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To think this kitchen is lovely and not too girlie?

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wheretherainblows · 13/10/2021 20:28

We are thinking about getting our kitchen done and looking for some inspiration. I've found one that I absolutely love, but my husband thinks it's minging and too 'girlie' for a man to live in.

AIBU to think this is gorgeous and not too feminine?

To think this kitchen is lovely and not too girlie?
To think this kitchen is lovely and not too girlie?
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Bimblybomeyelash · 13/10/2021 21:56

It looks properly girlie girlie to me. It’s not just the pink, its the pale pink with white and grey and rose gold. There’s nothing wrong with girlie, but it’s not my thing at all even though I’m a ’girl’ , it looks like a the sort of colour scheme I’d imagine Mrs Hinch to have in her kitchen.

thewhatsit · 13/10/2021 21:57

Girlie is the wrong word but if he doesn’t like it, he doesn’t like it so you can find something else. It’s not to my tastes personally either.

HuhWhatNow · 13/10/2021 22:00

I reckon my husband would quite like that. Not that he ever uses the kitchen (other than making the world's best cups of tea.) because I am the chef here.
DH's favourite bedding set is the pink one and will always pop that on the bed when changing it before he even looks at all the rest of the sets we have.

LoveGrooveDanceParty · 13/10/2021 22:02

Why is this even an issue?

If you’re doing a reno, and one of you thinks a particular design is ‘mingling’, then it’s not an option.

It’s really not to my taste at all, so I can’t blame him for not liking it. I wouldn’t want a ‘girlie’ kitchen either, because I’m not a 5 year old girl.

He’s allowed his own tastes and opinions.

Anonymous48 · 13/10/2021 22:03

I think your husband is being unreasonable for saying it's "too girly", whatever that means, but it's definitely feminine. And personally I really dislike it. It looks very dated with the shiny cabinets and wooden surface. Just not attractive at all.

DoYouLikeOwls · 13/10/2021 22:03

@HuhWhatNow

I reckon my husband would quite like that. Not that he ever uses the kitchen (other than making the world's best cups of tea.) because I am the chef here. DH's favourite bedding set is the pink one and will always pop that on the bed when changing it before he even looks at all the rest of the sets we have.
This made me smile. I love a pretty flowered duvet and DH secretly loves them too. I can tell.
TwinsandTrifle · 13/10/2021 22:05

I don't think he means girly as in too feminine. I think he means it as "little girl/childish"

I think it looks like a play kitchen and pp thought it looked like a blown up dolls house. And not in a cute way.

Either way, he's expressed he doesn't like it, he isn't going to change his mind because a few randoms on the internet don't mind it.

eeek88 · 13/10/2021 22:05

If you do a manly kitchen with the severed heads of wild boar and other dangerous beasts mounted prominently, and a knife rack big enough for a few axes, would this mean he does all the cooking and washing up?

midsummabreak · 13/10/2021 22:05

Do you and your husband equally share the meal preparation and kitchen work Op? If you both spend a lot of time in the kitchen it’s important you have equal say on colour themes, appliances etc. If it’s all on you, which it sounds like, as your Dh thinks cooking is also too ‘girlie’ for him, then go for it and get the kitchen looking the way that you love spending time in.

Sweetmotherofallthatisholyabov · 13/10/2021 22:06

I think it looks girlie- and by that I mean it looks like it's been picked out by a young girl. I don't think the pink wall, rose gold handles, pink lights, pink flowers or pink kettle and toaster actually complement each other at all and it feels like they were all picked because they were pink- so that's why I'd call it girly. The ultimate girl gang on insta has a pink Aga and I wouldn't call her kitchen girlie and I follow a fab American account called young house love and they also have tons of pink and mint accents to a neutral toned kitchen and I wouldn't call that girlie.

PersonaNonGarter · 13/10/2021 22:07

C’mon, let the man express his opinions about his own house. Just do a different colour.

midsummabreak · 13/10/2021 22:08

Ha ha ha getting that masculine kitchen is much better idea if your Dh thinks that’s what makes him comfortable to step foot in the kitchen without his testicles shrivelling when he prepares meals in there!!

Luckingfovely · 13/10/2021 22:09

The kitchen is horrible anyway.

You need to find a compromise with your husband that you both like, as you both have to live with it.

Calling it girlie was dickish, but he's probably just trying to get across that he really doesn't like it. Stupid and dickish word to use though in any given circumstance.

whynotwhatknot · 13/10/2021 22:10

i dont like the pink but cant you have the wall any colour

GingerGill · 13/10/2021 22:11

Not girly per se but bloody awful!

ChewtonRoad · 13/10/2021 22:12

I like most shades of pink. I dislike the shade of pink in the OP's post because it's an apologetic non-colour that doesn't seem to know what it wants to be and as such is as bland as a glass of tepid water. The light fittings don't work with the rest of the kitchen.

silverbubbles · 13/10/2021 22:14

I agree with you husband

ShagMeRiggins · 13/10/2021 22:14

These are more stereotypically “girly” Hmm kitchens.

Your photos are a neutral kitchen, even if a bit of colour is pink.

How much time will your husband spend prepping in, cooking in, washing in, and cleaning the kitchen? Just curious.

To think this kitchen is lovely and not too girlie?
To think this kitchen is lovely and not too girlie?
StoneofDestiny · 13/10/2021 22:15

Don't like the mismatched units and central aisle, the lighting or the wall colour.

Lovesicecreams · 13/10/2021 22:17

YABU

Ozberry · 13/10/2021 22:19

I didn’t notice it was pink. I was too busy looking at the units and worktops, but also Im a bit colourblind with pinks.
I see grey/beige instead. Maybe go with the white and wood scheme and tone down the pink to a more neutral shade - which I think is probably what Im looking at.
It didn’t look girlie to me.

Hadjab · 13/10/2021 22:19

@Warmduscher

What do people mean when they say they “don’t like to see appliances”?

We had a new kitchen fitted when we moved into our new house in May of this year - our appliances were all working fine so we brought them with us, rather than send them to landfill so we could get new ones. This means you can see our washing machine and dishwasher but i don’t understand why that’s considered such a bad thing?

Yeah, I’ve never understood this 🤷‍♀️
midsummabreak · 13/10/2021 22:23

I agree with @MrsTerryPratchett its not ok to use ‘girlie’ as an swipe

EdgeOfTheSky · 13/10/2021 22:24

It’s a mess design and layout wise.

Bunnycat101 · 13/10/2021 22:24

I get the ‘seeing appliances’ thing. For a newish kitchen I’d expect them to be integrated for a neater finish. Ours are open ( desperate to re-do the kitchen but can’t justify it) and in the OP’s photos the open alliances do look a bit mismatched. I think that is why some people are getting dolls house vibes as well.