Are you responsible for having your husband's work clothes ready and get told off if he can't find stuff ??

[fussytodd]

I'm guessing a lot of people will say NO.

It's really grating on me.

No, he coped just fine before he married me and contines to. He's a grown man after all.

My husband irons his own shirts.
Why do people tolerate this nonsense?

Erm NO!!! Laundry is fully 50:50 in this house, and if you know you want something for work, you make sure yourself that it's washed!

Not a chance

I haven't put anyone's clothes out since my kids were about 2 or 3 and I'm certainly not going to putting out clothes for a grown man

All the wives in my family do this.

Ok, that explains it then.

Just as a comparison, the division of labour (this has never been discussed, it just ‘is’) in our house is this…

Me
Meal planning
(Online) food shopping
Cooking
Family admin, e.g. finances
Sorting childcare (easy now 2 teenagers, although both with SEN so some childcare still required)
Most DIY

DH
Washing up/cleaning the kitchen after every meal
Cleaning
Laundry
Ironing
Feeding the pets
Garden
Bins

Even with the above list, my bit takes longer.

Honestly… it’s not normal to get your husbands clothes ready. Really it isn’t. There’s no excuse for him being grumpy if he can’t find things in the morning… he should be getting things ready the night before.

It’s ok for you to be annoyed about this OP… and to require that he does better.

"All the wives.."

So what. Times have changed if they hadn't noticed.

I don't think my oh would ever dream of even attempting to tell me off 🤣🤣 he isn't that brave. He finds his own clothes and if its not clean then it's his own tough

No. My DH is an adult with a very busy job but also perfectly able to behave as an adult and dress himself in clothes he cleans himself 🤷‍♀️

He is an adult. Why can't he sort his own clothes out?
I know people who pack for their husbands/partners, and am baffled as to why they can't do this themselves. I have never packed for DH because he is a grown up and can think for himself and I am not a 1950s housewife

Hahaha. Of course not. He’s ironing his shirts right now while I lie on sofa.

Ask yourself: what would he do if he lived on his own? He'd have to work it out for himself. So tell him he may have to find that out pretty soon if he doesn't grow the f* up

@RampantIvy

He is an adult. Why can't he sort his own clothes out? I know people who pack for their husbands/partners, and am baffled as to why they can't do this themselves. I have never packed for DH because he is a grown up and can think for himself and I am not a 1950s housewife

Oh yeah FUCK packing for him. I know he'd love it if I did and my MIL has asked me before trips whether he's all ready. I've told her to please ask her son as he is a grown up.

Is there something wrong with his peepee that's stopping him sort his own clothes? A GP appointment then maybe..?

All the wives in my family do this.
At first I read this as all the wives to one husband.

Anyway, no. It’s not 1932.

No, I do the washing. DP knows he'll find his clean clothes in the ironing basket waiting for him to iron them and put them away himself.

How do these situations even begin I cannot begin to contemplate

@Imposterish

How do these situations even begin I cannot begin to contemplate

Different life styles

I do his, I do everyone’s. Never ever a word of thanks, just expected. Yes it pisses me off, yes I feel like a servant.

It’s fine on way to long now for any of them to change. My own fault really. Just trying to be nice....

So because you work from home and are therefore at home more you’re also a domestic servant?

Oh….. and when an ex boyfriend used to throw his dirty clothes on the floor next to the wash bin, I’d put them back in the wardrobe.

He’d take them out of the wardrobe, clock they were dirty, then put them on the floor again.

Back they’d go in the wardrobe. Every time. .

1 meltdown a couple of weeks later after pulling not having any clean clothes, resulted in a request to ‘fucking well put them in the wash bin then, I’m not your fucking servant’.

The lesson was learned.

I suggest something similar. A couple of pink shirt, yellow tie combinations ought to do it if you really can’t face having it out with him.

Not a chance! He's capable of sorting himself out. We both work full time...

I'm a housewife and absolutely not!
I do try and make sure I've washed his stuff but only if he's actually put it in the basket.. ill make sure I've got some of his work stuff in a Sunday wash etc...
But absolutely not would I go put of my way to make sure it was all ready for him beyond that.. thats his responsibility

Well I wash his clothes and put them away as we share a wardrobe. But I doubt he'd vent his frustrations on me if he couldn't find clothes.

This is so weird ??!! I never understand this ? Does he get your clothes ready for you ?

Did he not work or wash clothes before he met you ?

My partner is 32 and washes his own work clothes separately from regular clothes.
He even dresses himself in them in the mornings!!!

No not a chance!

My MIL stopped running around after her Sons after primary school...

So he was well trained when I married him.

He wouldn't dream of asking me where anything was, or if it's clean.