To not want to drive 40 minutes to return a Jam Jar?

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A family member (partners side) made us all Jam for Christmas last year, lovely gift and was very nice.

They now want all the Jars back to do it again they are like Kilner Jars (just not branded I don't think) I do still have it in the random Tupperware cupboard.

I would have to drive 40 minutes to return the Jar DH thinks I should as it is thiers. I just said it was a gift and I am happy to not receive any Jam this year to avoid this. We wont see them between now and Christmas. He thinks I'm being unreasonable?

DH can't drive and there is no public transport to where they live!

@Lamaitresse

How ridiculous. Of course you shouldn’t drive that far for a jam jar. Is your husband scared of them or something?

They are wealthy- it's amazing the lengths that people will go to in order to appease wealthy relatives. Sometimes it's done in the hope of a later inheritance, but sometimes just because they feel less important.

I would probably keep the peace, drive over and see it as an opportunity to do something else at the same time. A nice lunch maybe. As I’ve got older I’ve started to see things differently and now try to avoid falling out over things like this

Yeah…. F**k that.

I'm sorry but this is a new level of hilarious 🤣🤣

I have re-watched the Friends episode with Monica's Jam plan because of this thread!
What's the opposite of man? JAM!

Perhaps say you’ll use it to give them homemade chutney, candle, mixed nuts or something and you’ll give it to them on Christmas Day.
That way you’ll be covered. Good luck x

@TyrannysaurusXXrightshoarder

Oh, I read your title and assumed you’d gone all cockney. But no, they really do want an actual jam jar back.

This made me laugh way too hard

@Owl55

I suppose if she had bought say 8 jars at £5 each and got none of them back it’s a shame if she has to buy more but it’s a long way to return a jar! Amazon one back!

and the other angle would be that she made 8 gifts that cost £5 plus sugar and fruit each so maybe £7 at most, and while it was lovely for the time and thought and effort in making it £7 for a prezzie is pretty damm good

@Wnikat

Amazon them a new one

What a great idea!

I'd have probably said something like "sorry I'm not able to drive an 80 minute round trip to return a jar but happy to transfer you a few quid to replace it, please don't worry about making any for us this year."

Oh dear, I'm so sorry but it got dropped by one of the children using it to carry some water for their painting.

I would say you accidently smashed it, and you are so sorry, that you wouldnt expect the person to give you any more jam as punishment lol

did they ask for the wrapping paper (or gift bag or hamper etc...) back aswell?

Its packaging, you don't get the packaging back.

Oops sorry it fell off the counter and broke...

@MoonahStone

Just tell them the jar was your favourite bit of the gift

That made me cackle.

That reply is hilarious and bonkers. I don't really want to drive all the way there, but you are expected to return it to them for the privilege! Just use a bloody old jam jar? 🤷‍♀️That's what my friend does.

Send message back I don't like your fucking jam anyway

Husband should post it back.

Is this the jar that unfortunately broke when the dog knocked It off the table?

Ridiculous request.

@jollie99 why should a fucking idiot be pandered too though. You wouldn't encourage this sort of behaviour in your children, you'd attempt to try and change it!

Tell them your husband has been masturbating into it, but you're quite happy to wash and return of needed- sorry I'm very childish 🤦‍♀️

I wouldn’t even bother seeing them. Who gets like this over a jar?

Bonkers. Of course the jar should be considered part of the present. I have occasionally given home made presents. Sometimes alcoholic gifts in fancy bottles which I bought specially and never expected back. Also baked things for which I acquired a suitable container - tins or plastic boxes, again never expecting them back.

If she really wanted the jars returned then she definitely should have made it clear at the outset. It would still have been tight though.

How about making her some jam or chutney for Christmas and use the same jar? You could alternate yeas of using it

Can't believe we are onto page 14 of thid dilemma!

This!

Your DH could post it. End of story

I make preserves and like to get jars, bottles back. I have a niece in a different city not near at all she brings them back when she is passing or the next Christmas. Surely she has some spare ones she can use then get the old ones on Christmas day. Bloody ridicules, blame the petrol it's a fortune now.

YABU because you can wrap it carefully and post it.