of judginess

Nope but I swear like a trooper too, not sure why

@cuntness 🤣 love it!

I think I judge more on people's ability to read the room/adjust to a situation so swearing in front of other people's young children, or in a non-sweary workplace (I've worked in sweary and non-sweary and in the latter it's just a convention that swearing is for the pub after work).

@Speckledhem oh you were on the other thread about the supermarket conversion, you got upset about the op calling the dad a cunt. If that story is true the op was right he is a cunt.

No, some of my nicest, poshest friends swear like troupers. But they know when to and when not to.
DS is at an independent school and out of school the pupils are potty mouthed bad are most of their parents but I’m school there is zero tolerance so they all sound like posh t#ts.
You would never hear me swear in my professional environment but out of earshot it’s a different story. Most people would be astonished by my language. I think it’s offensive when directed at someone but as an exclamation or indirectly it’s fine.

I rarely swear nor does anyone I mix with. If someone swears in my company I will pull them up and ask them to not use such foul language for which there is no excuse.

@WomanStanleyWoman

I judge people who don’t swear. I just know I’m going to find them a bit pious and po-faced.

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