Are you responsible for having your husband's work clothes ready and get told off if he can't find stuff ??

[fussytodd]

I'm guessing a lot of people will say NO.

It's really grating on me.

21 years ago he hopefully presented me with a shirt to iron.

I have never ironed a shirt for him. He does a really good job after 20 odd years of doing his own!

It's really grating on me.

Stop doing it then. His expectations are unreasonable but you have been compliant, tell him you're not doing it anymore and stop.

Who does he think does the organising for people who live alone and have hectic schedules? It's not housekeeping/PA fairies, it's adults taking responsibility for getting their own shit together.

Most definitely not.

However, my DH is constantly losing stuff and we are all expected to drop everything to help find it. It is very annoying. I'm just grateful his cock and balls are not detachable.

No, but I do pretty much all the laundry so I keep on top of making sure everyone's clothes are washed and put away.

No, because he’s not my child.

That is ridiculous. How long has this been going on?

DH does most of the washing and ironing of my work clothes but if I needed anything in particular I would sort it out.

I am also capable of organising everything I need for work the night before.

Your DH is being ridiculous.

Just tell him that you're not doing it any more. As of now. He is capable of doing it himself.

Am I fuck.

OP… he is a grown adult. You are not his mother.

God, how fucking depressing that some people live like this and have been gaslit so much, they wonder if it’s normal.

First yes of the post … well kind of.

I do all the washing, drying, folding, putting away, etc in this house. I have always had DP’s work clothes ready for him. He wouldn’t tell me off if there weren’t any ready in the morning but he would probably wonder why the hell it hadn’t been done and check I’d sorted it that evening ready for the next day.

Waking you up from sleep is not OK. Does he do anything else that could be seen as abusive? Because that could be.

No because it's not 1952

I assume he has an important job, yes?

If he can hold an important job down he can hunt down socks in his own house

No. I married an adult.

The 1950's have just called and asked you to return there.

@mommathatwearspink

First yes of the post … well kind of.

I do all the washing, drying, folding, putting away, etc in this house. I have always had DP’s work clothes ready for him. He wouldn’t tell me off if there weren’t any ready in the morning but he would probably wonder why the hell it hadn’t been done and check I’d sorted it that evening ready for the next day.

And why the hell wouldn’t you do it?

@H8H8H8

Am I fuck.

OP… he is a grown adult. You are not his mother.

God, how fucking depressing that some people live like this and have been gaslit so much, they wonder if it’s normal.

All the wives in my family do this. I'm by far the one that does the least for her husband, because I outsource the ironing of the shirts ! I also don't always have dinner on the table and get take aways when I don't manage to cook.

No. Wow.

No I’m not even allowed to look at his chefs whites after I tried to help out once and dyed them all green…

He does all the laundry because I can’t be assed to separate stuff and he’s really anal about it.

Ha ha this reminds me of a conversation me and DH had yesterday where he said I had 'lost his socks'. I told him I got fed up of trying to match them and he could sort them himself as I manage to have a full draw full of matching socks. I told him to F off (polite version as DD 8 was there).
On a serious note, I do all the washing as if left to him he would be too scared to wash a lot of my stuff. He will fold and sort clean stuff if I ask him to but normally I do it. He irons his own stuff. I give him his and dd hers to put away. He wouldn't expect me to make sure he has clean stuff though. He sorts his stuff out the day before he's in work.

It would be the last thing he ever did if I was woken at 5am & told off. My DH always sorted out clothes for trips the day before...

I don't even know where his clothes go in his room.

Sounds abusive to me.

21 years ago he hopefully presented me with a shirt to iron.

In my imagination your eyebrows made words redundant and he's never dared to ask again.

Haven't you posted about this before?

Nope.

I do make his lunches though, my choice.