So his reasoning is that I would still be doing the same amount of childcare as I am doing now, so it doesn’t make any difference to me.
Is he really that thick? I actually think not. he knows exactly what he is doing.
He is in a position to be able to take some of the burden away from you and he is absolutely choosing not to do that.
There is no compromise on his part anywhere in this. Its like he wants to live like a single bloke, but with the benefit of someone to cook, clean, sort the kids, pay the bills and have sex with.
The mere fact that he is saying you won't be doing more is mad. No, quite possibly you won't be doing more. But he is not in any way shape or form making your life any easier AT ALL when he has the opportunity to do so. There is no balance.
I can't get my head around how anyone could actually be that selfish.
I think you need to sit him down and talk over what the split currently actually is. What you do V what he does. He needs to see this to start with. In black and white as he clearly does not get it!
And THEN you need to work all of that house/kids/everyday LIFE stuff and split it proportionately to each of your working hours. So that you are both working the same amount, be that in employment earning the money or in the house keeping things going there.
He is basically saying you have to do, for example, 40 hours paid employment and lets say 20 hours house/childcare etc. So 60 for you per week.
And he is going to do 20 hours paid employment, and 20 hours house/childcare etc, so 40 for him per week.
No Buddy. That number needs to be split evenly. OP your house/childcare needs to reduce by 10 and his increased by 10 so you are doing the same 'number of hours' each week.
Honestly what kind of man lets his wife take all the slack like that while he swans off and does what he wants?