Are you responsible for having your husband's work clothes ready and get told off if he can't find stuff ??

[fussytodd]

I'm guessing a lot of people will say NO.

It's really grating on me.

" told off"?

Are you a child?

I find the phrase "Sorry, I mistook you for a fully capable adult" does the trick.

No. Fuck that. I do most of the washing, so if he puts stuff in the basket it likely gets washed and dried. He irons, he makes sure he has it ready. I’m not his mother. I wouldn’t in a million years expect him to think about whether I had clean tights for work (for example).

Nope. This would be ridiculous in my relationship.

I mean I don't know if he ' tells me off '. He just gets really grumpy and has a go at me at 5 am and wakes me from my sleep and makes me feel like shit, if he can't find a clean shirt or socks.
You know you can live alone, and sleep past 5am, and not feel like shit, and not do anyone else’s laundry. It’s an option and a GREAT one.

No of course not. Why would you be?

No, dp is currently ironing shirts for the week. He's an adult

He wakes you at 5am ?

That is abusive.

Though I do tend to do the laundry because I'm pt

Yes and i am pissed off about it he is such a knob about his clothes it's a massive bone of contention he also doesn't put his clothes away and wants me to do that
I am a sahm but he's still a grownup and can put them away

My husband is a gas engineer if that resonates so basically wears work clothes and needs all
Of them cleaned all of the time
He complains when he can't find work socks etc

Really upsets me

Responsible for washing and ironing it, yes. But not for putting it out for him and wouldn't get shouted at if not ready.

I don't get shouted out but he moans and projects when he can't find his stuff which I think he could put away TBH

My DH ONCE told me he’d run out of socks-note the once. He hasn’t told me that since, I think my reaction may have been less than servile. 🤣 To be fair, he ends up doing all of the cooking/dog walking due to me getting home later than him. I’m happy to reciprocate with washing/cleaning etc.

Nope. He irons his own shirts and does the majority of the cooking as well!

Fuck that. Where's your self respect?

God no. I do do most of the laundry as it happens (I prefer to), and try and make sure he doesn't run out of pants, etc, but that's just part of the whole job of getting the washing done. I never iron his stuff or get involved in what he wears in any other way.

No, I do the laundry (DH has ruined my clothes on several occasions by not reading washing/ironing instructions so I've told him if he wants to do any washing, he does his stuff /towels/bedding and leaves my stuff alone) but I'm not responsible for having anything "ready" and I would not take kindly to being "told off".

Mm no I’m not his maid. I generally do all the washing so I hung his stuff in with everything else. Sometimes I iron the DCs uniforms and he does his stuff, sometimes he irons all of it.

So, @fussytodd, you've said that this annoys you. You've seen that it is not the norm for wives to feel obliged to do this. The question is, what are you going to do about it? Have you told him that you're no longer sorting this crap out for him?

God no, I’m his wife not his mother. And tbh my daughters wouldn’t do this either.

Reading this makes me determined to never be someones wife ever again!

Hahaha, I don't even do that for my DC a lot of the time. He is being VVU. You're not a maid.

I don't think it matters whether you are part time, a sahp I don't believe that it's normal to be expected to prepare your partners clothing for them. Unless you are their carer. It's stepping into maid/servant territory.

I'm part time and do much more of the house work but everyone does their bit. Dh is perfectly capable of cleaning, doing the washing, cooking or anything else that's needed.

Am I fuck. Why would I be?

I do most of the washing as he does most of the cooking and cleaning. But if he wanted something specific he’d ask me nicely or do it himself!