To not want to drive 40 minutes to return a Jam Jar?

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A family member (partners side) made us all Jam for Christmas last year, lovely gift and was very nice.

They now want all the Jars back to do it again they are like Kilner Jars (just not branded I don't think) I do still have it in the random Tupperware cupboard.

I would have to drive 40 minutes to return the Jar DH thinks I should as it is thiers. I just said it was a gift and I am happy to not receive any Jam this year to avoid this. We wont see them between now and Christmas. He thinks I'm being unreasonable?

DH can't drive and there is no public transport to where they live!

I hate this iPad. If changes so many words.

I wonder if you’d said you’d broken it, if the mad woman would have requested you buy her a new one?!

YANBU. I love their response "I don't really want to drive all the way there"... no but it is ok to expect you to make the same trip!

Your initial reply was good, showing that you don't expect any jam.

They are silly expecting everyone to return them.

Well done OP.

She seems pretty entitled she asks you to return the jar, yet when you suggest she can pick it up, the journey is too long for her.

Is this the jar?
www.wilko.com/en-uk/wilko-1l-glass-jar/p/0478266

@AnneB78

if the petrol is an issue have you considered cycling there and back?

40 minutes each way in the car?? You want OP to spend all day cycling around to give back a £1.50 jam jar for jam she doesn't even want

I may be wrong

I love it when people say this, and then say something absolutely fucking batshit crazy like it might be theft to keep the jar

Thanks for the laugh @AnneB78

@AnneB78

Well I'm not sure the friend would do this, but surely if she is demanding her jar back and not returning it then it could be construed as theft? I may be wrong but if it was me I would make sure it was returned asap

Haha, you are very much wrong.

Tell them you unfortunately broke the jar and you shouldn't be trusted to receive another .

Who the fuck asks for a poxy jam jar back?
I can't believe how bonkers this is!
Do they think their homemade jam is so fabulous that you don't mind returning the jar 40 minutes there and 40 minutes back?

That's just crazy. Glad you stood up to them

She’s crackers! Is this going to be an annual thing? She makes the jam, you eat the jam, you return the jar, she makes the jam.....on it goes forever more!

Great thread! Absolute crazy talk. Who returns a 10 month old jam jar? Tell her it’s been recycled 🤣

It was a gift! Unbelievably tight, unless they're skinter than skint.

This is going to be one of those thread where in 3 weeks time people are still going to be suggesting the OP posts it back.

Is this seriously real?
Tell her that in your haste to lovingly bubble wrap it and send it by Royal Mail 1st class Tracked Delivery, you knocked it on the floor and it broke!
Problem solved.

@123ZYX

Take some Tupperware with you to Christmas this year.

That way, if you do get given more jam, you can immediately scrape it out into the Tupperware and hand the jar back. I'm sure she'll be thrilled to get it back to quickly

🤣🤣🤣🤣

Opps. You just got the jar out to return it and dropped it. Seriously though the jar is “part” of the present for you to use surely.

I think they were being unreasonable in foisting their jam on you and pretending it is a gift. I have a friend who insists on making jam to give as Christmas presents and I hate it. I don’t want your jam! If I wanted jam, I’d go to the supermarket and buy a jar of jam for a quid.

@SunshineCake1

I make mince meat and give to two people who always return the jars. If I have to a friend who I isn't live near or see often I wouldn't ask for the jar back. If they offered on the next visit I would accept.

Post it back. Don't Amazon them a new one.

I wish I was your friend, I love mincemeat.

@thevassal

Tell them you recycled it/it smashed accidentally. Say you understand if that means you don't get jam that year. 40 minutes each way or 40 mins in total? Either way that's, what, between 3-8 quid for a jar!!! No thanks id rather buy my own jam!

Why lie? Just say you can’t drive it to them but they are welcome to collect it, you’ll leave it on the step in case you’re out 🤷🏻‍♀️

Well I'm not sure the friend would do this, but surely if she is demanding her jar back and not returning it then it could be construed as theft? I may be wrong but if it was me I would make sure it was returned asap

I can only assume that’s a massive joke. The jar was part of a GIFT. It’s not theft to keep your gift ffs.

Irrespective, how full do you think courts would be if they took on jam jar cases.

Oops sorry Auntie, we gave it to the cricket club for their New Year's Eve tombola.

@AnneB78

if the petrol is an issue have you considered cycling there and back?

One of the best comments I've ever read on here ,🤣🤣 40 mins each way is car? Let's assume it's a slow journey through town that's probably at least a 60 mile round trip 🤣🤣🤣

Yanbu
Yes Relative is being ridiculous to expect you to drive nearly and hour and half there and back all to return a £1.50 jam jar ..It's hardly an heirloom

Ofc the jamjar was part of the gift

-OP messaged aunt offering she could collect jar if she wanted it back
-Aunt's replied she doesn't want to drive to collect it
-Meh
-And aunt has said those who don't return empty jars won't get jam next year - RESULT!!

I wouldn't want any more jam either as she'd expect you to drive that empty jam jar back too!!

I hate unsolicited presents with unspoken strings attached

I'd pass on said old jam jar to family when you see them, who can return it with theirs if they are enamoured of her jam . Just say to your family don't want anymore jam thankyou and if you get given any, give it straight back to your parents with a no thanks.

@Wnikat

Amazon them a new one

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